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Forum: The Haven Topic: Difficulties with online communication |
| ajvizz |
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Posted: 15 Feb 2015, 5:24 pm
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Replies: 14
Views: 576
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| I am struggling, continually, to connect with people in online situations. I am feeling very isolated in a lot of ways, but don't seem to have the same kinds of problems offline as I do online. I have a group of parents and kids that I meet up with regularly, have relationships with them that I can... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Feel unpopular online |
| ajvizz |
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Posted: 15 Feb 2015, 5:17 pm
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Replies: 32
Views: 1,681
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| I felt this way too. Then one time a person I don't normally talk to came up to me in person and said he liked some of the stuff I posted. And even referenced specific posted. Yet he did not like any of them. I realized the "like" button does not equate to how liked you are. |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Trust Issues |
| ajvizz |
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Posted: 15 Feb 2015, 5:10 pm
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Replies: 10
Views: 600
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| My girlfriend has trust issues and we're in a long distance relationship. She lives in UK and I live in USA. :? I have to make an extra effort on her and it's hard on me with being aspie and all. But she is totally worth it to me. So just remember there are people out there who are willing to put fo... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Don't like being touched? |
| ajvizz |
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Posted: 15 Feb 2015, 3:37 pm
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Replies: 14
Views: 2,793
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| I wasn't a fan of being touched either until after I had a couple of massages. After a while your mind realizes that being touched isn't bad and can actually be relaxing. And you should tell these girl before you date them that you don't like being touched. If they lose interest, they weren't that i... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Resources that Helped Me that I'd Like to Share |
| ajvizz |
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Posted: 14 Apr 2014, 11:41 am
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Replies: 7
Views: 945
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| Great resource. I still say the trial and error thing is important. If you do the right things because words on a computer screen told you, then it won't be personal enough. |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Hard Time Making Friends? |
| ajvizz |
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Posted: 14 Apr 2014, 10:04 am
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Replies: 17
Views: 1,723
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| Have you tried to genuinely get to know people you talk to? A key is often to show interest in their lives and what they're doing. If someone tells you that they failed their test, ask how they felt about that, if it feels important to them, further on what their plans are etc. It's one of my probl... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: She didn't add me on facebook |
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Posted: 14 Apr 2014, 9:40 am
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Replies: 20
Views: 4,483
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| Sorry that didn't work. At least she acknowledges you exist. Just keep trying but pace yourself. Last thing you want is to look like a needy stalker (like a situation I got myself in). BTW If it helps, I'll accept your friend request, just search for my name Alex Vizzini and look for my avatar pictu... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Should I try this AS group? |
| ajvizz |
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Posted: 13 Apr 2014, 9:55 am
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Replies: 9
Views: 776
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| I know how you feel. Going somewhere I do not know everything about gets me nervous all the time. I just take slow deep breathes and I tell myself to just deal with it. In time you will get more comfortable. |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: She didn't add me on facebook |
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Posted: 13 Apr 2014, 8:08 am
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Replies: 20
Views: 4,483
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| This line may or may not ruin your chances: "don't let that Rondo of the Beethoven Pathetique's Sonata bring you down! You'll definitely nail it the next time!" Depends how she takes it. For future reference, I find that it's better to say something she did good, rather than point out something that... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Hard Time Making Friends? |
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Posted: 12 Apr 2014, 7:05 pm
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Replies: 17
Views: 1,723
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| Who has a hard time making friends? I am a very likeable social person but I just do not connect with people on a deeper level. I have an inconsistent bit of close friends. I have more friends whom are casual. I do want another new close friend who can connect with me on the same level and have com... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Lost my best friend |
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Posted: 12 Apr 2014, 6:56 pm
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Replies: 15
Views: 1,161
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| She wasn't your friend. Just an acquaintance who was going through a similar situation. Meet more people. There has to be support groups for recently divorced moms. Groups are better because you don't have to focus on a single person. If one person bails on you again, you still have another. |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: She didn't add me on facebook |
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Posted: 12 Apr 2014, 6:27 pm
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Replies: 20
Views: 4,483
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| I had a similar experience. I sent a request to a mutual friend. It seemed like she ignored it for a month. After that month, I saw on my friend's feed that this mutual friend's mom was in the hospital. So I sent her a message, wishing her mom well. She said appreciated the message and accepted my f... |
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