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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Exercise in theory of mind |
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Posted: 15 May 2013, 11:46 pm
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Replies: 6
Views: 1,001
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| You're talking about a problem you've had with eating inappropriately... that's fine. But as soon as you add, "I'm sure you can relate" you imply that she's had a similar problem. Even if it's true and both of you know it, it generally comes across as rude to draw attention to a negative characteris... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: guys, what makes you approach a woman |
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Posted: 10 May 2013, 1:54 pm
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Replies: 13
Views: 2,685
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| Basically, I just don't... or at least I never approach women (or anyone else) to flirt or socialize, unless I'm already involved with them. I only approach people I don't know well when I have a specific reason to talk to them (even with most people I know, I don't usually approach them without a p... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Were your toys age-appropriate? |
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Posted: 09 May 2013, 6:42 pm
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Replies: 49
Views: 6,298
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| When I was very young (infant or toddler) my toys were usually age appropriate. As I got older, I tended to get more toys that were intended for children older than I was. I also continued to use the old toys long past the age they were intended for, but in strange ways (making things out of them, o... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: How to set boundaries with controllers |
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Posted: 09 May 2013, 12:55 am
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Replies: 15
Views: 3,076
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| If the person in question (the controller) doesn't know the impact it has on you, or doesn't know how they come across, then assertiveness and a talk with them might save the relationship. Unfortunately, that's usually not the case. Said person is fully aware that they're out of line, but tell them... |
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Forum: Computers, Math, Science, and Technology Topic: Programming Languages |
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Posted: 08 May 2013, 12:58 pm
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Replies: 38
Views: 11,521
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| I have actually lost count at this point, but I realized a long time ago that it isn't the language that makes for a good programmer. Language is merely a matter of syntax. It is the understanding of patterns and concepts that makes for a real programmer. As for a lot of the older languages I've se... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Severe PTSD, not Asperger's |
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Posted: 07 May 2013, 5:37 pm
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Replies: 41
Views: 3,961
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| I recently came across a report that looked at WAIS-III results in older adults with Asperger's and HFA... to quote a section of the report: The Asperger syndrome group performed significantly well on Comprehension. High scores on Comprehension in this group seem to contradict former research result... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Should I ask him on a date??? |
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Posted: 01 May 2013, 2:59 am
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Replies: 4
Views: 722
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| If you ask him out while he's considering you for a job, he's likely to assume you're only asking him so he'll hire you. Even if you explain that that's not the case, he might not believe you... so you risk being seen as manipulative and dishonest even if you're not. Either wait until the hiring dec... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Can having nice eyes be a aspie look? |
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Posted: 28 Apr 2013, 1:53 pm
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Replies: 97
Views: 11,340
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| I would guess that it's not so much the eyes themselves as the facial expression. The impression I get from comments here and people I've known is that aspies tend to have a sort of default facial expression that for some aspies makes them appear annoyed all the time, but for others makes them look ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: aspie men miss signs of interest |
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Posted: 28 Apr 2013, 2:12 am
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Replies: 33
Views: 5,627
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| It'd be nice if people could just say "hey, I like you, wanna come over and make some sex on top of me?" ^^ This (with different phrasing) has happened to me on occasion... but I can never tell whether they mean it unless they get even more direct. Actually I think that's how almost every relations... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: aspie men miss signs of interest |
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Posted: 27 Apr 2013, 3:10 pm
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Replies: 33
Views: 5,627
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| I was under the impression that it was pretty well-known that aspies often don't notice when people are interested in them. But it's certainly true for me, anyway... I've dated a few people including a few long-term relationships, but in each case the other person initiated it and was very direct...... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: How to set boundaries with controllers |
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Posted: 22 Apr 2013, 1:43 am
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Replies: 15
Views: 3,076
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| I don't know enough about the situation you described or the person you're talking about to comment on either of them... but I can say that although there are some people who are generally controlling and manipulative, there are also others who are not but may try to take control when they think som... |
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Forum: Politics, Philosophy, and Religion Topic: Should the government allow complete freedom of speech? |
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Posted: 19 Apr 2013, 3:55 pm
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Replies: 47
Views: 8,303
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| I'm generally in favour of free speech, but not quite unlimited; some restrictions are needed to limit deliberate misinformation, to limit purely or largely malicious speech, and to protect confidentiality. It may also be appropriate to require disclosure of some information in some situations as we... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Myths? |
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Posted: 15 Apr 2013, 11:12 pm
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Replies: 16
Views: 2,052
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| Hi there, I was wondering if anyone diagnosed with an ASD could answer the following questions. If your not diagnosed, please feel free to reply too, but please mention that your not diagnosed. I'm in the process of being assessed, but I'm not diagnosed currently. As a child, could you pretend play... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: choosing not to speak - 3 years old |
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Posted: 07 Apr 2013, 10:24 pm
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Replies: 24
Views: 3,242
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| I really do think what the OP is talking about is different or more so and is likely selective mutism or something like that. Different how? I'm not sure we're thinking of the same thing. I do go almost completely silent, and used to go completely silent... either when very stressed, when dealing w... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: choosing not to speak - 3 years old |
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Posted: 07 Apr 2013, 8:11 pm
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Replies: 24
Views: 3,242
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| If I'm stressed enough, I can't speak. Same here, though I can often manage very short responses (one or two words). I didn't realize I couldn't speak in those cases when I was very young, though... I wasn't speaking, but I didn't want to either, so it felt like it was my choice. I realized I could... |
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Forum: News and Current Events Topic: Moonshine at the middle school |
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Posted: 05 Apr 2013, 8:42 pm
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Replies: 15
Views: 2,617
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| The article says, "what was supposed to be moonshine," and that after a few if them sipped it, one went to the ER. Who knows what the stuff actually was... but it could've been anything these kids thought would get them drunk; I wouldn't assume it was actual, correctly made, moonshine. Could've been... |
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