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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Husband wanting to invite people over to our house |
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Posted: 31 Dec 2013, 11:45 pm
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| Is this really worth divorcing over? It wouldn't be for me. Is there any way you and your husband can laugh at the innapropriate things your dad-in-law says? Make it a game? And you know, sometimes autistics are known to say the 'wrong" thing too. [understatement] When did I mention divorce? Lol Co... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Husband wanting to invite people over to our house |
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Posted: 31 Dec 2013, 11:39 pm
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| Is this really worth divorcing over? It wouldn't be for me. Is there any way you and your husband can laugh at the innapropriate things your dad-in-law says? Make it a game? And you know, sometimes autistics are known to say the 'wrong" thing too. [understatement] When did I mention divorce? Lol Co... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Husband wanting to invite people over to our house |
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Posted: 31 Dec 2013, 11:36 pm
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| How did you become married to somebody as opposite as yourself? Didn't this kind of example occur when you were dating? I know the old saying goes; opposites attracted and all that nonsense. I don't understand how two contrasted pairings, can survive for a prolonged period of time in complete peace... |
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Forum: Random Discussion Topic: In one word, how do you feel right now? |
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Posted: 31 Dec 2013, 11:09 pm
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Forum: Bipolar, Tourettes, Schizophrenia, and other Psychological Conditions Topic: Bandwagons and diagnosis. |
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Posted: 31 Dec 2013, 10:52 pm
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| I can relate to this. My doctors have always seemed to think I'm a hypochondriac. I'm not. In fact I tend to ignore health issues. But as soon as I say I think I have this they dismiss it. Like when I had tonsillitis I told the doctor I had it and he laughed at me but I was right. I usually go in pr... |
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Forum: Bipolar, Tourettes, Schizophrenia, and other Psychological Conditions Topic: So why would anyone want to be bipolar? |
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Posted: 31 Dec 2013, 10:27 pm
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| And I know a lady who has a little boy who has autism and mood disorder NOS because he's only 7 and he's threatened to kill himself holding a knife. His father has bipolar. There's nothing good about that. No one wants to have to hospitalise their child! |
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Forum: Bipolar, Tourettes, Schizophrenia, and other Psychological Conditions Topic: So why would anyone want to be bipolar? |
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Posted: 31 Dec 2013, 10:23 pm
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| My second cousin has bipolar and one of my aunts and my younger sister have borderline personality disorder. I have HFA/Aspergers. I could say my sister is not as affected as me. At least her house is always pretty tidy and clean. She doesn't have executive functioning issues. But then I haven't ove... |
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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: Newbie |
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Posted: 31 Dec 2013, 9:58 pm
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Thank you  Happy New Year to you both! |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Husband wanting to invite people over to our house |
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Posted: 31 Dec 2013, 9:54 pm
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| My husband wants us to have people over to our house. So it's not just his father, but anyone.... friends.... family. He just wants to invite people over, and I don't. So it's a huge problem for us. I feel for you – that was a big issue in my marriage as well, and is one of the reasons we finally m... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Husband wanting to invite people over to our house |
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Posted: 31 Dec 2013, 9:40 pm
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| OR have him over because he's your husband's father and he wants to have him over. Decide in advance that you won't take anything he says personally. It's only a few hours or so out of your life that you'll have to tolerate him, and then he'll be gone. That seems like a pretty small sacrifice in or... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Husband wanting to invite people over to our house |
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Posted: 31 Dec 2013, 9:31 pm
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| that sucks, what about "being a good host" i.e. evacuating to the kitchen to replace somethign that doesnt need replacing or taking out the garbage? Or even restocking somethign all the way at the store? anyhow good luck and I hope you feel better once it's over. I know it can be stressfull to have... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Husband wanting to invite people over to our house |
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Posted: 31 Dec 2013, 9:29 pm
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| Let your husband invite people over, then find yourself somewhere else to be. As far as I can tell it's not inviting people over that is the problem, it's the particular person they've chosen to invite over. Having to deal with bigotry on New Year's is not my idea of a good time, either. Yes, his f... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Husband wanting to invite people over to our house |
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Posted: 31 Dec 2013, 9:19 pm
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| If he does come over and the dishes subject comes up again, you may want to invite him to show you how to do the dishes quickly. It has been said, "Everyone wants to be Hitler". However you often find that comments about what other think you should do diminish when the advising person is asked to d... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Husband wanting to invite people over to our house |
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Posted: 31 Dec 2013, 9:17 pm
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| My in-laws always stressed me out too, and basically wanted me to be a completely different person from who I really am. I guess it's a matter of compromise between you and your husband – so that he gets to spend some time with his family, but it stays within the limits of your coping ability. Woul... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Husband wanting to invite people over to our house |
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Posted: 31 Dec 2013, 9:10 pm
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| Do you benefit from having a quiet space? Is there a room in the house with a lock where you can go if you are getting overwhelmed that can be off limits to the in-laws? No, because my husband expects me to be social and thinks it is rude for me to go in our bedroom to 'get away' from visitors. :/ |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Husband wanting to invite people over to our house |
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Posted: 31 Dec 2013, 10:53 am
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| and I am not interested. He wants to invite his father around for New Years sometime for dinner. But his father is one of the least understanding people about mental illness and autism etc... He is in his late 60s and is very 'tough' and 'strict' ... don't know how else to describe him... he just is... |
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