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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: care and feeding of your aspie |
| MissMaria |
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Posted: 23 Mar 2014, 4:33 am
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Replies: 396
Views: 107,925
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| I think reframing the issues might help. The door is an egress/fire safety issue. The desk configuration is an OSHA health and safety issue due to repetitive motion injuries, which can be addressed by purchasing longer cables as that would permit the equipment on the desk to be reconfigured in a man... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: What happens if you hide your Asperger's? |
| MissMaria |
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Posted: 23 Mar 2014, 4:17 am
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Replies: 23
Views: 3,531
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| Everyone keeps saying that it's best to tell NT partners about having Asperger's syndrome. What actually happens when you hide it? What happens if you *do* disclose? In my experience, everything that goes wrong in the relationship is pinned on the disorder...and by extension, the person who has the... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Anyone for an extreme cougar? |
| MissMaria |
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Posted: 22 Mar 2014, 8:43 pm
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Replies: 8
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| As long as they're both adults and they're both happy, who cares and what business is it of mine? I bred my "heir and a spare" during a miserable marriage to a peer-aged man; now I'm in it for the relationship, which is much more contingent upon how well our personalities fit together than upon our ... |
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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: care and feeding of your aspie |
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Posted: 22 Mar 2014, 8:28 pm
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Replies: 396
Views: 107,925
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| Is there a section of "care and feeding" which focuses on change within the workplace? I ask because I have a coworker who is definitely on the spectrum, but has never been diagnosed or referred for screening. (Apparently, his grandparents--who adopted him as a small child--thought they could just b... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: How do I avoid a train wreck? |
| MissMaria |
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Posted: 22 Mar 2014, 7:44 pm
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Replies: 11
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| In my initial panic mode, I'd forgotten: just because someone is/seems interested, doesn't mean I have to reciprocate. That realization removed a lot of the pressure I felt to "make a decision now" and brought an immediate sense of relief. I'm a big believer in "you don't poop where you eat" meaning... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: I don't want to be saved for marriage!! |
| MissMaria |
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Posted: 22 Mar 2014, 7:02 pm
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Replies: 27
Views: 1,774
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Who_Am_I wrote: Quote: But I don't want to be cast aside until girls start sagging Would that be around the same time you start having trouble with getting it up and your six-pack turns into a keg? Quote: (Hey, the truth hurts).
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: how to have a style? what is yours? |
| MissMaria |
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Posted: 22 Mar 2014, 3:36 am
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Replies: 18
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| I see you're from Brazil, where a woman's style is oh-so-important! Aside from your current "uniform" of T-shirt, shorts and flip flops, what do you like and feel comfortable in? What colors do you like? What textures? What are your interests? Do you like jewelry? Styled hair, makeup, nails...? (not... |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: Clothes shopping |
| MissMaria |
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Posted: 22 Mar 2014, 2:51 am
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Replies: 9
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| I get the "Kate" bigshirt at one stop plus dot com. You can usually pick them up on sale for $14.99 (USD); regular price they're $30. The "clearance" and "outlet" sections of the site usually also have a variety of sizes in discontinued colors. They carry other button-front styles that have a breast... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: I don't want to be saved for marriage!! |
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Posted: 22 Mar 2014, 2:13 am
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Replies: 27
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| I heard that bad boys get lots of dates and everyone else is saved for marriage. I don't want to marry! I want a nice string of relationships. But I don't want to be cast aside until girls start sagging (Hey, the truth hurts). I want to have FUN. I want to be the PARTY not the after-party. Is there... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Am I the only one who doesn't have a "favorite" an |
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Posted: 22 Mar 2014, 1:45 am
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Replies: 16
Views: 1,336
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| What a relief...I might not be "normal" but at least I'm not alone! |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Am I the only one who doesn't have a "favorite" an |
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Posted: 20 Mar 2014, 11:15 pm
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Replies: 16
Views: 1,336
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| I hate being asked "what's your favorite color" flower, food, book, movie, music, etc. because I don't have clear-cut favorites. I either like an individual option or I don't. Beyond that, I don't have hierarchies of things I like "more" or "less". I like "pretty" flowers and don't like "ugly" ones.... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Perfectionism and Asperger's |
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Posted: 20 Mar 2014, 10:59 pm
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Replies: 30
Views: 7,089
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| I've noticed two type of issues dealing with "perfectionism" with people on the spectrum (bear in mind "perfectionism" isn't a clinical term): 1. Anxiety or stress about things not being as you expected them to be and this includes anything from ordering food in a restaurant and not getting exactly... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: special interest is people |
| MissMaria |
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Posted: 20 Mar 2014, 10:43 pm
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Replies: 12
Views: 1,149
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| What if your special interest is people and understanding them and you had that at a young age? Would it be possible to learn to socialize just fine because of it? Just me musing. I think it depends on the unique blend of skills, talents, aptitudes and ineptitudes that is "you." Some people probabl... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: How do I avoid a train wreck? |
| MissMaria |
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Posted: 18 Mar 2014, 9:23 pm
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Replies: 11
Views: 1,273
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| How bad is this cancer in terms of his day-to-day health? Can he get around? I ask because my mom dated a man for 5 years while his wife was dieing of cancer. You don't have to leave them, really - if it gets to a point where romance isn't possible, just make yourself happy. It's not like you can't... |
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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: care and feeding of your aspie |
| MissMaria |
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Posted: 18 Mar 2014, 9:16 pm
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Replies: 396
Views: 107,925
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I can see you've been working hard, and it's MUCH easier to navigate than before!
I also appreciate the different background; this isn't as pretty as the other, but I find it easier to read.
I've made it thru' #7.
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Meltdowns unstoppable? |
| MissMaria |
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Posted: 17 Mar 2014, 6:41 pm
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Replies: 12
Views: 1,092
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| I think it depends on the person, and the trigger. My sister and younger son regularly had meltdowns; so did my cousin . My sister was as an adult diagnosed with PMDD; I was misdiagnosed as bipolar disorder, type II; my son was diagnosed with PDD-NOS; my cousin was diagnosed with hyperactivity befor... |
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