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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Conflicted about Faking Friendships |
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Posted: 01 Jan 2018, 1:32 am
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Replies: 22
Views: 1,974
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| "Faking Friendships" you mean people who are friends with 'your façade' and not your 'true self'? And by means of maintaining it as a personal burden yet your intention is mainly for having social contact and semblance of normalcy -- for simply the sake of being 'social' and 'normal' yet ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Attention hogs |
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Posted: 01 Jan 2018, 1:15 am
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Replies: 43
Views: 1,534
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| These are just my opinions, & perspective. I think the majority of people just want to be distracted & entertained. Charismatic people have within them the ability to take your mind off of bad stuff happening, or if not, they can make a joke of it and get people to laugh. Laughing reduces st... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Are you happier with no friends or social contacts? |
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Posted: 31 Dec 2017, 9:57 pm
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Replies: 70
Views: 22,121
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| Just wondering if age will give me any wisdom here.... The older I get, the more I realize that I suck at making and keeping friends. Social contacts as well. I suck socially. Across the board. Does getting older make you realize that you are happier without friends or social contacts (or very few)... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Conflicted about Faking Friendships |
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Posted: 31 Dec 2017, 8:56 pm
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Replies: 22
Views: 1,974
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| Most of us don't have YOUR problem so we're not likely to understand it so keenly. So does your comment mean you have more positive interactions in real life & negative interactions online (the opposite to me)? That's cool if that's your experience. I would rather not have to use the internet t... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Conflicted about Faking Friendships |
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Posted: 31 Dec 2017, 8:36 pm
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Replies: 22
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| lol, well, thanks but doubt that there is any real fandom happening. I'm not any more a public figure than someone posting their activities on facebook or this forum. My youtube channel is nothing more than me working on my own property & doing DIY projects. That's it. I help people when they as... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Being too honest and open? |
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Posted: 31 Dec 2017, 8:27 pm
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Replies: 11
Views: 879
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| My experiences are varied. Some people like my honesty & others misunderstand it. They sometimes believe I'm insulting them, but was really just asking a question. I don't judge people right away -- asking questions helps me form a better understanding of what is going on. My curiosity can offen... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Is there anything wrong with writing stories? |
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Posted: 31 Dec 2017, 8:18 pm
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Replies: 19
Views: 1,546
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| I'm sorry your mum feels that way. Maybe she just wants you to do more of the necessary housework. Or maybe she doesn't care about that and simply doesn't understand writing, writers, hobbies, or imagination. Some people don't have any imagination, and they can't "imagine" what other peop... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Conflicted about Faking Friendships |
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Posted: 31 Dec 2017, 5:19 pm
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Replies: 22
Views: 1,974
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| These replies are excellent examples what makes it very difficult for me to positively interact with people. From my perspective (& mine only) everyone focuses on the wrong thing. In this case, the wrong focus is placed on the meaning of the term friendship. I don't care about the definition. I ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Conflicted about Faking Friendships |
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Posted: 31 Dec 2017, 12:44 am
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Replies: 22
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| This part confuses me: > "Hate lying to them when I say things that infer their company is enjoyable to me -- it isn't. Their company is a burden on my time & finances." If that's truly the case, then why are you calling this a friendship? I'm hardly an expert, but shouldn't there be ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Conflicted about Faking Friendships |
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Posted: 31 Dec 2017, 12:21 am
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Replies: 22
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| I am currently faking my way through a few friendships online, because need to have positive interactions with people to remain sane. In flesh life my interactions are full of strife. I don't do anything on purpose to cause it, but it just happens. There is a saying, with different variations on wor... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: College and extended adolescense |
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Posted: 27 Dec 2017, 6:34 pm
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Replies: 38
Views: 872
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| I liked & still currently like college, but the enjoyment is related to the subjects of my interests in science & technology. I have 2 official science degrees & 2 unofficial majors that I could turn into degrees if I wanted (but see no reason to). College is the only place I am semi-suc... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: I have lack of attention |
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Posted: 24 Dec 2017, 1:07 am
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Replies: 8
Views: 339
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| I don't know you so would be very difficult to make suggestions. I can only tell you what helps me get my mind into an organized & productive state. Vitamin B Complex as needed for focus -- it is water soluble so overdosing wouldn't be a risk. It does turn pee neon yellow. Drink water to stay hy... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: I don't miss anyone. |
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Posted: 22 Dec 2017, 10:58 pm
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Replies: 13
Views: 518
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| I don't miss any real people, but found I miss watching shows I like between seasons, after a cancellation, or book characters that have a long story series. Re-watching/re-reading after a long period of time feels good, but would get bored re-experiencing the story too soon & prefer new materia... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Combination of bad experiences and asd leading to isolation? |
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Posted: 22 Dec 2017, 8:37 pm
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Replies: 2
Views: 336
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| I've had a mixture of bad, neutral, & good experiences. However, the good experiences are never as good for me as it seems others feel. Those good experiences are not worth it, because the bad experiences overshadow everything else & have a greater impact on my mental health. I don't get an ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: What do you think of the statement |
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Posted: 22 Dec 2017, 8:23 pm
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Replies: 10
Views: 519
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| Before I read the other responses, I'll give you my first impression of the statement. There is a saying about being on the same wavelength, being in the same frame of mind, being on the same page with another person or group. As a person gets older, patterns develop & we take notice. Many times... |
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Forum: School and College Life Topic: what was the worst teacher you had in school? |
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Posted: 04 Dec 2017, 11:30 pm
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Replies: 21
Views: 1,900
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| 3rd grade teacher was my worst teacher followed closely by 2nd grade teacher -- they both were rude, unnecessarily mean, & cast students against each other (a bit like a mini-Nazi day camp where there were favored students & unfavored students). I contracted chicken pox in 3rd grade - was ou... |
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