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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Has anyone else felt like social outcast/misfit? |
| MichaelBerkeley |
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Posted: 01 Aug 2012, 2:27 am
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Replies: 64
Views: 18,019
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Yeah, ... I was pretty much always picked last - if at all. Generally not invited to anything.
And ... years - decades -later - that's still about the same. |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Are you anyone's "best" friend? |
| MichaelBerkeley |
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Posted: 29 Jul 2012, 8:03 pm
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Replies: 34
Views: 4,335
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| Am I someone else's "best" friend? Probably - (recently) ex- significant other. I think I'm still - at least thus far, her "best friend" - despite that it's mostly just virtual - and always been far too much long distance and most all that time apart. And despite the fact that - at least for me - th... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Anyone feel lonely for years?? |
| MichaelBerkeley |
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Posted: 29 Jul 2012, 7:45 pm
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Replies: 25
Views: 3,975
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| “You can't stay in your corner of the Forest waiting for others to come to you. You have to go to them sometimes.” ― A.A. Milne, Winnie-the-Pooh Loneliness is terrible. The way to beat it is to go meet new people and find someone you like. Yes, it sounds simple, but I totally get how difficul... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Anyone feel like they don't fit in with people their own age |
| MichaelBerkeley |
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Posted: 29 Jul 2012, 7:32 pm
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Replies: 51
Views: 12,839
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| Don't think I generally ever fit in particularly well with "people my own age". As a kid, I generally "fit in with" and got along much better with older kids and adults. E.g. in elementary school, two of my best friends throughout most or all that time were about 2 or 3 years older than me. As a tee... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Men, what do you think of women who are quiet and shy? |
| MichaelBerkeley |
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Posted: 28 Jul 2012, 10:22 am
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Replies: 66
Views: 24,686
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| What a [girl] is like around me matters. [She] can be quiet, shy, etc. in social settings, but if [she] doesn't open up to me it's going nowhere. Yup, I quite agree - but more than that - at least for relationship, anyway. Namely, not only what is she like with/around me, but even much more importa... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: The Perils of Socialisation |
| MichaelBerkeley |
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Posted: 21 Jul 2012, 1:41 pm
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Replies: 5
Views: 1,459
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| Don't overextend yourselves. Not good for you, and also not good for her. She should learn to better take care of herself . Not that you can't help her out, etc., but too much is bad for you and your partner, and also bad, or at least not as good, for her. So, yeah, dial it back, don't burn yourselv... |
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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: Finally, a "real" introduction to me (probable asp |
| MichaelBerkeley |
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Posted: 21 Jul 2012, 6:26 am
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Replies: 16
Views: 2,622
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| Woo hoo! Finally today, I can actually include links in my posts here, and, the verboten letter sequence URL even. Geez, did take a while (and a lot more than 5 days + 5 posts). Anyway, backfilling some URLs from my earlier posts in this "thread": Asperger syndrome: rather to highly probable. Never ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: How many of you are on OKcupid? |
| MichaelBerkeley |
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Posted: 19 Jul 2012, 4:52 am
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Replies: 603
Views: 64,072
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| And how is it working for you? ⋅ I'm on there (just one of me - you did ask how many). ⋅ Working for me? Oh, pretty abysmal ... ⋅ but, that being said, works for me about ten times better than any other matchmaking/"dating" site I've every used or tried, so, ... in oth... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Question for the females. |
| MichaelBerkeley |
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Posted: 19 Jul 2012, 4:48 am
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Replies: 82
Views: 7,990
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| It's (mostly) what you're attracting and attracted to (and/or repelling or chasing away), even if not consciously or intentionally - at least if the numbers are "big enough" to bear it out statistically. E.g. one particular person I've known numerous decades has *always* had *bad* relationships - ty... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Does anyone feel like their parents don't care or love them? |
| MichaelBerkeley |
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Posted: 19 Jul 2012, 4:11 am
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Replies: 23
Views: 22,113
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| Unfortunately, one doesn't get to pick one's parents. My dad has made essentially zero effort to contact or communicate with me for nearly 30 years now. No phone call, no email, no mail, no nothing. Last time he moved, he didn't even tell any of his family at all. I still send him cards (Birthday, F... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Anyone 18+ and Never Kissed? |
| MichaelBerkeley |
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Posted: 19 Jul 2012, 3:54 am
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Replies: 45
Views: 7,471
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| I was 24. Don't feel rushed or pressured. Sure, earlier probably would've been better, but whatever, I had enough going on earlier as it was ... okay, so maybe nothing all that noteworthy relationship-wise earlier, but ... whatever. This applies to me at 19, who else is in this situation? I feel tha... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: What are the signs that people no longer like you? |
| MichaelBerkeley |
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Posted: 19 Jul 2012, 2:51 am
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Replies: 22
Views: 12,241
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| When they're making plans and credible death threats against you, their family is witnessing these threats, contacting you, suggesting it may be quite advisable to get a restraining order against them and watch your back, and that they're quite willing to go to court with you as witness to the threa... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Does anyone here not drink alcohol? |
| MichaelBerkeley |
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Posted: 19 Jul 2012, 2:16 am
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Replies: 67
Views: 8,741
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| I don't drink - haven't since before I was 21. So you want to go, go. You don't want to drink, don't drink ... drink, but not alcohol. It might be slightly more awkward than also drinking alcohol - like most everybody else, but it's not a big deal to not drink - wherever, whenever. Part of who you a... |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: When was the last time you got layed |
| MichaelBerkeley |
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Posted: 16 Jul 2012, 8:40 am
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Replies: 208
Views: 3,971
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| Did I win with 1995 or has anyone gone longer? Well, last time for me was somewhere in the 1995 to 1999 range ... I think about 1997. Don't remember precisely off the top of my head - it's not like I was expecting it to be such a long stretch and started counting after that day. It's not like "noth... |
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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: Finally, a "real" introduction to me (probable asp |
| MichaelBerkeley |
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Posted: 15 Jul 2012, 8:19 pm
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Replies: 16
Views: 2,622
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| questor, Thanks, I did have a look through there at the tests, took some more tests, and: results on my blog *. All still very new to me. Not far from 50 years old, and was only 15 days ago someone first hinted to me I might be somewhere on the autism spectrum. I never so much as thought or suspecte... |
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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: Hello. |
| MichaelBerkeley |
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Posted: 08 Jul 2012, 12:21 pm
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Replies: 7
Views: 951
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| Thanks for the pointer/tip - and I've well considered it. No, neither "MichaelBerkeley" nor "Michael Berkeley" is my real name. It's basically as pseudo-anonymous alias used in relatively limited context (here, OkCupid, and some stuff rather to quite related to same). Likewise the photos - real, yes... |
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