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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Telling the difference between dating and socialising |
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Posted: 08 Aug 2013, 1:05 am
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Replies: 48
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| I and most women I know have been on more than one date where the guy paid but got no sexual favors in return, no second date. Both parties went their own way and nobody was too torn up about it. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Telling the difference between dating and socialising |
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Posted: 07 Aug 2013, 3:17 pm
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Replies: 48
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| Ann: of course I was referring to the beginning stages of dating. It takes more than splitting a check to basically break up a relationship and go back to being friends Opposite: when it comes to dating, you can either accept the wider societal expectations of dating or you can expand a lot of effor... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: "If I knew you had this Aspergers,I wouldn't have dated |
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Posted: 07 Aug 2013, 3:13 pm
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Replies: 22
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| to the OP: if you see work and intimate relationships as equivalent in terms of self presentation, well, no offense, but that's another facet to explore with a therapist. Also, personality disorders come in a wide variety, not all are "psychos." Of course you should not give someone a list of all yo... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Good news for my haters: The Boo is finally devastated. |
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Posted: 06 Aug 2013, 8:08 pm
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Replies: 93
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| I'm really sorry to hear what happened, Boo. It must be so disappointing. She must have fallen for you a bit in that short time and now she would like to hear something that will let her ignore the truth about your atheism. Please don't give her any false hopes. It may be tempting but it will just h... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: "If I knew you had this Aspergers,I wouldn't have dated |
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Posted: 06 Aug 2013, 8:02 pm
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| Yeah, she's saying some stupid things, like the medical excuses comment. On the other hand, she probably feels cheated. As you said, you did not reveal the full extent of your symptoms until after you got her to marry you. The purpose of dating is to get to know the other person. She fell in love wi... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Telling the difference between dating and socialising |
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Posted: 06 Aug 2013, 7:52 pm
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| I definitely agree that splitting the bill = friend zone There was a suggestion on page 1 about kissing her hand. Speaking from an NT woman's perspective: please, for the love of all that is good in the world, don't kiss her hand. Not unless you are a european man over the age of 70. Otherwise hand ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Relationship Advice |
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Posted: 17 Jul 2013, 3:02 pm
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Replies: 16
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| Speaking as an NT female I'll say this: you should have asked her if it's ok to include your single friend on a couples' night out. Two issues here, really: if you're hanging out with your gf and you want someone else along you should always let her know first, AND, a couples' might out is by defini... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: therapy dogs and fundraising |
| frankton |
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Posted: 15 Jul 2013, 7:49 pm
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Replies: 8
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| There are lots of puppies in shelters. Many are purebred as well. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Meltdowns around trusted people |
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Posted: 15 Jul 2013, 12:19 pm
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Replies: 14
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| What you have is the generic version of Ortho Tri-Cyclen. Norgestimate is the progestin component and ethinyl estradiol in the estrogen component. That's a combined pill, second generation. They now make Tri-Cyclen Lo, a third generation lower dose pill. Unfortunately, that version is not yet availa... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Meltdowns around trusted people |
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Posted: 14 Jul 2013, 11:39 pm
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Replies: 14
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| Many women have trouble with mood while on hormonal birth control. Are you taking a combined (estrogen + progesterone) pill? If so, you may want to try a progesterone only pill (sometimes called the mini pill). Usually its the estrogen which has a greater negative effect on mood and mood stability. ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Would you still believe in love if . . . |
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Posted: 14 Jul 2013, 11:21 pm
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Replies: 59
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| I meant that everyone deserves to be in a relationship with someone who loves them for who they are. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Would you still believe in love if . . . |
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Posted: 14 Jul 2013, 8:29 pm
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Replies: 59
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| I actually thought of a career in mental health at one point but I knew I couldn't do it because I would have an immense amount of trouble being empathetic and objective with any BPD patient. According to an experienced therapist I spoke with and other research I've done on my own, the drama queen t... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Good news (or not) |
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Posted: 14 Jul 2013, 7:46 pm
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Replies: 34
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I would text her and ask her how she's feeling. You don't have much to lose.
If you try to set up another date and she flakes out on that as well then you will know for sure that she doesn't want to see you. |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Turning off your brain in social situations? |
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Posted: 14 Jul 2013, 7:18 pm
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Replies: 11
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| I know you didn't ask me, but I meditate so I thought I'd give you my perspective. I don't think I've ever not had anything on my mind. Both the conscious and subconscious parts seem to be busy 24/7. The kind of meditation where you are supposed to sit and try to clear your mind and not think of any... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Would you still believe in love if . . . |
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Posted: 14 Jul 2013, 6:04 pm
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I'm sorry if you were hurt by my words. Looking back I see they were definitely curt.
I apologize if I came across as rude. I usually manage to keep my mouth shut in relationship advice or support situations but something about your story triggered me. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Would you still believe in love if . . . |
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Posted: 14 Jul 2013, 1:17 pm
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| The point both you and Black Sabre seem to be missing is that while everyone of us is a product of our environment (however good or bad) we all have a duty to ourselves (and certainly to our children) to protect ourselves from people who are abusive, NO MATTER the deep reason. Freakin Hitler was hor... |
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