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Forum: Art, Writing, and Music Topic: what are you listening to THIS VERY SECOND? |
| Rishikesh |
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Posted: 13 Oct 2015, 12:08 pm
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Replies: 65,702
Views: 2,553,857
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Just what does "friend" mean anyway? |
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Posted: 22 Jul 2014, 5:50 am
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Replies: 28
Views: 2,094
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| There is the game of self-protection goes on with NTs. People build the wall of noncence around them and keep it up, hiding behind it, taking bricks away one at a time, always checking for your reaction and when they find it wrong, they leave. Aspies usually make a lot of mistakes playing this game,... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Long-term relationship |
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Posted: 18 Jul 2014, 5:26 am
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Replies: 10
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| If he were the right one for you, you would not ask this question at all. I have been in 3 long term relationships (4 years, 4 years, and current one 7 years). The first two relationship I asked myself the same thing, since I had no idea if there was someone 'perfect for me' in this world. I could l... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Married AS/AS and frustrated! PLS HELP :) |
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Posted: 18 Jul 2014, 3:52 am
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Replies: 6
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| His one job of 10 years is not enough to support a family, he can't offer emotional support at home, he does not help with housework at all (including bills and appointments). He has parttime job 9 months out of 12 and play videogames all free time. Looks like he feels very comfortable with you. "I ... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Do you often feel this way when looking at "old friends |
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Posted: 24 Apr 2014, 9:14 am
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Replies: 36
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| I was just never compatible with anybody else. Never at all? I am done comparing myself. I look at me and only me, and see what progress that I am making. That's enough. The rest is BS and it gets in my way. Seems very sound attitude. Comparing is probably supposed to make us try harder or become b... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Do you often feel this way when looking at "old friends |
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Posted: 23 Apr 2014, 11:54 pm
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Replies: 36
Views: 2,800
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auntblabby wrote: I wanted to cross the street to avoid them even back then.
Oh, yes, I understand. Back than I had my own side paths and never went direct ways they used.
But now 20 years later reasons to avoid them are different.
It is not a fear now, but... maybe slight disgust. Not sure but it feels close. |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Do you often feel this way when looking at "old friends |
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Posted: 23 Apr 2014, 7:02 am
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Replies: 36
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| You know when you go on facebook or look up old people you knew from elementary school that you may have been kind of friends with and actually felt comfortable with? When you look at these peoples pictures ect today, do you often feel like their social skills, job status, and other abilities are s... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Hard Time Making Friends? |
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Posted: 14 Apr 2014, 12:28 pm
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Replies: 17
Views: 1,728
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| Have you tried to genuinely get to know people you talk to? A key is often to show interest in their lives and what they're doing. If someone tells you that they failed their test, ask how they felt about that, if it feels important to them, further on what their plans are etc. It's one of my probl... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Social skills |
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Posted: 04 Apr 2014, 7:29 am
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Replies: 8
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| Sometimes it is better just to say "sorry I was wrong", no matter how right or wrong you are. No, it isn't. You NEVER say you're wrong when you know you're right. I'd feel insulted if someone did that to me. You know you are right? How can you be so sure? There is no absolute. Ok, let's say you are... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Being laughed at |
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Posted: 04 Apr 2014, 7:00 am
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Replies: 19
Views: 2,227
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| From the replies, the best course looks like just taking note of what I was doing and simply don't do that again. You will do that again if you don't understand what you did wrong. He did nothing wrong. You are all normal. Please define 'wrong' and 'normal'. Wrong - what we were made to be able to ... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Social skills |
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Posted: 31 Mar 2014, 7:05 am
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Replies: 8
Views: 904
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| Sometimes it is better just to say "sorry I was wrong", no matter how right or wrong you are. No, it isn't. You NEVER say you're wrong when you know you're right. I'd feel insulted if someone did that to me. You know you are right? How can you be so sure? There is no absolute. Ok, let's say you are... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Being laughed at |
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Posted: 31 Mar 2014, 6:38 am
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Replies: 19
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Erwin wrote: Rishikesh wrote: onewithstrange wrote: From the replies, the best course looks like just taking note of what I was doing and simply don't do that again. You will do that again if you don't understand what you did wrong. He did nothing wrong. You are all normal.
Please define 'wrong' and 'normal'. |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Being laughed at |
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Posted: 31 Mar 2014, 2:52 am
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Replies: 19
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| From the replies, the best course looks like just taking note of what I was doing and simply don't do that again. You will do that again if you don't understand what you did wrong. Anyone know of some good ways to vent about all this? "One must howl with the wolves. When at Rome, do as the Romans d... |
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Forum: Stats Topic: What is the average age here? |
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Posted: 28 Mar 2014, 7:31 am
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Replies: 5
Views: 1,582
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| I don't feel like I can relate to people here based on anything other than diagnosis. And there seem to be a lot of people who list themselves as self diagnosed who troll people have been diagnosed by a professional. Is this just my perception? Or does someone else feel this way? I feel like anytim... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Social skills |
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Posted: 28 Mar 2014, 6:26 am
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Replies: 8
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| Sometimes it is better just to say "sorry I was wrong", no matter how right or wrong you are. |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Solitude makes me seek people, people make me seek solitude |
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Posted: 27 Mar 2014, 12:15 pm
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Replies: 17
Views: 4,169
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| The smaller a collective at work, the better. I have worked at large firms twice in my life, both times it was the worst experience for above mentioned reasons. The smaller firm, the better: they kind of don't have much choice about company and have to get to know you. Got two good fellows (within 1... |
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