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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Complicated Situation |
| tonyland |
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Posted: 19 May 2014, 10:00 am
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Replies: 4
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| Hi folks, So life is being a bit tricky at the moment and I find myself in need of some impartial advice. I'm married, have been for a few years now. Recently my (step)father-in-law was diagnosed with terminal lung cancer, we'll call him Bob for the sake of this post. We are not close, and my wife i... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Difficulties at Christmas |
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Posted: 10 Dec 2013, 8:55 am
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Replies: 14
Views: 1,112
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| I quite enjoy Christmas Day. Usually it's just me, ,y wife and my father-in-law and it's nice and relaxed. Unfortunately, Boxing Day is a different matter. We have to go see my Mother-in-law and her husband. That is the same every year - the TV is turned up to truly deafening proportions, while her ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: avoided by an aspie |
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Posted: 09 Dec 2013, 3:30 pm
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Replies: 32
Views: 9,475
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| I have been at this for 2 years, folks! I have never laughed at him or made snide comments, even when he's ticked me off and DESERVED it. Do you realize that we have feelings too and that your behavior affects others, sometimes negatively? It's v hurtful. You don't want to get hurt, but it's ok to ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Is anyone else bothered by printed tiles? |
| tonyland |
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Posted: 09 Dec 2013, 3:07 pm
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Replies: 12
Views: 1,009
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| I notice them, but I can't say it bothers me overmuch. I am usually de-stressing or very bored when I notice patterns. |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Adoption - as an aspie |
| tonyland |
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Posted: 09 Dec 2013, 2:38 pm
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Replies: 18
Views: 1,948
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| It's been nearly a year now since my wife and I went through this. It may be a long post and a bit rambling, for which I apologise in advance. Firstly, A bit about me. I'm married, my wife and I have been together for a little over ten years now. I have two degree's and I work for myself, making a f... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Does anyone have trouble looking for things? |
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Posted: 09 Dec 2013, 1:37 pm
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Replies: 22
Views: 1,667
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| As long as I can visualise it I can find it - it's like my brain has a preconceived idea of what the thing I am looking for should look like. For example, earlier in the week, I went to the cupboard to get a can of soup out. Now I know what this soup looks like, I use it all the time, but the superm... |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: Sex curiosity |
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Posted: 06 Dec 2013, 2:17 pm
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Replies: 29
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| hi, i dont like talking about sex or anything about it but being an adolescent loaded with hormones i cant seem to escape it. i have a few statements to make, like: is anyone my age a virgin anymore!? all of my Ex-Friends seem to have lost they're virginities, not that i'm complaining that i'm the ... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Smoking |
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Posted: 04 Dec 2013, 7:40 pm
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Replies: 89
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| I started smoking when I was around 16, and gave up when I was 29. I used to use smoking and to a lesser extent drinking as a social crutch. I gave up drinking around the same time I stopped smoking. The thing is I really enjoyed smoking - yes, I know, it is a disgusting habbit. However I found nic... |
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Forum: WrongPlanet.net discussion Topic: Site Suggestions |
| tonyland |
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Posted: 29 Nov 2013, 8:10 pm
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Replies: 900
Views: 150,997
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| A responsive template would be great. It is a bit awkward to use on a tablet at the moment. |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: How do you keep the conversation going? |
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Posted: 29 Nov 2013, 7:40 am
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Replies: 16
Views: 2,184
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| Yeah, this. Is a bit of a blind spot for me too. If it's someone I know well, then it's much less of a problem (usually), as I have a pretty good idea of their interests, what's going on in their lives ect. But with people I have just met or don't know well, it's a different story. I have the usual,... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Smoking |
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Posted: 29 Nov 2013, 7:21 am
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Replies: 89
Views: 7,683
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| Thanks guys, some interesting responses. I just want to make it clear quickly - I'm not encouraging anybody to take up smoking, it's a very unhealthy habit. What I am interested in are the effects of nicotine in and of itself. When I gave up smoking, it was actually for health issues - I have Gastro... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Need advice on relationship with an NT. PLEASE |
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Posted: 28 Nov 2013, 7:05 am
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Replies: 28
Views: 2,283
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| I am currently in a relationship with a loving understanding NT women. I am finding it difficult to maintain this relationship as my need for space and ordered environment is no longer practicable. The innate differences of our natures is VERY frustrating. Has anyone been in similar situation? is i... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: The diagnostic process: Your experience |
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Posted: 28 Nov 2013, 5:53 am
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Replies: 11
Views: 1,172
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| I'm not sure it is something you need to prepare for. You have made a good start actually talking to friends and family. Typically a diagnosis takes place over a few sessions. Your profile doesn't say how old you are, but typically the Psychiatrist will want to get a feel for your background, includ... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: How do I approach this? |
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Posted: 28 Nov 2013, 1:37 am
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Replies: 10
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| Forgive my ignorance of how the US educational system works, but is there a board of governors of some kind you can write to with your concerns as a final option, should all else fail? |
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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: Hi - New to forum |
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Posted: 27 Nov 2013, 1:35 pm
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Replies: 11
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| Hi! I joined recently as well. I'm a high functioning - mild autistic person. I especially hate social related stuff. I stim alot, but to myself, etc. rocking back and forth, tapping my feet, doing this weird thing where I feel my hair for certain, really soft parts. I have hypersensitive hearing, ... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: The sound of the TV |
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Posted: 27 Nov 2013, 12:58 pm
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Replies: 15
Views: 1,257
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| I live at my parents house. They love TV. I hate TV. Sometimes the TV drives me crazy. I lost my earplugs. My mom comes home from work and she walks from the front door to the kitchen where she immediately turns on the tv. She turns it up so loud and my room is above the kitchen so I can hear every... |
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