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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Uncomfortable with Houseguests? |
| aspergermarried |
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Posted: 06 Feb 2015, 6:15 pm
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Replies: 19
Views: 5,306
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| Thank you, Kaux. So true. |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Uncomfortable with Houseguests? |
| aspergermarried |
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Posted: 04 Feb 2015, 7:04 pm
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Replies: 19
Views: 5,306
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| I think that what anyone that posts on this subject has to remember is: what is the situation at its worst (when you are overwhelmed and the situation is out of you hands or out of your area of control). Both the original post and I did not illustrate that usually things are easy (when you are worki... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Uncomfortable with Houseguests? |
| aspergermarried |
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Posted: 03 Feb 2015, 7:41 pm
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Replies: 19
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| Hi. I understand what this woman has gone through with the stepson living there. This is especially true when you hardly had funds to keep a good (soothing for an Aspie) environment with just the two people living there. I had two step children in and out constantly, having them around while I was a... |
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Forum: Health, Fitness, and Sports Topic: My sleep pattern! |
| aspergermarried |
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Posted: 21 Jan 2014, 7:53 am
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Replies: 2
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| I don't know, but I've just ruined my good sleep pattern by obsessive computer usage this evening. Hope mine goes back to normal, too. God help me to sleep a nice one hour this night! It's a nice long day tomorrow. |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Panicking when negotiating social outings |
| aspergermarried |
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Posted: 21 Jan 2014, 7:48 am
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Replies: 10
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| When I am not assertive enough or pro-active enough for my rights, I feel like that (upset, trapped, fight-or-flight). It is my responsibility to make sure that I will feel comfortable overall, however. When I think, "Yes, I can put up with this for a little bit longer; I can be flexible," it often ... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: don't know how to help AS friend |
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Posted: 21 Jan 2014, 7:21 am
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Replies: 10
Views: 1,156
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| Leave him alone and he'll come home, bringing his tail behind him! All kidding aside, a lot of artistic people go in and out of times to work and times to do nothing and just be. He might need the low functioning time, at times. "There is a time for everything under the sun..." Take care of yourself... |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: Do women like hugs? |
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Posted: 21 Jan 2014, 7:05 am
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Replies: 30
Views: 4,418
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| I like hugs from my husband more than almost anything else. If other people "aren't allowed" to hug me that day, I almost always still want him to do it. Physical contact wise, I'd rather be hugged (my calm way) than to do any other "fun" activity. We do have babies, too, so the other stuff is happe... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Tone Policing |
| aspergermarried |
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Posted: 21 Jan 2014, 6:46 am
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Replies: 12
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| My husband also likes to say, "You're yelling!" Then I can be the "violent" one and he can be the passive aggressive, but just so innocent bystander in our relationship. I hate it, too. Yikes, though. To get out of the blame game once it starts is just icky. Once it get's to the point of accusations... |
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Forum: Art, Writing, and Music Topic: Piano Music |
| aspergermarried |
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Posted: 21 Jan 2014, 6:31 am
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Replies: 26
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| Andras Schiff RULES Bach and Scarlatti to my ear. LOVE LOVE LOVE listening to him play.... even if I am a sensory overload bad-a mood. Debussy is my favorite piano composer for good emotion. Silliness sometimes. So is Poulenc. His music is just plain funnier to read though. They are both fun to play... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: ways of coping with your depression and building self esteem |
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Posted: 21 Jan 2014, 6:18 am
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Replies: 355
Views: 229,653
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| I have run the depression gauntlet, too, ever since realizing I wasn't similar to NTs as a teenager. What helps when the days are icky? These are things I try to do myself. At my lowest functioning day (yow baby! This is rock bottom): Simple self care 1. Water (just one at least) 2. Fresh air (open ... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: We didnt raise you to be a disrespectful idiot! |
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Posted: 21 Jan 2014, 5:33 am
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Replies: 6
Views: 826
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| It is a very poetic post. Neglect. They do things differently across the board and it feels unfair. If you show strong emotion they will isolate you. You have to calm yourself down once they isolate you emotionally. My family was good at not letting emotions show, going with the flow and not looking... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Self-affirmation Pledge for those with AS |
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Posted: 21 Jan 2014, 5:00 am
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Replies: 147
Views: 224,508
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We are.
We should be allowed to be.
We should allow ourselves to be.
We should allow ourselves to be non-NT.
We should allow NT to be NT. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Talking too much |
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Posted: 21 Jan 2014, 3:25 am
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Replies: 27
Views: 4,579
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| I used to get in trouble all the time for talking in class (interrupting the teacher with facts). I'm excited by facts and subject and just didn't get it that other people have the right to get excited over things that I think are stupid. I talk a lot less out in public now though, due to much humil... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Do you ever feel emotionally dead on the inside? |
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Posted: 21 Jan 2014, 3:02 am
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Replies: 38
Views: 6,334
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| I really love how the first post articulated so many things about socialization for Aspies. That all rings home to me. With regard to all above posts: Feeling emotionally dead on the inside usually comes at the point when I'm deprived of physical things: enough exercise, sleep, nutrition, fresh air.... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Aspergers Theory. |
| aspergermarried |
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Posted: 21 Jan 2014, 2:36 am
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Replies: 35
Views: 2,479
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| I agree with the first post in the first paragraph. My post will be just speaking for myself, I'm not speaking for the entire Asperger population. Sometimes I can tell when something is specifically wrong with another person or the environment, even when it is subtle. But, this is mostly true if I h... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Did you get lower grades than your NT peers? |
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Posted: 21 Jan 2014, 2:03 am
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Replies: 44
Views: 2,879
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| I would skip school starting in middle school due to stress. I would spend my days reading and gardening and hiking. 8th grade was good (almost all A's) because I had a homeroom teacher who would protect me pretty well from other students and because he was a good teacher in subject that interested ... |
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