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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: How does NT protect themselves from AS meltdown? |
| mereexistence |
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Posted: 05 Mar 2013, 8:48 pm
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Replies: 29
Views: 2,633
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| I'm AS and my wife is NT. If I'm getting overstimulated, she sometimes sees it coming and stops talking to me (communication is very taxing and overwhelming), will sometimes encourage me to close my eyes and will rub my back or something to try to soothe me (only if it's socially appropriate at the ... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Online social skills group run by counselors |
| mereexistence |
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Posted: 12 Feb 2013, 3:10 pm
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Replies: 2
Views: 801
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| Your wording makes it sound like they're teaching "skills for 'online' social interaction".... i.e. internet chat / forum etiquete. I think that they're instead teaching "normal social skills" via the internet. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Girl wants to "get to know me better" |
| mereexistence |
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Posted: 12 Feb 2013, 2:28 pm
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Replies: 12
Views: 5,110
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| She's interested in you, and knowing that you're into hiking, she's trying to enter into your world by making that the activity. Don't over think it... it's easier to end a relationship than to start one. Take her hiking, don't move too fast with her, but definitely let her know that you're interest... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Married with kids - sensory overload / distraction |
| mereexistence |
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Posted: 12 Feb 2013, 1:25 pm
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Replies: 6
Views: 1,199
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| She knows, but she forgets. It all gets confused when we get hit with surprise weekend activities / work, or if my kid doesn't take a nap that we were banking on. At the end of the day, I don't think NTs can relate to how critical it is to our ability to function, so it just gets deprioritized. I ac... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Married with kids - sensory overload / distraction |
| mereexistence |
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Posted: 10 Feb 2013, 9:53 pm
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Replies: 6
Views: 1,199
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| This is probably more of a rant than anything productive, but I was wondering if others suffer with this too... I'm married and we have a young kid. My wife and I both work stressful jobs, and on top fo that, my wife does a lot to absorb the practical (NT) tasks that I can't keep up with. We both wo... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Friendship |
| mereexistence |
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Posted: 24 Jan 2013, 8:39 am
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Replies: 5
Views: 3,042
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| It's possible that you're just incompatible. It's a very common thing to try to push your ideas on others, which is usually viewed as a "good" thing to do - it takes a certain amount of maturity to know how to hold back on that, but it's normal (and almost acceptable in society) for that level of ma... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Friendship |
| mereexistence |
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Posted: 23 Jan 2013, 8:20 pm
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Replies: 5
Views: 3,042
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| If she's your friend and you're close, open up with her and explain how you operate and how to work around your needs (while taking hers into account). It's possible that she's sensing your frustration anyway and will be thrilled to have an answer as to how to avoid triggering it. |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: what does this mean? |
| mereexistence |
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Posted: 16 Jan 2013, 7:25 pm
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Replies: 10
Views: 2,671
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| It means that "you are not capable of being liked by others". Like the others said, it's a mean thing to say and a ridiculous generalization. |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: "Salary range" stops me. |
| mereexistence |
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Posted: 14 Jan 2013, 8:58 pm
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Replies: 21
Views: 13,639
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| Employers are not likely to accept or consider such a claim, so I don't tell them, but it is true. Today I was talking to one of the senior management staff where I work, and she told me "You know if they just knew how much you knew, they'd be throwing money at you right and left and you'd be out o... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Empathy test - weird questions |
| mereexistence |
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Posted: 12 Jan 2013, 9:53 am
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Replies: 32
Views: 5,581
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| I got a 3... by definition, I can't tell how any of you feel about my score... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: "Salary range" stops me. |
| mereexistence |
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Posted: 10 Jan 2013, 12:44 pm
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Replies: 21
Views: 13,639
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| The last post is great, and I agree completely, but I do have something I want to add... Most people are probably reading this thinking that asking the price is an effort to force the applicant into a low range, but underpricing yourself can actually be a bad thing. I have to interview / hire people... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: I have to be the robot that they want me to be. |
| mereexistence |
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Posted: 08 Jan 2013, 8:37 am
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Replies: 5
Views: 2,015
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| When I decided to escalate my career, I did the same thing... this was before I knew I was Autistic. I consciously devised all of the personality and behavioral traits that would make my job secure and help me to excel in the environment, then I took on that persona while I was at work. It was a lot... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Want to have the relationships but don't enjoy socializing? |
| mereexistence |
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Posted: 06 Jan 2013, 11:19 pm
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Replies: 6
Views: 1,361
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| I feel this way all the time - I have friends at work, but I can only handle talking about work with them. I feel that I can't even make friends who can talk about my special interests because mine change so often. I've even been hopping on the WP chat over the last couple weeks, but can barely mana... |
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Forum: Computers, Math, Science, and Technology Topic: Some Number Line Intuition Needed |
| mereexistence |
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Posted: 05 Jan 2013, 10:42 pm
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Replies: 25
Views: 3,228
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| It sounds like we're talking about the "edge" of a defined region, and are having trouble visualizing whether that edge is lost in an act of subtraction. The answer is "no". Zero is confusing to visualize because we think of it as a metaphysical starting point for anything tangible. Because of that,... |
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Forum: Computers, Math, Science, and Technology Topic: Anyone else have a setup like this? |
| mereexistence |
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Posted: 03 Jan 2013, 11:09 pm
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Replies: 6
Views: 1,189
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| I have that setup - everything wireless, coffee table instead of a desk, etc. The only difference is that my TV is a 60 inch. It's a good setup, except no matter what you do or how big you go, getting it to a level that's comfortable enough to read text seems unattainable (at least without giving yo... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: "Salary range" stops me. |
| mereexistence |
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Posted: 02 Jan 2013, 11:30 pm
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Replies: 21
Views: 13,639
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| Anyone reviewing a resume is comparing how valuable the applicant looks vs. how much he's asking for vs. the budget. It's nothing personal - you have to say how much you're expecting to be compensated for the position you're applying for. Imagine shopping for a car, picking out the one that's best, ... |
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