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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Not again... |
| lukeinontario |
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Posted: 31 Dec 2012, 1:22 am
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| I posted awhile ago about my difficulties in managing the deaths of two people who were very close to me. The deaths occurred very close together, which was very difficult for someone with AS. Now I have lost a third person (a close friend from my dorm who died in an accident), and I am really strug... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: are we aspie men bad with women or are women bad with us |
| lukeinontario |
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Posted: 31 Dec 2012, 1:13 am
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Replies: 71
Views: 37,021
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Eh, I think I'm better with women because of my AS. When I was younger, and didn't have social skills, I was able to emulate those skills.
Now, I do pretty well because I can emulate romantic feelings more easily.  |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Ontario, Canada Meetup thread! |
| lukeinontario |
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Posted: 31 Dec 2012, 1:10 am
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Replies: 169
Views: 26,536
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| Perhaps dinner and a movie? Seeing movies alone feels really sad and there's a lot of good stuff showing right now. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: How to address sexual dysfunction? |
| lukeinontario |
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Posted: 05 Dec 2012, 2:01 pm
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Replies: 18
Views: 2,610
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| I think you're doing the right thing. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Waiting Until Marriage? |
| lukeinontario |
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Posted: 05 Dec 2012, 1:58 pm
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Replies: 21
Views: 2,928
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| Don't presume God has anything planned for you if that's what you're thinking. Yeah. I can respect those who believe in god(s), but I have no sympathy for those who don't prepare for the possibility that there isn't. As for sex, just go for it. It's not fair to the person you marry if you suspect a... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: A good friend decided to end his own life |
| lukeinontario |
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Posted: 05 Dec 2012, 1:48 pm
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Replies: 9
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| I actually just finished visiting with him. I recognize that nothing I can say or do is going to make a difference in his decision. So, I was thankful that I was able to talk to a couple of people I know and find some peace with what was going on before I saw my friend face-to-face. I can't condone... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Not Engaging and Constantly Interrupted |
| lukeinontario |
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Posted: 05 Dec 2012, 1:43 pm
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Replies: 32
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| Does anyone else ever find themselves thinking "I need better friends" after a social interaction? I have a few good friends, and then I have those people. I'm not sure I agree with that ... because the good friends who patiently wait for me to finish what I'm saying are worth their weight in gold ... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Anyone in the Ozarks? |
| lukeinontario |
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Posted: 05 Dec 2012, 1:36 pm
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Replies: 2
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St. Louis has some good groups I think.
When I was in Chicago I knew a few people from one of the St. Louis groups. |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: What was the matter with me?! |
| lukeinontario |
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Posted: 05 Dec 2012, 1:34 pm
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Replies: 3
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| It's hard to join a group that's already been formed. I tend to focus on befriending one person at a time, and then they usually will include you in the group naturally. |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: What am I not getting? |
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Posted: 05 Dec 2012, 1:30 pm
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Replies: 4
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I suggest focusing on your interests and joining a club. There is never a need for small talk in a good club.
As for reinforcing a friendship, turn small talk into social events. (e.g. Seen any good movies? Want to see one?) |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Trouble keeping friends? |
| lukeinontario |
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Posted: 05 Dec 2012, 1:15 pm
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Replies: 38
Views: 9,095
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| What you have to remember about keeping friends is that it doesn't actually matter what kind of person you are. You can lie, cheat, steal, stab people in the back, ditch them the moment it becomes inconvenient and be a general sociopath. But if you have a plausibly engaging social manner, then peop... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Grief |
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Posted: 05 Dec 2012, 12:56 pm
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Replies: 5
Views: 1,140
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| Thanks. I think I understand myself a little better now and I feel like I'm slowly working through it. |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Not Engaging and Constantly Interrupted |
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Posted: 02 Dec 2012, 9:58 pm
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Replies: 32
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| Does anyone else ever find themselves thinking "I need better friends" after a social interaction? I have a few good friends, and then I have those people. |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: I lost the most important years of my life. |
| lukeinontario |
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Posted: 02 Dec 2012, 9:55 pm
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Replies: 18
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| Can I just add one more thing? I'm genuinely and sympathetically curious; Why is it you feel that all treatments were ineffective? I remember feeling extremely jealous of Liane Holliday Willey's daughter who was diagnosed young, grew up in a loving family and had all sorts of wonderful privileges a... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Grief |
| lukeinontario |
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Posted: 02 Dec 2012, 9:36 pm
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Replies: 5
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Vomelche wrote: do you mean you can't grieve or you grieve too much
I can't grieve. It feels like I just bottle everything up without working through it. |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Ontario, Canada Meetup thread! |
| lukeinontario |
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Posted: 02 Dec 2012, 9:35 pm
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Replies: 169
Views: 26,536
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| Are people planning on meeting-up again sometime? We had a very vague tentative plan to meet sometime this December. I think a lot of us are in school.........so maybe after exams? I only have one exam on December 14th so any time after that is good for me. If you don't mind me asking, what univers... |
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