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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Cheating |
| Klinx |
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Posted: 23 Jul 2012, 7:36 pm
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Replies: 16
Views: 13,374
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| I've heard that people with Asperger's never cheat, and are practically incapable of cheating on their partner. is this true? have any of you ever cheated, or had an opportunity to but passed? It is false. Perhaps the biggest stain on my past is the fact that I have both cheated AND been cheated on... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Are you dating an NT? How do you express affection? |
| Klinx |
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Posted: 23 Jul 2012, 6:43 pm
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Replies: 22
Views: 4,000
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| A lot of good points are being made here. All aspies are different, just like anyone else is different. And every relationship is definitely different. I need to calm my suspicions down and enjoy the ride, and ease the pressure. I think my guy is just dealing with a lot right now (the job loss hit ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Are you dating an NT? How do you express affection? |
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Posted: 23 Jul 2012, 6:41 pm
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Replies: 22
Views: 4,000
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| Putting feelings into words is a common problem, research indicates that 85% of Aspies have a comorbid condition called Alexithymia ( http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Alexithymia ). There are many ways to show affection, I will give you a link here, but keep in mind I do not encourage you to buy the bo... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Females: do you consider yourself physically attractive? |
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Posted: 22 Jul 2012, 9:31 pm
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Replies: 146
Views: 17,808
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| The long & short of it, either gender - the nicer you make yourself look, the more respect you appear to deserve. I think the crux is that women have to do a helluva lot more than men do to be considered to "look nice", and thus "deserve respect". There was a time when wearing makeup would have... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Females: do you consider yourself physically attractive? |
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Posted: 22 Jul 2012, 8:45 pm
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Replies: 146
Views: 17,808
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| I have to wonder at the (well-meaning) beliefs of men who dislike makeup on women and who prefer a "natural" face. Often these "natural" faces still have makeup on, it just is only a minimal amount, and if these men actually saw women with NO makeup on and no efforts at all at doing their hair then... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: friends then lovers then he shut down completely |
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Posted: 22 Jul 2012, 8:32 pm
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Replies: 120
Views: 22,826
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| "If he also says that using "boyfriend/girlfriend" labels is "cliche", that's a big red flag that says he doesn't realize the importance of your relationship together. If he's willing to have sex with you, but not willing to be a true boyfriend/true girlfriend relationship, then that's a problem be... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: friends then lovers then he shut down completely |
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Posted: 22 Jul 2012, 8:25 pm
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Replies: 120
Views: 22,826
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| "If he also says that using "boyfriend/girlfriend" labels is "cliche", that's a big red flag that says he doesn't realize the importance of your relationship together. If he's willing to have sex with you, but not willing to be a true boyfriend/true girlfriend relationship, then that's a problem be... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: friends then lovers then he shut down completely |
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Posted: 22 Jul 2012, 8:21 pm
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Replies: 120
Views: 22,826
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| Heres the best advice I can give you; walk away, keep walking and never look back. I was in love with an Aspie. I still am. He told me he loved me and then later gave me the same 'I don't know what love is' speech that you were given. He blamed his AS. We don't talk at all now because I could not a... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Males: do you consider yourself physically attractive? |
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Posted: 22 Jul 2012, 3:17 pm
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Replies: 281
Views: 36,839
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| Most people have commented on my eyes (bright, sharp green), and thought they were attractive (that is, when I manage to hold my gaze into a person's eyes long enough, lol). My broad shoulders were another strong point, but that's about all I have going for me. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Females: do you consider yourself physically attractive? |
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Posted: 22 Jul 2012, 3:07 pm
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Replies: 146
Views: 17,808
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| I have been called pretty before, especially by other women and mostly they tell me I have nice skin. But I'm too skinny and I can't seem to gain any fat or muscle, especially fat. Guys have constantly told me that I need to gain weight and I'm self-conscious of it. No. I feel like a lot of men hav... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Why do women seem so difficult to read? |
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Posted: 22 Jul 2012, 2:35 pm
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Replies: 64
Views: 7,119
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| Do you find men easier to read than women? I guess it's hard to find like-for-like situations.....girlfriends are generally closer than buddies, so communication failures can be a lot more noticeable. I've sure had communication problems with my partners over the years. I've no idea if it would be ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Why do women seem so difficult to read? |
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Posted: 22 Jul 2012, 1:03 pm
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Replies: 64
Views: 7,119
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| Thank you for that insight! That's why I love this forum. I just glanced over and noticed your age, a great age for new beginnings but one that kind of stacks the odds against a stable relationship, depending on your plans. Women in your general dating pool are probably either preparing to leave hi... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Why do women seem so difficult to read? |
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Posted: 22 Jul 2012, 12:50 pm
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Replies: 64
Views: 7,119
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| Thank you for that insight! That's why I love this forum. I just glanced over and noticed your age, a great age for new beginnings but one that kind of stacks the odds against a stable relationship, depending on your plans. Women in your general dating pool are probably either preparing to leave hi... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Why do women seem so difficult to read? |
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Posted: 21 Jul 2012, 9:35 pm
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Replies: 64
Views: 7,119
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| Oh god can that stuff get confusing. My girl told me once that she didn't like flowers. Now, I've learned enough to know that when a girl says something like that, she probably still wants you to do that kind of thing, but is just trying to seem like the laid-back low maintenance girl. But she said... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Why do women seem so difficult to read? |
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Posted: 21 Jul 2012, 9:22 pm
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Replies: 64
Views: 7,119
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| Oh god can that stuff get confusing. My girl told me once that she didn't like flowers. Now, I've learned enough to know that when a girl says something like that, she probably still wants you to do that kind of thing, but is just trying to seem like the laid-back low maintenance girl. But she said... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: friends then lovers then he shut down completely |
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Posted: 21 Jul 2012, 9:13 pm
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Replies: 120
Views: 22,826
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| in his defense, he's busy. he has school several days a week (including summer school), routine family obligations, routine obligations with the host family he lives with, spends lots of time on his intellectual interests, and also needs down time. i imagine we'll hang out once a week on the weeken... |
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