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Forum: The Haven Topic: My friend with Aspergers has died. |
| Sunny55 |
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Posted: 03 Mar 2015, 7:51 am
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Replies: 3
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| I go to an AS support group once a week and one of the members has been in and out of hospital for several months with lung problems and we have been visiting him regularly. He was readmitted to hospital yesterday and sadly he passed on this morning. He was such a lovely person, so gentle, understan... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: People at my church seem to hate or dislike me, they ignore |
| Sunny55 |
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Posted: 01 Mar 2015, 9:10 am
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Replies: 7
Views: 1,579
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| I agree with silver star, that often a new person has to 'earn' their way into an established group. If you are on the quiet side, this can take longer than it would for a more outgoing person. Having said this, I have found that many churches tend to be standoffish, more so than most secular groups... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Need some help making friendship stick |
| Sunny55 |
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Posted: 24 Feb 2015, 8:56 am
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Replies: 4
Views: 562
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| In this particular case I would say that you probably went into far too much detail for him. It sounds as though he simply wanted to learn to kayak as a pleasant pastime and wasn't interested in how kayaks are made, the techniques each company used, the pros and cons of each model etc. Our AS does o... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Have you had a public meltdown? |
| Sunny55 |
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Posted: 23 Feb 2015, 1:43 pm
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Replies: 19
Views: 1,386
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| Yes, several times in various jobs I had many years ago. I haven't worked since. I remember crying uncontrollably and co-workers not understanding at all why I reacted like that. I didn't have a diagnosis at the time. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Do you have any support workers, aides, home supports, etc? |
| Sunny55 |
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Posted: 20 Feb 2015, 1:30 pm
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Replies: 11
Views: 1,029
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| I am thinking of asking for a support worker as I have no family and am going up in years. Have had counselling in the past, but none of it was geared towards my AS. Also, counselling is only ever temporary, whereas as far as I know, if you are entitled to a support worker, this is a permanent arran... |
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Forum: Autism Politics, Activism, and Media Representation Topic: Aspie women -do you hate aspie men? |
| Sunny55 |
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Posted: 18 Feb 2015, 2:19 pm
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Replies: 30
Views: 6,753
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| No, I don't hate Aspie men. I belong to an AS support group and most of the others in the group are men. I like them all, some more than others, as would be usual in any social group. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: afraid of aging |
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Posted: 18 Feb 2015, 2:05 pm
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Replies: 8
Views: 729
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| I became very aware in my teens for the first time on an emotional level that one day I would die and I found this very frightening at the time. I am in my late fifties now, so am considerably closer to dying than I was forty years ago. Have also come through two life threatening illnesses where dea... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Some aspies have it harder than others? |
| Sunny55 |
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Posted: 16 Feb 2015, 5:21 pm
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Replies: 21
Views: 1,514
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| I have always found eye contact very difficult except when I know someone very well and feel at ease with them. Had always thought that I 'would grow out of it' though now I am 57 this seems a forlorn hope :( If I am speaking in a situation where I feel stressed to make a good impression I get reall... |
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Forum: Español, Nederlands, Deutsch, Français Topic: Puhuuko joku suomea? |
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Posted: 16 Feb 2015, 3:56 am
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Replies: 11
Views: 892
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| Hei ja kiitos vastauksestanne!! En odottanut etta joku vastaisi ja se on niin miellyttava yllatys etta olen saanut kirjeistanne :D Opiskelin suomea yksin kotona monta vuotta sitten kun olin yhetydessa suomalaismiehen kanssa. Vaikka yhteys lopetti 15 vuotta sitten, en halunnut lopettaa kielensa kanss... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Uncomfortable with Houseguests? |
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Posted: 14 Feb 2015, 10:21 am
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Replies: 19
Views: 5,304
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| For me, the difficult thing about house guests is feeling pressured to be constantly switched on, talking to them, alert to their needs etc. After a while I am screaming inside to go somewhere quiet and to read for a while so that I can recharge my batteries. My ideal house guest would be someone wh... |
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Forum: Español, Nederlands, Deutsch, Français Topic: What languages do you know? |
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Posted: 14 Feb 2015, 10:08 am
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Replies: 106
Views: 31,782
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| My native language is English, I speak good Finnish and read and write it well, and I can speak some French and German and can read and write both languages well. Can still read some Russian, though have forgotten most of it. |
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Forum: Español, Nederlands, Deutsch, Français Topic: Puhuuko joku suomea? |
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Posted: 14 Feb 2015, 10:00 am
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Replies: 11
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Olen 57 v. englantilaisnainen ja opiskelin suomea harrastuksena monta vuotta sitten. Puhuuko joku suomea?  |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Worldwide Aspergian single List 2.0(Straight) |
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Posted: 14 Feb 2015, 9:36 am
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Replies: 146
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| I am female, aged 57 and living in the UK. Never married (though have had some relationships) and no children. As well as English I speak good Finnish and can manage in French and German, so am open to prospective partners from overseas as well. My interests include languages, reading, North Korea, ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: what is a "meltdown" ? |
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Posted: 18 Feb 2013, 10:44 am
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Replies: 27
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| Could someone explain what the difference is between meltdown anger and 'ordinary' anger? I am a quiet person, but if someone really, really infuriates me, I get what I call the roller coaster feeling inside-it is as if I have reached the top of the track and am about to race down the other side, as... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Need help to stand up for myself |
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Posted: 18 Feb 2013, 10:38 am
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Replies: 19
Views: 2,092
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| You can't be the only one who is being affected by this man's complete lack of consideration for others. Could you ask people in the other rooms if it is affecting them as well? If several of you are being affected, this would give you support and backup when officially complaining. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Eating food out of the can. |
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Posted: 18 Feb 2013, 10:34 am
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Replies: 29
Views: 2,999
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| I dont know if it is an aspie thing. I do it at times, but only with food that you would eat cold anyway eg tinned peaches, pears etc. It is to save me from having to wash a dish afterwards:-) |
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