| Author |
Message |
Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: How do I know if someone wants to be friends? |
| Avalon |
|
Posted: 29 Dec 2007, 7:33 pm
|
|
Replies: 11
Views: 2,657
|
| I agree Greentea, that you can't force a friendship, and you have to consider the wishes of the other person. But then, it also depends on the nature of the friendship. It's difficult. Yes, it's better to meet on their terms very rarely, than not meet them at all. At times I do think I should just l... |
|
 |
Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Diagnosis experience - one year later and back to square one |
| Avalon |
|
Posted: 29 Dec 2007, 7:10 pm
|
|
Replies: 14
Views: 1,671
|
| Then I said, hold on, the point about AS is that people normally do have good jobs - ... Not at all. Most people with Asperger's don't work (granted, you "only" need to be affected socially to meet the diagnostic criteria, but as I said, most with AS don't work at all). I'm confused at the IQ thing... |
|
|
Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: How do I know if someone wants to be friends? |
| Avalon |
|
Posted: 29 Dec 2007, 6:47 pm
|
|
Replies: 11
Views: 2,657
|
| I would say that you make an initial effort with someone, then wait to see if they reciprocate. That's the way it ought to work. It's customary that the first person to express a time issue is the one who should call next. That is, if they said they'd be busy the following week, they're the one who ... |
|
|
Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Diagnosis experience - one year later and back to square one |
| Avalon |
|
Posted: 28 Dec 2007, 4:59 pm
|
|
Replies: 14
Views: 1,671
|
| KingdomOfRats, I do intend to look into the options of seeing someone privately. I think if that leads to a dead end, I'll just leave it for now. Ironically the person I was lined up to see was 5 minutes walk from my house! I'm sure there are lower functioning people who need the help and support mo... |
|
|
Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Diagnosis experience - one year later and back to square one |
| Avalon |
|
Posted: 28 Dec 2007, 3:46 pm
|
|
Replies: 14
Views: 1,671
|
| Thanks for all the replies! I knew getting a diagnosis wasn't going to be easy, but I did think I'd have gotten as far as seeing a specialist. But then it's more down to whether the specialist has time and wants to see you (unless you're paying I guess). I had done some research, enough to back up w... |
|
|
Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Diagnosis experience - one year later and back to square one |
| Avalon |
|
Posted: 28 Dec 2007, 12:23 pm
|
|
Replies: 14
Views: 1,671
|
| I read up on AS on the net about 16 months ago, after I was discussing with a friend about another online friend who was AS. I looked up AS and I seemed to fit a lot of the diagnostic criteria. I immediately thought "so this is what's wrong with me". I'm 35 years old. I e-mailed the National Autisti... |
|
|
Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Is Life Better or Worse Now Than When You Where Younger? |
| Avalon |
|
Posted: 07 Oct 2007, 7:35 am
|
|
Replies: 89
Views: 13,638
|
| Some things better, some things worse. I think when I was young, the good parts were much better and the bad parts were much worse. Now life is more of a shade of grey. I miss friends, family and fun from my younger days. I don't miss being bullied, being nervous and isolated. I think I am more resp... |
|
|
Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: Irelands Aspie's - Reply Please. |
| Avalon |
|
Posted: 01 Sep 2007, 7:23 pm
|
|
Replies: 5
Views: 1,152
|
| I'm from Belfast, and I visited my GP just over a year ago with my concerns about AS. A week or so later I phoned to check up. She told me a specialist in Belfast was interested in my case, but from what she said I could be waiting a year or more before I'd be seen. But that if someone was intereste... |
|
|
Forum: Health, Fitness, and Sports Topic: Gym |
| Avalon |
|
Posted: 09 Feb 2007, 6:45 pm
|
|
Replies: 7
Views: 1,538
|
| A few weeks ago, I got back into the gym after nearly a year away, having gone regularly for the past 5 or 6 years. At times I get in there and after 10 minutes just want to leave (I force myself not to), usually because it's busy and noisy. Today it wasn't so busy and I did a good hour of cardio an... |
|
|
Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Always thinking the worst of people |
| Avalon |
|
Posted: 09 Feb 2007, 6:33 pm
|
|
Replies: 19
Views: 2,335
|
| I do have big trust issues with my best mate of 10 years. In the past few years we've become a good deal closer and know a lot more about each other. He's very passive and I feel like I have to do most of the work in our friendship. But as I think he's such a good mate it's worth it. I used to be qu... |
|
|
Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Aspies and One-Sided Relationships |
| Avalon |
|
Posted: 27 Jan 2007, 5:06 pm
|
|
Replies: 43
Views: 6,837
|
| You're right Revenant. My friend and I have lots in common and can easily talk for hours, and it's great once it's going. But I do seem to be the one starting things up all the time. I get the feeling he does occasionally try to initiate things with people, other than me, but seems to find people ar... |
|
|
Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Aspies and One-Sided Relationships |
| Avalon |
|
Posted: 20 Jan 2007, 5:47 pm
|
|
Replies: 43
Views: 6,837
|
| I feel like I'm making more effort than I should have to, and at times it does start to feel stupid or uncomfortable. But normally my efforts to initiate things pay off, so I guess that encourages me to keep doing it. At times I have pulled back and "ignored" my friend, but the really funny thing is... |
|
|
Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: -MSN messenger - social issue |
| Avalon |
|
Posted: 20 Jan 2007, 5:24 pm
|
|
Replies: 23
Views: 3,030
|
| I totally agree with the original post, LePetitPrince. I've only a small number of MSN contacts. One of them, who I don't talk to that often, will usually start the conversation. But another (who happens to be my best mate for many years - and who I meet every few weeks in person) only starts to con... |
|
|
Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Aspies and One-Sided Relationships |
| Avalon |
|
Posted: 20 Jan 2007, 4:05 pm
|
|
Replies: 43
Views: 6,837
|
| NeantHumain, I totally agree with your post. I've got a couple of friends, but even with my best friend I find myself putting in most of the effort - initiating contact, e-mails, IM etc. and arranging to meet is often a bit nerve wracking as I do about 90% of the asking. I've talked with him at leng... |
|
|
| Sort by: |
