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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Stop spinning! |
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Posted: 18 Feb 2014, 7:37 pm
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Replies: 10
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| How do you deal with people who find your child's stimming annoying and something purely to be extinguished? . Analagous to "How do you deal with people who find your child's being black annoying and something purely to be extinguished? " It's the NT who doesn't get it that's the problem. As a pare... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Stop spinning! |
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Posted: 18 Feb 2014, 7:36 pm
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| Analagous to "How do you deal with people who find your child's being black annoying and something purely to be extinguished? " It's the NT who doesn't get it that's the problem. As a parent of an Aspie, you will constantly be labelled The Bad Parent and That Family. You HAVE to resist it. You must ... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Autistic children more prone to say extreme things? |
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Posted: 27 Mar 2013, 9:49 pm
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Replies: 33
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| This thread has been very reassuring, guys. I've heard "I'm going to kill you" or "I want to kill myself" a few times over the last few weeks, and given how literal the Aspie mind is I wasn't sure whether to just let him cool down or take more serious action. |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Is having an autistic child a burden? |
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Posted: 27 Mar 2013, 9:39 pm
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Replies: 52
Views: 17,017
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| I actually think they only love me because I am their daughter and they simply have to. Garbage. Where does it say they have to? There are thousands (if not millions) of parents out there that don't. I have three boys. One is an Aspie. All are hard work, all are very different, all are exasperating... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Odd problem? What to do? |
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Posted: 13 Feb 2013, 9:16 pm
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Replies: 24
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| I've had the best results taking the angle that the parent and the educator are a team. I wonder if the response would be less condescending if you'd finished your letter with "is there anyway we could work together and reinforce each other to alleviate this?" Of course it all comes down to whether ... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Matching the focus to the job |
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Posted: 03 Dec 2012, 8:07 pm
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| Just stumbled across this. I totally wanted to do this when my son got older but (thankfully!) this guy has beaten me to it! It waffles a bit explaining the basics for NTs, but it talks about a man who is leveraging the obvious truth that people with autism are better at some types of jobs: The auti... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: YOU helped! Thank you! |
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Posted: 03 Dec 2012, 12:44 am
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Replies: 17
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Boarding schools |
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Posted: 03 Dec 2012, 12:39 am
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Replies: 8
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| I have a lot of Aspergers traits. I was sent to boarding school as a child. It took 10 years for the nightmares to stop, and 20 to even begin to figure out what that place did to me. We all know the social and sensory chaos of the playground, and associated bullying. Imagine confining your child to ... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: A Parent with Resentment Issues |
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Posted: 31 Oct 2012, 7:55 pm
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Replies: 17
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That's what I love about this place. We get it. A page full of advice, and if you hit ctrl-F and look for the word "just", we're not using it on each other  |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Kids say the darndest things |
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Posted: 28 Oct 2012, 7:33 pm
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Zodai wrote:
Basically, my mom asked what I wanted to be when I grew up.
I responded along the lines of "I wanna be a mom!"
When I was a kid, my response was "I wanna be a school bus!"
So when I had kids, I did NOT give them the prerequisite of "you can be anything you want to be" |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Asperger and Role-Playing |
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Posted: 21 Oct 2012, 10:08 pm
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Replies: 42
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| Tabletop RPGs are GOLD. They are a safe environment to step out of your anxieties and inhibitions and test drive social interaction. "There's a girl at the corner table. She's stirring some kind of multi-layered drink with her straw and wincing every time the music gets loud. Your friend says you sh... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: DS has been moved to his own desk by himself at school... |
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Posted: 21 Oct 2012, 7:00 pm
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Replies: 13
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| I hadn't heard of "not being able to talk and work at the same time" as an Aspie trait before. I've never observed it in my son. If that happened to me, I'd be suspicious of the teacher trying to isolate the child to make their job easier. |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Three, count 'em, three positive notes from school today! |
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Posted: 11 Oct 2012, 4:39 pm
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Replies: 13
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: When parents use their younger children? |
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Posted: 08 Oct 2012, 6:40 pm
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Replies: 2
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| Like today I finally tried coming out to my mom that i drank excessive amounts of alcohol just to make it through the year, because she got on me about being slightly drunk again as if her and her other family doesn't do it just as much if not more. So what motivation does she have to object to you... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: It's like a volcano |
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Posted: 08 Oct 2012, 6:31 pm
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Replies: 15
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| In our case, meltdowns happen for a reason. It's not simply "naughty child must be punished". Their anxiety builds up and then a large trigger of more anxiety is applied, and the child just can't cope. If you can find out what that is, you can head off the meltdown. A recent example in this forum is... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Are your relatives supportive? |
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Posted: 08 Oct 2012, 6:20 pm
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Replies: 21
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| The immediate response we got from one side of the family was "Well, it's not from OUR side of the family!" The response from the other side was "Oh" (return to watching sport on TV). I have a couple of stories I tell to help teachers and family "get it", and I keep pointing out our son's perspectiv... |
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