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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Help me (NT) understand my friend (AS) |
| Sundance |
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Posted: 15 Feb 2014, 4:48 pm
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Replies: 45
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@Troy_Guther
Thank you very much for sharing your thoughts about friendship with me. I guess you are right and what you have written helps me to appreciate what I have with this guy without the need for labeling it  |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Help me (NT) understand my friend (AS) |
| Sundance |
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Posted: 12 Feb 2014, 5:09 pm
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Replies: 45
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| If there is any grounds for multiple interpretations of what he said, ask him to clarify Yes, you are right. I will do that. I think now you have to ask yourself if you can accept your friendship exactly as it is now & end it if you cant I need to know whether I am an exchangeable random interl... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Help me (NT) understand my friend (AS) |
| Sundance |
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Posted: 12 Feb 2014, 7:17 am
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| @deuterium It depends on what forms of 'interested' he implied. He may have meant he is not interested in you romantically Yes. I fully agree with you. His answer only makes sense when he meant that. because as you said Chances are if someone likes talking with you, they are open to being your frien... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Help me (NT) understand my friend (AS) |
| Sundance |
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Posted: 12 Feb 2014, 5:19 am
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| At the moment I'm mainly interested if I can still have a friendship wih him or not. And I don't see that if he is not interested in me as a person. Please explain: How can you consider it possible to have a relationship with somebody who is not even interested in you ??????? |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Help me (NT) understand my friend (AS) |
| Sundance |
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Posted: 12 Feb 2014, 1:30 am
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| My question about this point was very direct. And his answer was that he is not interested in me as a person. Sorry, I do not see a common ground for a relationship here.... whether he is attracted or not. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Help me (NT) understand my friend (AS) |
| Sundance |
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Posted: 11 Feb 2014, 11:52 am
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Replies: 45
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| He isn't interested :-( I told him today that I like to talk to him but have the impression that he is more interested in the subjects we are talking about than in me as a person. He answered that he likes to talk to me as well but he doesn't need to talk to me more often than before and that it is ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Help me (NT) understand my friend (AS) |
| Sundance |
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Posted: 05 Feb 2014, 4:05 pm
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Replies: 45
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| Are you surprised that he asked some questions? Or was there something else that effected your mood that made you not want to answer? Thats a misunderstanding. Of course I answered his questions. His questions were about general topics regarding my life (job, dog, etc.). However I wasn't in the moo... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Help me (NT) understand my friend (AS) |
| Sundance |
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Posted: 05 Feb 2014, 11:26 am
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Replies: 45
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| Update: Unfortunately our "date" went terribly wrong because the motor control lamp of my car lit up when we were heading for the motorway, so we turned around and drove back. I was very disappointed and I guess he as well, however he managed to hide it. I suggested to see another movie in our home ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Help me (NT) understand my friend (AS) |
| Sundance |
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Posted: 02 Feb 2014, 8:56 am
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I forgot to tell you. On Friday evening at our chess club he (out of the blue) told another guy (who I think is interested in me) that we are planning to go to the movies together
If he was NT I would interpret that as a way to tell the other guy to keep his hands off me  |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Help me (NT) understand my friend (AS) |
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Posted: 02 Feb 2014, 8:17 am
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Replies: 45
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| @all Thank you very much for sharing your thoughts with me which really helps me a lot! @Deuterium: My heart is not (yet) broken with this guy :-) I'm just confused and need some advice. If I hadn't a clue however why he is behaving in a way that seems rude to me, I would probably react similar as t... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Help me (NT) understand my friend (AS) |
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Posted: 31 Jan 2014, 1:10 pm
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Replies: 45
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| @Troy_Guther I don’t know how many girl-friends and/or dating experience he had/has (if at all). So you could be right with him having a presupposition that doesn’t allow him the thought of anyone liking him romantically. But, if that is true and he is seeing me as a friend, why is he refusing my pr... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Help me (NT) understand my friend (AS) |
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Posted: 31 Jan 2014, 3:17 am
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| @Troy_Guther Still not direct enough. You have yet to make your romantic interest in him explicitly known I'm shy myself and I had to summon all my courage to ask him out twice. Why do you understand where I am heading at and he simply doesn't. He is an extremely intelligent person. Even if he is un... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Help me (NT) understand my friend (AS) |
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Posted: 30 Jan 2014, 3:56 pm
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| @ Willard: Thank you so much for your reply. somebody needs to teach Sheldon some tact I always laugh out loud when Sheldon makes such remarks in BBTheory, but when I had my own Sheldon experience it wasn't funny at all :wink: Here is an update. After his last mail (referring to the film) I suggeste... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Help me (NT) understand my friend (AS) |
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Posted: 30 Jan 2014, 2:23 pm
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Replies: 45
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| I (NT) met him (he is aspergers) in a club and very soon I had the impression that he was attracted to me because we locked eyes very often (I know that is not typical for aspergers). Some weeks ago we began emailing on some common interests. When he offered me to lend me a book he asked whether I w... |
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