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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Son's love of mess and disorder causing me meltdowns |
| purplefeet |
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Posted: 24 Dec 2014, 3:55 am
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Replies: 16
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| We also used to lock away the toothpaste etc as well. It was more of a pain to get ready in the morning but it was better than cleaning toothpaste off the walls. |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Son's love of mess and disorder causing me meltdowns |
| purplefeet |
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Posted: 24 Dec 2014, 3:52 am
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Replies: 16
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| You will have to agree with your wife what measures to take but I have been in a similar situation with my stepson. We used locks on high risk areas. So the food cupboard (still) has a lock on it. My belongings are always somewhere he's not going to be looking, etc. His bedroom is a real mess but we... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Help. If you can spare five minutes just, help me |
| purplefeet |
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Posted: 27 Jan 2014, 4:38 pm
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Replies: 8
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| Relationships at all levels can be harsh. I don't know what will help you right now but I would advise getting some sleep/rest from your problems if you can. They may be more clear afterwards. And try not to guess what other people are feeling or thinking. It is the cause of about 80% of my issues w... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: delayed responses to things |
| purplefeet |
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Posted: 27 Jan 2014, 2:43 am
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Replies: 6
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| Does anyone experience subconsacious reations to things. An example would be that my regular pharmacy was changed and I thought that i'd adjusted well but I ended up disputing/arguing with the pharmacist at the new chemist. I hate conflict and always end up shaking afterwards from the fear.Even now... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Does the IEP classification matter? |
| purplefeet |
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Posted: 30 Dec 2013, 4:27 pm
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Replies: 13
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| Interesting topic from a UK perspective as nothing is guaranteed here, even with a diagnosis of ASD. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Uninformed NTs |
| purplefeet |
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Posted: 23 Dec 2013, 6:05 am
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Replies: 17
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| Well I'd never heard of it 10 years ago and now both myself and my son are diagnosed so it is not necessarily always NT's who are ignorant. If you've never knowingly come across it you're not bound to know anything are you? |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Dealing with Jealousy? |
| purplefeet |
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Posted: 19 Dec 2013, 7:11 pm
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Replies: 9
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| Are you sure it is jealousy? Could it be something else? I certainly feel a negative emotion when people like what I like. It is hard to explain but I do feel kind of possessive over it but I think it's because it feels like it is part of *me* and they are invading my personal space by being attache... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Jobs that I have trouble working |
| purplefeet |
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Posted: 19 Dec 2013, 7:01 pm
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Replies: 6
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| You should make your own decisions for yourself. No one else will know what you find difficult/impossible, only you. If you feel you can give it a go then do, with an eye on seeing it as an experiment, maybe? It won't necessarily be a job for life. On the other hand, if you already know it's going t... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: I believe my son may have HFA |
| purplefeet |
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Posted: 19 Dec 2013, 6:52 pm
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Replies: 14
Views: 1,212
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| Thanks Purplefeet. Those are good tips about printing out his schedule. He used to have a calendar, but we stole it off him, as we didn't think he needed it, but now I think about it he did seem to enjoy crossing off days. Our kids sound quite similar. He does need help at school, but has just had ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: I believe my son may have HFA |
| purplefeet |
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Posted: 19 Dec 2013, 5:31 pm
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| From your description of your son it does sound very plausible that he could have ASD. He sounds a lot like my son who is now 10 and was diagnosed at 5. Even down to the mazes. I would say my son is similar in numbers: 1 (when younger), 2, 3, 4, 5 (only now he's older), 6, 7, 8, 9 (when younger), 10... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Ever noticed this with Aspie People, does this annoy you? |
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Posted: 19 Dec 2013, 5:12 pm
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Replies: 30
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| Eureka makes a lot of sense I think. Also, as a young woman I was not particularly into having a boyfriend, BUT it was a "normal" thing to do, to want a boyfriend. I watched my friends meet boys and go out with them (and there are loads of other influences which are all telling you that from your mi... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: What are your thoughts on online dating? |
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Posted: 18 Dec 2013, 6:35 am
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Replies: 18
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| I met my boyfriend of nearly 4 years on a free dating site. It was full of people who I would not be compatible with. However, I searched for the criteria I was looking for and sent the first message. I didn't think he'd like me as the moment I saw his photo I just thought he was beautiful. But he d... |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: first gynecologist appt needed but extreme issues with it |
| purplefeet |
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Posted: 18 Dec 2013, 5:54 am
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Replies: 7
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| Hello I guess it depends on where you live but here in the UK there is no need for an examination before you start taking the contraceptive pill. I can't see how it would be insisted upon here if there are not medical reasons other than period heaviness and pain. These side effects of female-ness ar... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Do you "Adjust" to people? |
| purplefeet |
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Posted: 18 Dec 2013, 5:45 am
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Replies: 27
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| Yes. If there are people I can't do this with I tend not to like them. If there are people with whom it takes too much out of me (goes against my moral code, etc) I have to avoid them as I feel myself disappearing and becoming whatever they want me to be. Being "aloof" is a protection against this. |
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Forum: Random Discussion Topic: What would your heaven be? |
| purplefeet |
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Posted: 17 Dec 2013, 5:15 pm
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Replies: 46
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| Living in one of those cute tiny homes. Making it comfy and cosy. Log fire burning. Fairy lights all around. I'd have a cat to stroke, plenty of books, a bicycle to travel on. My boyfriend living nearby and staying over sometimes. Enough money to live a quiet simple life near a good library. Food/la... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Life Compartmentalizing |
| purplefeet |
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Posted: 17 Dec 2013, 4:58 pm
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Replies: 21
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| It often amazes me how other people's way of experiencing life matches my own here on WP. Skibum , I do compartmentalise a lot of things and I remember clearly in my late teens realising it is not always useful as it can add to the feeling that other people are 1 dimensional (and stereotyping them).... |
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