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Forum: The Haven Topic: It All Falls Apart (ps. I'm back) |
| SolinaJoki |
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Posted: 28 Apr 2014, 7:06 am
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Replies: 1
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| I have a daughter with wild mood swings, and it is so taxing trying to help her. I too cannot stop because I don't know how she would handle it. So on it goes, waiting for her to get to a point where she realizes that something has to change. You sure have had a lot to handle! Glad you are back to t... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Sick of Fighting? |
| SolinaJoki |
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Posted: 28 Apr 2014, 6:55 am
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Replies: 13
Views: 679
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| Well said. I sure can identify with that. Sometimes when I get up in the morning, the only thing to keep me going is looking forward to going to bed at night, back to oblivion. |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Do most people in general make you nervous |
| SolinaJoki |
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Posted: 15 Apr 2014, 6:52 pm
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Replies: 10
Views: 830
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| I agree. I feel anxiety whenever I'm going out in the world, even just to the grocery store. I live in a very friendly city and there is always a conversation to be had with the clerk at the grocery store or wherever. It makes me very nervous. I have sort of memorized how you do small talk and stick... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Do you often feel this way when looking at "old friends |
| SolinaJoki |
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Posted: 15 Apr 2014, 6:49 pm
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Replies: 36
Views: 2,701
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| In other words, if you were to meet these people today, would you actually feel uncomfortable or intimidated if you were forced to hang out with them today? It's kind of a strange and somewhat unpleasant feeling but when I look at a lot of these people, I definitely feel that way. This thread seems... |
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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: Newbie |
| SolinaJoki |
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Posted: 13 Apr 2014, 7:21 pm
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Replies: 23
Views: 856
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| ...and I have this constant low level of anxiety which spirals out of control over really minor things. ...many times people will spend years looking for emotional reasons for something which is just the way you are wired. So I suppose my question is has anyone else had difficulties with addiction ... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Why to live |
| SolinaJoki |
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Posted: 09 Apr 2014, 12:26 pm
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Replies: 8
Views: 585
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| I'm sorry to hear you are in such a bad place. Maybe you can find some companionship on Wrong Planet to make you feel less alone. I hope things look up for you soon. |
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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: I am alone in the universe |
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Posted: 09 Apr 2014, 12:19 pm
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Replies: 18
Views: 1,196
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| I think we touch each other in small ways, finding things in common between us, feeling a little less alone, but really no one can know what another experiences. We are all alone in that sense. It is those small ways we touch one another that are important. You say, "You are not like me." Wouldn't t... |
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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: New kid on a new planet |
| SolinaJoki |
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Posted: 09 Apr 2014, 12:14 pm
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Replies: 7
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| Hello Ember7 and welcome to Wrong Planet. |
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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: Hi. I'm new, and I have so much to say! |
| SolinaJoki |
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Posted: 09 Apr 2014, 12:12 pm
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Replies: 9
Views: 682
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| I agree with Bumchod about not telling other people that you think they have Asperger's. They might be in a very different place in their journey than you are and not be ready to know or able to handle the idea, even if you are right about it. Also, in telling other people about having Asperger's, I... |
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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: New member. Greetings |
| SolinaJoki |
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Posted: 08 Apr 2014, 12:33 pm
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Replies: 5
Views: 530
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| After reading up on this a lot, I realised I've had it most my life as well. This was more a relief than anything else, since I always felt different and have been labeled "weird" more than I would like to admit. Also I could never understand the "normal people" in this world. I also realized that ... |
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Forum: Women's Discussion Topic: Does anyone feel too selfish to be in a relationship? |
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Posted: 08 Apr 2014, 12:26 pm
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Replies: 7
Views: 2,687
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| I have known my husband for 35 years and been with him as partners for 20 years. I am on the spectrum and he is more marginally on the spectrum, so we share a number of issues and he can understand me more than someone who is totally NT. I think given our Aspergerian features, we live life more "sid... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: My best friend is an aspie.. |
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Posted: 08 Apr 2014, 12:20 pm
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Replies: 5
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| What a great way you describe your friendship. You are both lucky to have one another. |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Hard Time Making Friends? |
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Posted: 08 Apr 2014, 12:15 pm
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Replies: 17
Views: 1,624
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| Without my husband (who is marginally on the spectrum so understands me) and some family, I would be entirely alone. I'm not close to those in my family either. We get together a couple of times a year for a couple of hours only. I have had no "friends" since school, and even then, as tetris said, t... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Are you "set in your ways?" |
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Posted: 07 Apr 2014, 7:23 pm
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Replies: 11
Views: 2,710
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| I'm definitely set in my ways. For me, it comes from hating "different." Any time something is other than the norm, it causes me stress, anxiety, I'm very wary of it. Going to the dentist, visiting someone, working in the garden when I have not done that all winter. Even good different is still diff... |
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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: New adult here |
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Posted: 04 Apr 2014, 6:59 am
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Replies: 8
Views: 452
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There may be negatives about Asperger's but there are positives too, as you pointed out. I like to think that I am my boss's most trustworthy, predictable worker. Always on the job. Always ready to work where I'm needed. The love of sameness, used to advantage.
Welcome. |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: just some down talk |
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Posted: 02 Apr 2014, 7:09 pm
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Replies: 4
Views: 507
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| I want so much to have something profound to say to you to make you feel better, give you a reason to keep on going when you are struggling, but I have no such thing. I have struggled with major depression off and on my whole life. I have done a lot of therapy. Once I found the right therapist it wa... |
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