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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: being friends with ex's on social media |
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Posted: 05 Apr 2014, 10:06 pm
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Replies: 21
Views: 1,648
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| I rejoined social media recently, reluctantly, and noticed something I found odd: my friends are "friends" with their ex's on Facebook. Should I send my ex a friend request? It seems like it would be awkward. Is anyone on WP friends with their ex's on Facebook? I recently read two different articles... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: I have a hard time opening up to people |
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Posted: 20 Mar 2014, 12:58 pm
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Replies: 6
Views: 1,177
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| Sorry, how am I "showing so much personal baggage"? I thought this was an anonymous site where people could post what they wanted to. I guess I don't understand what you meant by that. |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Carrying on conversations |
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Posted: 20 Mar 2014, 12:45 pm
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Replies: 3
Views: 890
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| I need advice on carrying out conversations. I would say I'm socially awkward, introverted, and reserved. I have a hard time carrying on conversations. It's always been difficult for me. With people I know, I usually start out by asking how they are, what's new, etc., then a follow up question, but ... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: I have a hard time opening up to people |
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Posted: 20 Mar 2014, 12:38 pm
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Replies: 6
Views: 1,177
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| (Just for info on me: I'm not diagnosed with Autism or Asperger's. I've had anxiety issues and depression off and on my entire life. When I was younger I used to wash my hands so much that the skin would dry out and bleed. I've had panic attacks, including in the middle of class where everyone watch... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Need some advice - I dumped the only guy I've ever loved |
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Posted: 19 Mar 2014, 4:38 pm
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Replies: 40
Views: 2,187
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| LucySnowe: That's a good point. But is it wrong for me to want to know if he's ever thought about me? Is that selfish of me somehow? I let him go and tried to move on. I don't want to always have a part of myself that regrets what I did the rest of my life. Life's too short to live with regrets. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Should I stop being friends with him? |
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Posted: 18 Mar 2014, 9:26 pm
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Replies: 20
Views: 1,596
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| There are two red flags here to me: One, you have told him politely that you just want to be friends, but he keeps persisting. Two, he has a girlfriend. He isn't being considerate of your feelings, and on top of that, he already has a girlfriend. Maybe it would be in your best interest not to be fri... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Need some advice - I dumped the only guy I've ever loved |
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Posted: 18 Mar 2014, 7:43 pm
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Replies: 40
Views: 2,187
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Yuzu: But you can't even really see his face in the photo, it's from far away.... I'm confused at this point.  |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Need some advice - I dumped the only guy I've ever loved |
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Posted: 18 Mar 2014, 7:20 pm
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Replies: 40
Views: 2,187
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| The_Face_of_Boo: If they want to date, then they could make some changes, like I am trying to do. By taking a risk and being braver, letting yourself out there, the world opens up a little more. Something I've had to learn the hard way. leafplant: No need to be hard on anyone. Society stereotypes si... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Need some advice - I dumped the only guy I've ever loved |
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Posted: 18 Mar 2014, 5:56 pm
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Replies: 40
Views: 2,187
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| LucySnowe: Thanks for your input. I'm wondering now if this isn't just me being obsessive and dwelling on the past, which I do a lot. But I don't want to have this regret any more. It would be nice to have closure and move on, but I don't know if I can. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Need some advice - I dumped the only guy I've ever loved |
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Posted: 18 Mar 2014, 3:15 am
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Replies: 40
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| leafplant: That's a good point, I need to be happy with myself first and foremost. I'll definitely take the needed steps to become more confident in myself. I just rejoined Facebook and found his profile and it says he's in a relationship, but one of his other social media profiles says he's single.... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Need some advice - I dumped the only guy I've ever loved |
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Posted: 17 Mar 2014, 7:15 pm
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Replies: 40
Views: 2,187
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| leafplant: That's a good point. I might not want to remind him of the past. I feel like either way, if I never got back in touch with him or if I did, I would do something wrong or say something wrong and mess it up. And the last thing I want to do is hurt his feelings...again. I still don't know wh... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Need some advice - I dumped the only guy I've ever loved |
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Posted: 17 Mar 2014, 6:50 pm
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Replies: 40
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| smudge: Good tips, thanks. Marcia: Good to hear that you were glad you took that first step. Thanks for sharing your story. Yuzu: I don't want to be saved or fixed or anything like that. That's not why I want to talk to him. But you're right, I should wait to contact him until I'm more confident in ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Need some advice - I dumped the only guy I've ever loved |
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Posted: 17 Mar 2014, 5:28 pm
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Replies: 40
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| smudge: I thought about him during college, after I graduated, off and on for however long it's been...so I guess the answer to that would be no. But I will wait and get my s**t together and see how I feel after I start at a new job. I want to be independent and strong, not desperate and sad. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Need some advice - I dumped the only guy I've ever loved |
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Posted: 17 Mar 2014, 5:15 pm
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Replies: 40
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| smudge: I've been feeling insecure lately because I'm unemployed and I've gained weight. I looked different back then when I dated him. Now that I think about it, I don't have much to offer. No job, no car, no apartment. I'm socially awkward. I think about the negative things more than the positive ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Need some advice - I dumped the only guy I've ever loved |
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Posted: 17 Mar 2014, 5:04 pm
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Replies: 40
Views: 2,187
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smudge: Couldn't contacting him even once seem weird or stalkerish in this context? I'm probably just over-thinking all of this.
whatamess: You're right, I should at least try. I don't want to regret this the rest of my life. I already have regretted it for five years. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Need some advice - I dumped the only guy I've ever loved |
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Posted: 17 Mar 2014, 3:59 pm
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Replies: 40
Views: 2,187
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| smudge: I think back then I was scared of doing the wrong thing again or saying the wrong thing (and I still am), so I didn't respond to his Facebook "likes" on my photos. I deleted my account a couple of years ago. Should I get back on there? I don't know how else I'd contact him. But the last thin... |
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