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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Waiting two months for nothing. |
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Posted: 12 Dec 2012, 4:12 pm
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Replies: 6
Views: 1,027
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| I just want to have a conversation with someone that has it. You have no idea how much it would mean to me. Do you have Skype? It's not quite the same as meeting someone in person but it is very useful for "having a conversation". I find if I have visual I'm not as freaked out as with a normal chat... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: An OKCupid message that about reduced me to tears. |
| iamcoley |
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Posted: 10 Dec 2012, 8:13 pm
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Replies: 181
Views: 15,121
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| There are lots of people who are selfish; who see no reason to accept friendship or conversation from someone who can't give them something that they want; or that don't seem worthy of their time. It's so difficult to understand because no matter how hard you try you can never hope to really underst... |
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Forum: Off the Wall: Forum Games, Quizzes, Roleplaying, etc. Topic: Pastry Chef: The Adventure of Good Fortunes |
| iamcoley |
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Posted: 28 Nov 2012, 5:53 pm
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Replies: 2
Views: 444
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Your Fortune: Make your happiness like an oasis, the greener for the desert that surrounds it.
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Apologizing too much |
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Posted: 23 Nov 2012, 12:48 am
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Replies: 25
Views: 3,938
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| I think it is so ingrained over the years, it is habitual. It's been one of my coping mechanisms because for so long I did not know what I was coping with - I just learned, when in doubt - say sorry. I think I just don't know when I should be sorry. Which actions require "sorry"? Any insight would ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: A few last quick questions... |
| iamcoley |
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Posted: 22 Nov 2012, 5:26 pm
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Replies: 19
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| 1. Are there people you can look in the eye and touch because you want that intimacy and you trust them? Yes 2. If you loose their trust, do you find you can't let them touch you/look you in the eye? Yes. Their touch turns into something that resembles tags on clothes, and I can't stand it. 3. Do y... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Attachment Proportional to Keeping Interest |
| iamcoley |
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Posted: 21 Nov 2012, 7:06 pm
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Replies: 3
Views: 853
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| I have been investigating "Theory of Mind" recently; I like to take each aspect of how Asperger's affects me and break it down so that I understand what my brain is doing (or NOT doing) e.g. Emotional Intelligence, Executive function/processing etc etc. Theory of Mind seems to relate best to what we... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: The MEANING behind Small Talk |
| iamcoley |
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Posted: 21 Nov 2012, 6:32 pm
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Replies: 29
Views: 3,215
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Venger wrote: Harbor Seals are cuter than otters.
Is that even possible?! Otters are SO cute. |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Attachment Proportional to Keeping Interest |
| iamcoley |
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Posted: 19 Nov 2012, 10:48 pm
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Replies: 3
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| I’m absolutely able to relate. Before I was diagnosed AS I just thought I was a total b*tch for not being able to handle “stupid” people. Now I’m by no means perfect (or an intellectual genius) but I’m not a nasty/mean person in the NT sense – most of the time I would go out of my way to accommodate... |
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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: Prior lurker, getting around to saying "hello" ... |
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Posted: 24 Oct 2012, 11:14 pm
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Replies: 25
Views: 2,231
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| - iamcoley: Let me know what your dietary quirks are, and we can try to come up with some things for you. If it helps at all, my diet is gluten-free, I avoid using dairy products, and I am mostly vegetarian. Believe me, this certainly makes coming up with edible meals interesting.. even more "fun" ... |
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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: Prior lurker, getting around to saying "hello" ... |
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Posted: 23 Oct 2012, 8:44 pm
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Replies: 25
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| Hi there! I'm alllll the way over in Australia, but would love to share things that I know about, with what you know about :-) Recipes are a big favourite, but I have lots of dietary "quirks..." and that gets tricky. I really like reading posts like yours because it makes me smile knowing I'm in the... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: I wish I could stick with one interest |
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Posted: 18 Oct 2012, 11:57 pm
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Replies: 4
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| Yes, I have this problem and yes, it is totally annoying. But, no, I can't really help you... I can't even help myself... I have been thinking lately that it might need to be a goal perspective thing. By working on **I WILL acheive ..... because of/then I'll ......** instead of just randomly allowin... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: I'm sick of being a victim. |
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Posted: 17 Oct 2012, 6:12 pm
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Replies: 15
Views: 2,101
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| But choosing to self-identify as being on the autistic spectrum means that you must also acknowledge that the spectrum includes many people who are not carbon copies of you, or who won't necessarily share your experiences or viewpoints. I'm not saying this to be an a-hole, I am saying this because ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Do you think she is an aspie? |
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Posted: 15 Oct 2012, 5:06 pm
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Replies: 10
Views: 1,634
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| I'm not a professional so I can't diagnose anyone but I have a few tips and I agree with what the others have written too. Tell her never to worry about something she has no capacity to change! Asperger’s is for life and it won’t ever go anyway, she can’t receive a cure whether she has a diagnosis o... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: I hate ignorant NTs |
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Posted: 14 Oct 2012, 6:26 am
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Replies: 11
Views: 1,508
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| Is it really THAT bad?!? I have wanted friends my whole life... Does it mean my ideals are just a case of "the grass is always greener"?? What about if you find friends that are a happy medium of wanting to spend time with you and socalise, but also just to be quiet and "still" with you when you wa... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Aspie girls with no close friends or relationships |
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Posted: 14 Oct 2012, 6:16 am
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Replies: 26
Views: 11,943
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| Sometimes I think if I'd been diagnosed as a child, I would have been able to learn the skills required to do all these things. Maybe I'd have more confidence. Now sometimes I worry that it's too late. Agreed... I was the same - growing up without answers to why I was bullied, or why I was differen... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: I hate ignorant NTs |
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Posted: 11 Oct 2012, 4:57 pm
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Replies: 11
Views: 1,508
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| There are a lot of aspies who would give everything they have for friends who would take them out and help them socialize. Be careful what you wish for. Yeah, my sentiments exactly. I had friends my whole life and it was only after being diagnosed that I decided to become a loner and since then, li... |
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