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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Was it sexual harassment? |
| Therese04 |
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Posted: 26 Jan 2015, 7:59 pm
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Replies: 28
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| I was bullied horribly and constantly all through school. I've been pantsed, been teased because I liked certain boys who would never have liked me, had a lot of things done like that. It was bullying and horrible. It was embarrassing. I consider it bullying and not sexual harrassment. Of course no... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Is the thought of friendship overwhelming to you? |
| Therese04 |
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Posted: 24 Jan 2015, 3:45 pm
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Replies: 22
Views: 1,577
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| I feel suffocated when I know a lot of people, it makes it hard to eject from certain scenarios. Thanks for sharing. What would be an example of this type of scenario? Like if I were to want to quit a club, job, or if I wanted to drop out of college or transfer. I would feel trapped by the people t... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: What is the best way to make friends with an Aspie? |
| Therese04 |
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Posted: 24 Jan 2015, 3:30 pm
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Replies: 39
Views: 2,306
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| I know the question wasn't directed towards me. Obviously, she was touched by the gesture. Even if she's Aspie, she is not bereft of human feeling (people tend to forget that, sometimes). She's a Dean at the school; are you a teacher there? If so, there might be some kind of professional boundary w... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: What is the best way to make friends with an Aspie? |
| Therese04 |
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Posted: 24 Jan 2015, 1:12 pm
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Replies: 39
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| Did she ever ask you to hang out with her and her friends again? Does she talk to you at work even a little, if you don't initiate? Does she talk to you more than other people at work? My guess is that she likes you, but is afraid of a new relationship. Perhaps she has been hurt deeply (you might k... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: What is the best way to make friends with an Aspie? |
| Therese04 |
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Posted: 24 Jan 2015, 10:31 am
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Replies: 39
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| Thanks Needygirl. I have seen you in here before and can always relate to what you say. Your comment about the waking up falling asleep cracked me up! Too funny!! ! Oh something kind of funny....... There is this woman I met who works across the hall from me that I connected with right away. I start... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: What is the best way to make friends with an Aspie? |
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Posted: 24 Jan 2015, 9:27 am
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Replies: 39
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| I don't like a lot of intensity myself; I'm already all hyped up by default. I don't like to be "champing" or "chomping" at the bit. I would also rather be "on the ball," rather than "on the stick" LOL. I don't like constant background music--unless it's clas... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: What is the best way to make friends with an Aspie? |
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Posted: 24 Jan 2015, 8:29 am
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Replies: 39
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| My husband has outright told me I am exhausting at points and overwhelming him with the amount I want to do. We have learned to live with our differing degrees of energy. Some people I talk to about what's going on with me have told me their head is spinning just from listening to me say all I have... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: What is the best way to make friends with an Aspie? |
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Posted: 23 Jan 2015, 11:52 pm
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Replies: 39
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| I found this post refreshing. In what ways do you find Aspie's to be exhausting? I find myself exhausting at times and I don't even have AS. Although I do believe my ex-husband has AS and he could be all of what you described but I never found it exhausting. Just that his expectations of me could be... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: What is the best way to make friends with an Aspie? |
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Posted: 22 Jan 2015, 9:03 pm
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Replies: 39
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| This is perfect. I do appreciate your input. No. She has brushed me off for 3 years. I think she really will think about it. You're right. I just need to give it time. Not sure how I can focus the conversation on myself in a way that will interest her. She is a top researcher in her field. She has a... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: What is the best way to make friends with an Aspie? |
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Posted: 22 Jan 2015, 7:56 pm
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Replies: 39
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| Thanks SO much Sinanju. I really appreciate yiur insight. You have no idea. It's so helpful and makes me feel better. The problem is I no longer work with her so all of our interactions are via email and it is always me who initiates the email. She always responds, but her response is usually brief.... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Why won't my coworkers add me on Facebook? |
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Posted: 22 Jan 2015, 7:24 pm
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Replies: 29
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| I know this post is as old as hell, but I have the EXACT same problem. It actually really upsets you, especially when you try and be friendly to people. Maybe they just don't think we are "normal" or seem annoying or "off". I don't think it will ever stop hurting no matter what ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Is the thought of friendship overwhelming to you? |
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Posted: 22 Jan 2015, 5:42 pm
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Replies: 22
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Feyokien wrote: I feel suffocated when I know a lot of people, it makes it hard to eject from certain scenarios.
Thanks for sharing. What would be an example of this type of scenario? |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: What is the best way to make friends with an Aspie? |
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Posted: 22 Jan 2015, 9:31 am
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Replies: 39
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| I guess my biggest question is why can friendship be so overwhelming for people with AS? This is going to sound kind of sad, but speaking from my personal view... it's because we're not used to it. My barriers are 20,000 stories higher than the average person's. Things that probably seem innocuous ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Is the thought of friendship overwhelming to you? |
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Posted: 21 Jan 2015, 9:10 pm
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Replies: 22
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| Just curious if developing friendships (even with people who want to be your friend) is overwhelming for other people and why? |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: What is the best way to make friends with an Aspie? |
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Posted: 21 Jan 2015, 6:32 pm
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Replies: 39
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| Thanks so much for all your input. I am trying to think of a way to respond briefly while still addressing the points you have made, which can be a challenge for me. Keep in mind that in order to do that I am leaving out a lot of details despite it's length. I guess the best way to address everythin... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: What is the best way to make friends with an Aspie? |
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Posted: 20 Jan 2015, 9:33 pm
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Replies: 39
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| I am an NT who works with the AS community. I met someone a couple of years ago in a professional environment who I connected to right off the bat. We worked for a very short period of time together. The more I got to know her the more I suspected she might have AS. I asked her to go out once and sh... |
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