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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Signs that someone is losing interest in you |
| TinyDancer |
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Posted: 07 Aug 2013, 6:13 pm
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Replies: 42
Views: 13,919
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How do you be interested in a person?
I've only ever been interested in things a person does, says or has. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Anyone else can't ride a bike/swim? |
| TinyDancer |
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Posted: 26 Jul 2013, 11:53 am
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Replies: 38
Views: 12,839
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| Can't ride a bike to save my life. I mean I can ride one, it just isn't natural. I stick with a slow beach cruiser. But I can swim. I'm like a dolphin in the water. |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: I hate myself |
| TinyDancer |
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Posted: 25 Jul 2013, 3:08 pm
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Replies: 4
Views: 1,113
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| I know it's not as simple as just practice or trying to develop techniques. I've had really crippling anxiety most of my life. And like you, I read self-help books and reasoned with myself and it didn't help in the end because I'd go into a social situation and my mind would just shut off and I'd fo... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: I hate myself |
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Posted: 25 Jul 2013, 11:17 am
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Replies: 4
Views: 1,113
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| All of that stuff isn't a part of you. It's just stuff you do because you're trying to survive in a hostile environment. You are not what you say and do. As long as you tell yourself that all that is a part of you, you won't have the energy and guts to change it. You can change it - but only when yo... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Obsession over a character and then trying to be like them? |
| TinyDancer |
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Posted: 24 Jul 2013, 10:11 am
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Replies: 14
Views: 2,303
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| If I consciously or unconsciously imitate someone other than myself in some way, either 1. it's something I was already inclined to do and seeing it done elsewhere made me see it was OK to do. or 2. it's something I'm naturally or inexplicably attracted to and want to figure out why. With 2. I think... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: How to be more assertive? |
| TinyDancer |
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Posted: 18 Jul 2013, 11:17 pm
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Replies: 6
Views: 4,102
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| Any tips on how to be more assertive? I have Asperger's and many people think I'm too nice. This resulted in getting bullied alot and now I'm tired of it. I want to stop being so nice and stop people from walking all over me. I also want to have a "backbone" and not take any crap from people. What ... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Being Deliberately Black For Social Connections? |
| TinyDancer |
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Posted: 18 Jul 2013, 1:41 pm
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Replies: 8
Views: 3,073
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| I think it has more to do with outsiders of black culture than it does trying to state that you're part of black culture. It's kind of a way of saying, "I'm putting myself out in order to show you that we're on the same side." As in, risking one's overall impression with people who have political po... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Do you find exes repulsive or attractive? |
| TinyDancer |
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Posted: 17 Jul 2013, 9:30 am
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Replies: 15
Views: 2,445
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| Extreme confusion about what exactly went wrong makes me sick. The people are still the same people and the attractive things about them before are still attractive now. |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Offensive comments |
| TinyDancer |
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Posted: 15 Jul 2013, 6:16 pm
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Replies: 5
Views: 874
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| My friend keeps making offhand remarks that sound like she thinks I'm some kind of psychopath. For example, in a discussion about what it would be like to be a security guard she said, "Wouldn't want to give YOU a gun!" or after mentioning a new friend, "That guy better lock his doors at night." Lik... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Forgiving betrayers |
| TinyDancer |
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Posted: 11 Jul 2013, 1:40 pm
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Replies: 23
Views: 2,394
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| Holding a grudge can really make you look petty and mean. someone can unintentionally hold a grudge. "forgiving" is not just a thought choice. sometimes you just need a long time to forget and get different perspectives. there are things I don't really forgive people for, I just eventually locate a... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: So tired of living like this... |
| TinyDancer |
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Posted: 05 Jul 2013, 12:30 am
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Replies: 8
Views: 2,406
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| I'm so tired of reading and trying to relate to posts here that start "I'm so lonely" and then the next sentence is "my boyfriend/ girlfriend--duh duh duh" or "my best friend duh duh duh", if they're lonely than what am I? Miserable? Jealous? ... I have no idea what to do, I feel so alone right now... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Uhhhhhhhmm I think i am living with a Narcissist... Help? |
| TinyDancer |
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Posted: 04 Jul 2013, 12:24 pm
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Replies: 6
Views: 2,096
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| Tinydancer, I have to do child protection at a high level for my job and have learned that there are 4 different types of abuse 1. Physical abuse 2. Sexual abuse 3. Emotional abuse 4. Neglect All of them can be damaging in their own way and in fact emotional abuse is seen as having the worst long-t... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Do women make lots of effort to attract men? |
| TinyDancer |
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Posted: 04 Jul 2013, 12:17 pm
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Replies: 179
Views: 12,955
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| Maybe since most female human beings do not have as much of a capacity to get really ripped, make up and clothing become a way for a female to demonstrate that she takes care of herself, is clean, cares about the sensory, visual comfort and consistency that other people are experiencing. Whereas a m... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: How does a man attract a woman |
| TinyDancer |
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Posted: 04 Jul 2013, 6:14 am
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Replies: 84
Views: 4,901
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| Maybe you need a change of location. Maybe you're living in a place where there just aren't enough people enough like you. |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Uhhhhhhhmm I think i am living with a Narcissist... Help? |
| TinyDancer |
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Posted: 03 Jul 2013, 10:47 pm
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Replies: 6
Views: 2,096
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| if hes not physically abusive and it doesn't bother you enough to want to move out, then why do you care so much unless you have self esteem issues yourself that are probably your best bet to work on. otherwise, move. i know that's not necessarily clear how to do. if someone told me to do that I'd j... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Forgiving betrayers |
| TinyDancer |
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Posted: 03 Jul 2013, 9:28 pm
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Replies: 23
Views: 2,394
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| Holding a grudge can really make you look petty and mean. someone can unintentionally hold a grudge. "forgiving" is not just a thought choice. sometimes you just need a long time to forget and get different perspectives. there are things I don't really forgive people for, I just eventually locate a... |
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