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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: New job - help! |
| Roch |
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Posted: 03 Mar 2015, 6:56 am
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| Thanks Miss Dorkness, I really appreciate the insight I can get here. Things are running a little smoother at the moment, although it's no guarantee it will continue. I think there's been enough time for him to gauge he can withstand it for the length of the contract, and we'll just have to see what... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: New job - help! |
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Posted: 26 Feb 2015, 2:56 pm
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| Thanks for your advice kraftiekortie, I already make sure and listen when he gets in, we call it 'venting' lol. It's like he has to get it all out verbally before he can move to the relaxing part of the evening. I don't do much talking then, just let him get it all out. I'll bear your advice in mind... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: New job - help! |
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Posted: 25 Feb 2015, 11:06 am
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| My partner is (we're convinced) an undiagnosed Aspie. We've worked through many issues since starting to live together a few years ago and understanding and talking about his issues has been key to this. He went through a period in his mid teens when he was unable to go to school due to fatigue and ... |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: I feel my sexual obsession is hurting my relationship. |
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Posted: 04 Aug 2013, 2:54 am
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| Okay, firstly, what do you do to try and make her squirt? Just stop doing that particular activity for a while, concentrate on the other things that you can do with her. (You do know that certain things make squirting more likely, although it's mostly down to the individual) Secondly, as a woman who... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: nice guy pursuing my ex- Aspie |
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Posted: 03 Aug 2013, 1:10 am
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Replies: 17
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| I'm not an aspie, but I am a woman. I have experienced stalking a little bit, one of the things my ex used to sit in his car at the end of the road he knew I was living in and follow me when I left in my car and send me hundreds of pounds worth of unwanted flowers. OP, you're not a stalker, you've b... |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: Sexual therapy from a prostitute? Treating virginity/Incel. |
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Posted: 29 Jun 2013, 3:08 pm
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Replies: 46
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| Okay, I've read some of your other posts, and I'm trying to give you the benefit of the doubt here, you're starting to sound like a 15 year old troll. Firstly, you may feel unlovable and are unable to connect to girls, I know my aspie is lovable and I do love him with all of my heart, which is partl... |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: Sexual therapy from a prostitute? Treating virginity/Incel. |
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Posted: 28 Jun 2013, 6:28 pm
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| I've got a couple of things to add to this post, firstly puddingmouse must know my life story. I was amusing myself with young men, my aspie (although we didn't know at the time) was looking for sexual experience and possible relationships, just not with women my age. I thought he was cute on the we... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Finding an NT girlfriend....need advice please! |
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Posted: 19 Jun 2013, 4:52 pm
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Replies: 21
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| Hi tcorrielus I'm an NT, my partner is Aspie, although we didn't know at the time we first met. I always understood he was a bit awkward and 'odd', but I've always loved individual people who walk to the beat of their own drum. I like eccentric, I like interesting and so I managed to look past those... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: NT wife still struggling.... |
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Posted: 10 Jun 2013, 4:38 am
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Replies: 22
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| I agree, written communication can be effective, but please be aware that the written word can also be open to mis-interpretation. I've tried this method in the past but it wasn't always successful because I'd not made myself entirely clear or he'd misinterpreted what I'd written. A bit like getting... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Mother-in-law |
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Posted: 10 Jun 2013, 4:25 am
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Replies: 5
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| How about you let her in on your anxiousness, in a note as someone suggested above, or perhaps in a face to face conversation if you can manage it? She sounds like a wonderful, caring woman and very much worth the effort, she could ask you questions and you could help her to understand you a bit bet... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: NT wife still struggling.... |
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Posted: 10 Jun 2013, 3:51 am
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| Hi Teebie We've talked on another thread but I don't know your full history, however it does seem to me that you are trying very hard but I don't hear what he's doing (or thinks he's doing) to help the situation. You can't be and aren't responsible for everything that happens in your relationship an... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Should I leave this 5 year NT/AS relationship? |
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Posted: 02 Jun 2013, 11:31 am
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Replies: 16
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| Hi Teebie I understand what you're saying, I might have said the same thing a year ago, if we'd been aware of the aspergers at that time. We've found that it get easier, so far anyway. My partner was also coping with his own strategies and plenty of alone time, and it only became apparent when we st... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Should I leave this 5 year NT/AS relationship? |
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Posted: 01 Jun 2013, 1:07 pm
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| Teebie OMG yes, during a meltdown episode just let him get on with it. To be fair I very rarely experience this side of him nowadays but when it happens I simply wait it out until he's finished talking and getting it all out. What I tend to find is that for him there is always something at the botto... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Should I leave this 5 year NT/AS relationship? |
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Posted: 01 Jun 2013, 4:45 am
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| I recognise some of what your saying, when I (NT) first moved in with my partner we were unaware that he has aspergers. It was really the experience of living together that highlighted that he thought very differently and had different needs to most people that I knew. It's something we've been work... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Age difference |
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Posted: 27 May 2013, 10:42 am
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Replies: 29
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| Hi gotwake You're not alone. My aspie partner and I have a 22 year age gap and have been together for 5 years, he's 30 and I'm 52 now. We're blissfully happy despite the adjustments we've had to make since living together. We didn't know about the aspergers until living together highlighted various ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: I like a woman who's five years older and married |
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Posted: 24 May 2013, 11:30 am
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Replies: 13
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| Try a 22 year age gap! I met my aspie partner when I was 47 and he was 25, 5 years later we're still together and very much in love. Honestly, I sometimes wonder if a younger version of me would have stuck around long enough to see just what an amazing person he is, perhaps my life experience and ma... |
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