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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Help me understand my aspie ex |
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Posted: 07 Sep 2014, 11:46 am
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| BirdInFlight, thank you. Your post brought tears to my eyes. I do realize that you are right in everything you say. A good friendship, or a good relationship for that matter, shouldn't hurt this much. None of it makes sense to me, and it probably never will. I really wish you all the best, glad to h... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Help me understand my aspie ex |
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Posted: 07 Sep 2014, 4:46 am
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| Thank you all for your opinions and advice. It's not that I'm in denial about the relationship being over, at this point I'm more upset and confused about his behavior during our post-relationship friendship than anything else. But I suppose it's possible his words and actions were intentionally hur... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Help me understand my aspie ex |
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Posted: 06 Sep 2014, 5:27 pm
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| Seconded. Personally, I cede control of relationships of mine to the women and let everyone reach an understanding of my mind on their own time. Seems to me accepting this paradigm would be a healthy change of pace for this guy. You need to loudly and clearly tell him in your own words that it's re... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Help me understand my aspie ex |
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Posted: 06 Sep 2014, 4:45 pm
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Replies: 23
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| First off I just wanted to apologize if anyone here got the impression that I thought my ex's behavior was somehow typical for people on the spectrum. I'm not suggesting anything to that effect, I was just hopeful that maybe someone here recognized some part of my story and could help me fill in the... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Help me understand my aspie ex |
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Posted: 06 Sep 2014, 2:24 pm
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| Maybe the OP is mistaking the universal "you" for the specific. Often people get offended thinking I am insulting them, when I am actually talking about the human condition, or something. It would have been nice to know that that was it, but no such luck. We don't live in an English speaking countr... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Help me understand my aspie ex |
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Posted: 06 Sep 2014, 2:16 pm
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| WHY are you subjecting yourself to this unkindness? Aspie or not, he shouldn't be allowed to treat you so poorly. This is not a friendship. Thank you for sharing your thoughts. I don't really understand why I've let him keep at it. I think I thought it was some kind of misguided expression of jealo... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Help me understand my aspie ex |
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Posted: 06 Sep 2014, 9:40 am
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| Thank you for your input and your kind words. I get what you are saying, It makes sense that he and I would view a situation like this very differently. Personally, I'm ok with uncertainty but not with being treated with disrespect like I feel I have been. I just wish I had foten the opportunity to ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Help me understand my aspie ex |
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Posted: 06 Sep 2014, 8:03 am
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| Hey everyone! I posted here a while ago regarding a devastating break-up with my aspie ex-boyfriend. It's now been about six months since we broke up and a lot has changed. After about a month of not speaking we started talking again. We have been in regular contact, and also met up and done stuff t... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Does he really not love me anymore? |
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Posted: 15 Mar 2014, 7:17 pm
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Replies: 20
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| Thanks so much you guys. I am really grateful for all of your input! 886: I really appreciate you expressing my situation so bluntly. I think that whenever a person decides to enter a relationship, they also decide to take on part of the resposibility for that relationship, including the means of en... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Does he really not love me anymore? |
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Posted: 15 Mar 2014, 10:59 am
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| leafplant: I hear you, I really do. But I'm pretty sure it was not just a matter of differing levels of interest, but rather a combination of things going on in him, psychologically and emotionally. And maybe things going on in me as well, my desperation to try and solve something because I reckoned... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Does he really not love me anymore? |
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Posted: 15 Mar 2014, 8:10 am
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| 886: He has a part-time job and is also studying full-time (as am I). But I have suspected that he is not really happy with his situation and himself, but is also very afraid of dealing with things, an talking about difficult things and it seems he is opting to just not. He does often display a lack... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Does he really not love me anymore? |
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Posted: 15 Mar 2014, 6:08 am
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| I think what I was trying to express was that his reasoning for saying what he said does not make sense to me. Whatever his reason for breaking up would have been, it would of course have been hurtful. But the fact that he would rather ask me to leave, than to communicate about and explore a possibl... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Does he really not love me anymore? |
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Posted: 14 Mar 2014, 11:07 pm
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| Just an FYI: I just read a bit online about self-sabotaging behavior in relationships. I was gasping at how many of the descriptions fit the different behaviors of my boyfriend. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Does he really not love me anymore? |
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Posted: 14 Mar 2014, 10:15 pm
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| Thanks guys, this has really given me a new perspective on things. I know my (ex)boyfriend is stubborn and proud so I don't expect to hear from him anytime too soon. Meanwhile, I will have to try not contacting him, seeing as he would probably only say something even more hurtful anyway. It's gotta ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Does he really not love me anymore? |
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Posted: 14 Mar 2014, 7:14 pm
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| Thank you so much, aspiemike, for your insight in all of this. I do agree with you, and I have at times suspected that his relationship with pornography was not as healthy as it should have been. That's why I initially asked him to quit it for a bit, but it seems like his reasoning went more along t... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Does he really not love me anymore? |
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Posted: 14 Mar 2014, 10:33 am
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| Hey everyone, Since I got into a relationship with an aspie man a year and a half ago I've been reading some of the topics here in hopes of better understanding some of the behaviors of the man I love. I've never posted anything, but I feel in such desperate need of answers right now. Two days ago, ... |
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