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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: What is testing like?? |
| Elanor |
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Posted: 27 Dec 2014, 8:49 pm
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Replies: 1
Views: 385
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| Hi, I was recently told by my therapist that he believes I have Asperger's, but he wants me to undergo seven hours of testing to get a diagnosis. I'm really scared of what the testing will be like, partly because seven hours is a long time for me to be around other people in a strange place, and par... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Unconventionally attractive |
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Posted: 15 Sep 2014, 4:30 pm
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Replies: 48
Views: 8,030
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| Conventional beauty simply means the most healthy and fertile women. I think that that is a too neat. Beauty standards do seem to change over time sometimes significantly. Its certainly true but only partly It changed in men after birth control pills and mass media became more widespread (compare G... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Don't flirt with me that way! |
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Posted: 15 Sep 2014, 12:03 pm
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Replies: 7
Views: 1,976
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| Being attracted to is one thing... initiating contact is another. That being said, if you see this guy in the corner do you go up to him or do you wait for him to make the move? If he's there quiet and all its almost guaranteed he will stay there. So... you may be attracted to him, he may be attrac... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: manly men vs vulnerable effete men |
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Posted: 15 Sep 2014, 10:05 am
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Replies: 34
Views: 4,541
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| I want a man that is not afraid to show his emotion and show himself vulnerable, but I also want him to be confident and not labile. Someone that dares voice his problems, but that has the strength to fix them. First impression wise: confident, but not and arrogant and dismissive dick. o.O showing ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: seeking vs waiting |
| Elanor |
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Posted: 15 Sep 2014, 10:00 am
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Replies: 27
Views: 8,971
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I don't believe they are mutually exclusive. You can "seek" inasmuch as you look around for people you're interested in and approach them to get to know them, yet not fixate on finding the right person right now, if that makes any sense. You can also be patient without being passive.  |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Did God forget? |
| Elanor |
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Posted: 15 Sep 2014, 9:58 am
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Replies: 38
Views: 4,259
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| Well, I don't know if there's a god or not, but I do know that it seems like love just happens when it happens, I would focus more on finding someone you love than someone who loves you. The only person you control is yourself. You aren't owed anything but you also can't just "take" things when the ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Don't flirt with me that way! |
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Posted: 15 Sep 2014, 9:48 am
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Replies: 7
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| [youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gTFljCRnGN4[/youtube] I recently came across this video on YouTube about how to flirt effectively. The last 30% or so is devoted to how men should flirt with women, and I was surprised and confused because, honestly, none of the things they suggest are things ... |
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Forum: Bipolar, Tourettes, Schizophrenia, and other Psychological Conditions Topic: Aspergers and schizophrenia? |
| Elanor |
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Posted: 08 Sep 2014, 11:54 am
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Replies: 8
Views: 3,572
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| My psychiatrist told me at my last visit that he thinks I have early warning signs of paranoid schizophrenia in addition to autism and he wants to do more tests on me. Has anyone else received both diagnoses? What is it like being treated for both? I'm pretty worried right now and don't know what to... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: He wants an open relationship |
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Posted: 08 Sep 2014, 11:52 am
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Replies: 20
Views: 3,450
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| When I met my current boyfriend, he was a virgin and I had a moderate amount of experience. We've been together for a while now and I couldn't tell that something was wrong until suddenly he tells me that he needs to have an open relationship because he wants to see what other people are like. He wa... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Eye contact tip |
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Posted: 08 Sep 2014, 11:47 am
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Replies: 7
Views: 1,470
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| I keep trying tips like this but it's hard for me to even look at people's faces for fear I'll make accidental eye contact, which freaks me out. I tend to just look away from them and stare at objects in the room. Does anyone else have this problem? |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: In "like" with someone, in love with someone else |
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Posted: 19 Feb 2014, 4:00 pm
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Replies: 6
Views: 719
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| Thank you so much, everyone! I really appreciate your input and I've decided to continue seeing the second guy without disclosing my feelings for my friend, because I feel it will be best for everyone involved in how it will make them feel. The second guy and I can have fun together and not move too... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: In "like" with someone, in love with someone else |
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Posted: 14 Feb 2014, 2:08 pm
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Replies: 6
Views: 719
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| Hi guys, I posted here a while back asking for advice on the situation where I am in love with my best friend and he has no feelings beyond friendship for me. :( Well now something else is complicating that situation. My friend is now dating someone else :( He's not sure if it's going to last but he... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: How do I act like I'm not in love? |
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Posted: 15 Nov 2013, 5:08 pm
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Replies: 14
Views: 1,060
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| But I worry about if he gets a girlfriend, how I will react to that, whether I'll be able to be nice to her and deal with that. I know he's looking for dates but he's awkward like me, but he's an attractive guy and I know he will find a worthy girl at some point. I think I will be okay with things ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: what's the deal with the negativity?! |
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Posted: 15 Nov 2013, 5:05 pm
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Replies: 17
Views: 2,117
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| Negativity happens. I often have to remind myself that this is an autism forum, and as such, some of us on the spectrum can be as blunt as anvils. Yes, feelings often get hurt and I'm sure the perpetrators don't mean it, but communication deficits is what we're known for. It is, after all, part of ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: what's the deal with the negativity?! |
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Posted: 15 Nov 2013, 5:00 pm
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Replies: 17
Views: 2,117
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| Negativity is kind of the correlative of frustration. I suppose I can see that. If someone were that frustrated, though, I'd question their motivation in casting judgment on others, anonymously or no :) Thanks for the encouragement. I can use advice and I will stick around here as long as people ar... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: what's the deal with the negativity?! |
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Posted: 15 Nov 2013, 4:24 pm
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Replies: 17
Views: 2,117
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| Okay so I know a lot of us people with (suspected) autism get the short end of the stick love-wise. I'm one of them as you'll note. And I haven't read stuff here very long so forgive me. But really, why do people here seem to be so quick to judge others and get down on them when they're asking since... |
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