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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Why is autism such a bad thing? |
kittysgotclaws |
Posted: 10 May 2013, 3:48 pm
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I'm not autistic or Aspie (I don't think, anyway), but I just recently ended a relationship with a man who is and I have many friends with autism/Aspergers. Autism in itself is not at all a bad thing, but from what I know just from being with Chris and through talking to my friends who are affected ... |
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Forum: Random Discussion Topic: Any mixed-race people here on wrongplanet? :) |
kittysgotclaws |
Posted: 21 Apr 2013, 4:19 pm
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I'm Italian and Lebanese =) A little German too, and a smidgen of other European things on my mother's side. My skin is normally olive but I get very very dark in the summer if I'm outside a lot. My natural hair is very coarse and curly dark brown but I get it straightened because I don't want to de... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Fear of Intimacy? |
kittysgotclaws |
Posted: 21 Apr 2013, 4:15 pm
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Greb - In 23 years he's been engaged once and the girl, from what I've heard from both him and a mutual friend, was both mentally and physically abusive. He's also been raped by a few girlfriends and inadvertently got himself into prostitution (naivete at its finest as he explains it). And apparentl... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Fear of Intimacy? |
kittysgotclaws |
Posted: 21 Apr 2013, 12:33 am
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Nielson - I think you're right about mood and atmosphere and I'll definitely take that into consideration. Thank you.
Greb - He's a very old yet in some ways very young 23. I'm 25 and he's my first younger boyfriend so it's a bit of a learning experience for me in a lot of ways. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Fear of Intimacy? |
kittysgotclaws |
Posted: 20 Apr 2013, 5:32 pm
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He does prefer to be submissive, not just in bed, but in the context of the relationship itself. And yes, to answer your question, he does have feelings of inadequacy about his "size" and about his ability to perform (both are absolutely fine) because of mean girls. This is making it very hard for m... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Fear of Intimacy? |
kittysgotclaws |
Posted: 20 Apr 2013, 4:29 pm
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We've already had sex, but he told me after doing it that it was the first time he had felt passion and felt completely comfortable being with a woman and that really scared him. I think this has in turn caused him distress because he's not sure of how to react? He has a history of "bad" girlfriends... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Fear of Intimacy? |
kittysgotclaws |
Posted: 20 Apr 2013, 1:22 am
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Sorry to bother you all again, but if I ask any of my friends for advice I'm just going to get NT answers, so.... Chris has expressed to me that he's fearing sexual intimacy, and this is a problem that he has had with many women he's been with. He's also said he'd really like to have sex with me but... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Stereotyping amongst Aspergers |
kittysgotclaws |
Posted: 18 Apr 2013, 3:32 pm
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I've felt "different" since childhood and for the past year have suspected that I may have Aspergers...but it must be so mild that people don't see it. I have trained myself to understand body language through repeated interactions with people over a period of years (I have kept the same friends for... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Is this the typical aspie stare: |
kittysgotclaws |
Posted: 10 Apr 2013, 1:39 pm
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My boyfriend and I were talking about the autistic stare last night, or more like an autistic look that he gets and a lot of other autistic people I've known personally have given. It's not so much that but it's more like a blank stare when they can't wrap their heads around something. He gave it to... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Fun quiz-How neurotypical are you? |
kittysgotclaws |
Posted: 05 Apr 2013, 11:24 am
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I got 41% neurotypical. It's lower than I expected but I'm also not surprised in a way. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Questions About Autistic Boyfriend's Behavior |
kittysgotclaws |
Posted: 03 Apr 2013, 11:53 pm
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He isn't receiving treatment for his depression right now because he says he can't take SSRIs because he also has bipolar disorder. I don't know about that because I have bipolar disorder as well and I take an SSRI. I try not to push the getting help for depression thing too much....I don't know if ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Questions About Autistic Boyfriend's Behavior |
kittysgotclaws |
Posted: 02 Apr 2013, 11:40 am
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Replies: 18 Views: 13,358
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I try to explain to them that there are reasons why he does the things he does, and especially with my (teenaged) sister I have to really break it down and explain why he's doing these things that to them seem strange or rude. My sister is the one that's giving me the most trouble now, claiming that... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Questions About Autistic Boyfriend's Behavior |
kittysgotclaws |
Posted: 02 Apr 2013, 2:25 am
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Things have been showing improvement over the past few days. He's shown a little bit of understanding, not as much as I was hoping for, but he's giving what he can at the moment and that's what counts, ultimately. I was hoping that maybe if I made a home for myself here in this space I could have so... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Questions About Autistic Boyfriend's Behavior |
kittysgotclaws |
Posted: 30 Mar 2013, 12:29 pm
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Replies: 18 Views: 13,358
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Thanks, everybody. A lot of the reason he was upset with me has already been discussed and solved - he was upset because I was getting insecure in the relationship as a reaction to his behavior and he felt that it was an "inefficient" way to deal with it since it happens to him off and on. He's also... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Questions About Autistic Boyfriend's Behavior |
kittysgotclaws |
Posted: 30 Mar 2013, 3:22 am
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Replies: 18 Views: 13,358
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Hi there everybody - I've been dating my autistic boyfriend for almost four months now and I'm running into some things that are becoming difficult to deal with. I wanted to get some input on this from all of you. Everyone I talk to about this is NT and is interpreting it as him being an "as*hole", ... |
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