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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: people pleasing |
| vk2goh |
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Posted: 10 Aug 2013, 12:55 am
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Replies: 4
Views: 1,159
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| Does anyone else besides myself have a serious issue with this ? When I was 15, I found myself picking on people who were lower on the social ladder than I was to make myself feel accepted. However, a year or so later, I realised what I did was wrong and I started to please everyone around me just t... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Any Aspie Teachers out there? |
| vk2goh |
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Posted: 31 Jul 2013, 2:01 am
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Replies: 43
Views: 8,891
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studying to become a secondary school maths teacher
Im pretty aware of my shortcomings, how I handle them will be a matter of debate when I start my classroom practicals |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: dealing with stress |
| vk2goh |
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Posted: 31 Jul 2013, 1:57 am
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Replies: 1
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hi guys, how do most of you handle stressful situations ?
like do you let the situation eat you alive, as in you look very serious and grumpy
or are you able to do it with a smile, and some humour ? |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Lying to myself. |
| vk2goh |
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Posted: 27 Jul 2013, 2:45 am
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Replies: 5
Views: 1,421
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| I did this to myself when I was younger, however I realised that this wasn't helping me to make friends. My current perception of myself is quite honest and realistic. I try and never lie about my weaknesses, however there are times when you can't be too direct about your problems (e.g. at a job int... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: I am a coward and parents want me to leave |
| vk2goh |
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Posted: 16 Jul 2013, 9:38 pm
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Replies: 20
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| On Friday I was interviewed for a job and was supposed to go Monday for training. Instead I was paralyzed by an intense panic attack and ended up not going. My dad was pissed and said I am not carrying my weight and said he's giving me three weeks to find a job or I have to leave. I cut the lawn, d... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: I'm constantly worrying about what others think of me |
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Posted: 11 Jul 2013, 3:10 am
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Replies: 20
Views: 50,138
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I had this problem a lot going to high school, since a lot of kids didn't like me and I stood out because of my condition.
Nowdays, its less of a problem |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: How would you improve turn-out at a gathering? |
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Posted: 11 Jul 2013, 3:06 am
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Replies: 10
Views: 1,355
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maybe incorporate more autistic friendly activities into the event like having chess boards, television with Xbox and projector with dvd player.
Serve drinks and food while people are playing  |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Quotes fom NTs that you hate? |
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Posted: 10 Jul 2013, 6:44 am
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Replies: 99
Views: 20,305
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: People misunderstand what I say |
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Posted: 10 Jul 2013, 6:43 am
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Replies: 21
Views: 10,799
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happens to me as well. My issue is more that I am not comfortable talking for an extended period of time and want to get things settled quickly.
Maybe try and go to toastmasters or do things that will improve your public speaking skills.
That's all I can really suggest |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: I hate being gullible |
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Posted: 07 Jul 2013, 6:28 am
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Replies: 8
Views: 1,356
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| But last week I was at the volunteer shop with this girl and one of the other young volunteers that work there, and we were sorting through different jewelry what just were donated. I picked up a bracelet from the pile and said, ''I like this bracelet.'' And the girl said, ''I made that.'' I said, ... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Befriending complete strangers? |
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Posted: 07 Jul 2013, 6:23 am
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Replies: 3
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| I say start of by talking about common things. You mentioned that your enrolling in a course, so maybe you could ask them or help them with things like navigating around the school, course enrollment procedures, where to get certain items and so on. If these things work out well for you and your fri... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Motor Skills Improvement Strategies - know any? |
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Posted: 29 Jun 2013, 5:16 pm
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Replies: 16
Views: 1,655
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| playing the piano - helps exercise both the left and right side of the brains, the left being responsible for motor coordination preparing food for cooking - you have to learn how to fine chop ingredients to the right size, just be a bit careful putting things together - e.g. lanterns, cupboard, cha... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Making friends at work |
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Posted: 23 Jun 2013, 10:26 pm
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Replies: 9
Views: 1,493
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| OK, So I've had trouble making friends in the past (i.e. at school etc), but I've been trying at work recently and it just seems to me like no one I talk to is like me. I watch how well they click with each other while I get made to feel like the odd one out. They seem like nice people but I can't ... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Guy with PhD in maths doesn't know where to look for a job |
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Posted: 20 Jun 2013, 3:32 pm
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Replies: 7
Views: 1,129
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| Have you considered secondary school mathematics teaching ? It's quite neurodiversity friendly, but you have to be prepared to deal with children who may be rebellious, rude and obnoxious A lot of companies also hire programmers to develop scientific software as well. I'd suggest in the meantime, se... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Comments that touch your buttons |
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Posted: 19 Jun 2013, 3:35 am
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Replies: 86
Views: 11,972
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Anything that generalises my Asian heritage or maturity tends to really get to me.
Im also put off by people who automatically think I am stupid based on a comment I didn't put a lot of thought into |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: What to do after saying something stupid? |
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Posted: 18 Jun 2013, 1:28 am
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Replies: 29
Views: 12,222
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| It depends on how serious the stupid question is. If it is something like "what colour is my shirt?", you can use a joke or funny comment to laugh it off "e.g. im actually purple colour blind, so I didn't know it was purple" however if it's something like "what is your name?" you should sincerely ap... |
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