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Forum: Getting to know each other Topic: Hi. I'm new, and I have so much to say! |
| Delilah85 |
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Posted: 09 Apr 2014, 12:35 pm
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Replies: 9
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| Agreed on the not telling people you think they're on the spectrum bit. It's offensive, even if that person already has a diagnosis. I'm carefully skating around one of the women in my quilt group, who I'm 95% sure has AS (and from what I hear of her husband, him as well) but I can't bring it up wit... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Do you get sick much more than average? |
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Posted: 09 Apr 2014, 11:53 am
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Replies: 52
Views: 4,757
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| Yes. It's mostly stomach bugs and the like. I haven't been severely, bedridden, ill for about four years now, but I find that I have days when I can't leave the house and it's safe to move more than a few feet from a bucket, sink, loo, etc. I get colds, but these days they're mostly mild, and someti... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Immaturity, black and white thinking, and aspergers |
| Delilah85 |
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Posted: 08 Apr 2014, 11:04 pm
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Replies: 23
Views: 2,607
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| I likewise struggle with this, as I think there's something about he Asperger's that makes me want closure and an explanation, even if it's brief. I think we're all so used to be socially rejected that we want to know why (plus that awkward conversation usually yields something that is useful for th... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: I'm a little sad. |
| Delilah85 |
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Posted: 01 Apr 2014, 9:20 pm
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Replies: 10
Views: 778
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| I think you've made a vast improvement already. It will be easier for people to decide whether or not they've got a compatible lifestyle to yours now. You seem a little down on yourself though. You could try putting the word, "inhuman" in quotation marks. You're clearly not literally inhuman, so if ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Aspergers + unemployed + trans = undateable to cis-women? |
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Posted: 01 Apr 2014, 9:11 pm
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Replies: 14
Views: 1,538
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| Have you tried online dating? Personally I've never been interested in women, so it's a bit hard to give advice. I don't see why you should be "undateable" unless you start labeling yourself as such. Confidence is always attractive. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: I'm a little sad. |
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Posted: 01 Apr 2014, 11:17 am
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Replies: 10
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| Thanks for your profile link. I imagine that you'd be able to attract more interest if you could give people a little more information. There're so many, "I'll tell you later" replies on it. If I were looking for someone, I might actually want to know about things like drinking habits, smoking, exer... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Coming to terms with being ugly |
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Posted: 31 Mar 2014, 5:55 pm
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Replies: 38
Views: 6,690
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| I think I'm relatively fortunate in the looks department. I certainly could have done a lot worse. I have been told by many, many more people that I was attractive, than I have had tell me that I'm ugly or plain. When I think about the people who told me that I was ugly, I come to the conclusion tha... |
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Forum: Random Discussion Topic: Say something nice about your autism. |
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Posted: 31 Mar 2014, 4:36 pm
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Replies: 24
Views: 1,422
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| If I think of something I'll let you know. If there was a pill that eliminated AS then I would take it in a heartbeat. I would too. Or anything to make me feel less out of place. On the plus side, I think I would be boring without it (although how would I know). I'm convinced I wouldn't be as intel... |
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Forum: Random Discussion Topic: Do You ever miss Your childhood? |
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Posted: 31 Mar 2014, 4:33 pm
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Replies: 25
Views: 6,155
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| I want my childhood back all the time, although with some changes. I wasn't diagnosed with ASD until I was 25, and I think that knowing this earlier in my life would have made it easier. I was consistently bullied and excluded as a child. I'm consistently bullied and excluded now, but I don't have a... |
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Forum: Bipolar, Tourettes, Schizophrenia, and other Psychological Conditions Topic: Having multiple mental illnesses really sucks. |
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Posted: 31 Mar 2014, 4:27 pm
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Replies: 6
Views: 963
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| I think you've come to a good place in your search for support and understanding. There are many people here from all different backgrounds who can help you. I too am suspicious of people, and avoid making new friends. I don't even bother anymore. I wish I didn't feel this way, but I've had so many ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Has anyone ever witnessed arrogant couples like these? |
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Posted: 31 Mar 2014, 3:42 pm
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Replies: 14
Views: 1,206
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| I've never witnessed this, although the idea is intriguing to me. I just don't understand why people would be intentionally hurtful like that. I've seen people insincerely flirting for free drinks, or such, but not just for a game. I wonder what they get out of it. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Girls, how strict are you when it comes to looks? |
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Posted: 31 Mar 2014, 3:38 pm
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Replies: 139
Views: 7,142
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| Looks are somewhat important. It's part of what makes you sexually attracted to someone, and that's necessary for a long term relationship. That said, I think that someone who is understanding, compassionate, interesting, and funny, makes a much better partner than someone who is simply attractive. ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Any advice for problems with in laws? |
| Delilah85 |
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Posted: 31 Mar 2014, 3:34 pm
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Replies: 2
Views: 494
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| Thank you very much sharing your experience Basso53. My husband has told me multiple times that he always intended to cut ties with his family once his mother died, but I've never really been sure whether he meant it. I think now it's inevitable if he wants to stay with me. I'll certainly have nothi... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: How Often Do You Think About Suicide? |
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Posted: 31 Mar 2014, 2:14 pm
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Replies: 155
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| I go for extended periods of time when I don't think about suicide at all. Then I go through extended periods where I think about it multiple times a day. It becomes very consuming and I find it hard to think of anything else at all. I'm in one of those periods right now. My life has become very iso... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: I'm a little sad. |
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Posted: 31 Mar 2014, 1:48 pm
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Replies: 10
Views: 778
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Hi. I'd love to give you some pointers. It could be that your profile just needs a little touching up. Do you have a link to it?
Kind regards - D |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Any advice for problems with in laws? |
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Posted: 31 Mar 2014, 12:19 pm
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Replies: 2
Views: 494
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| This is actually what spurred me to join this community. Prior to this I'd procrastinated, but I feel like I could really use some support/advice right now. I've never really gotten along with my husband's family; neither does he. I've tried really hard to be supportive of his mother as she has term... |
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