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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: AS dating a NT - is it morally right? |
carpe |
Posted: 09 May 2014, 8:39 pm
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I never meant to clump all of you together and I never meant to offend anyone... I realize that all of you are different people and within any population- some of them will be legitimate jerks. There are just certain perceptions of the world that from what I have seen that are fundamentally differen... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: AS dating a NT - is it morally right? |
carpe |
Posted: 30 Apr 2014, 4:15 pm
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As a side note, do not believe all that you read. I remember at one point we had a huge argument and he read some self help articles to try to fix it; however, I did not respond the way the self help article said I would (not all of us NTs are the same!) and we ended up not talking for a long time. ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: AS dating a NT - is it morally right? |
carpe |
Posted: 30 Apr 2014, 3:56 pm
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Arahon... he is not my mate currently. It is kind of complicated. I still care about him but it always seems to implode (in part because of my insecurities I think). I will say that I did not know about the AS when we were trying to get things off the ground and that made it very difficult for me. L... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: AS dating a NT - is it morally right? |
carpe |
Posted: 30 Apr 2014, 12:43 pm
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There is a part of me that likes to think you are right Toy_soldier... and I think you are right about getting to know each others reactions to things and then knowing whether that is a reaction you can tolerate. For me, it was a lot easier knowing that the reaction I was getting was more a self def... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: AS dating a NT - is it morally right? |
carpe |
Posted: 30 Apr 2014, 12:18 pm
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From what I have read, it seems that a lot of naive NTs that don't know get into one and then have problems (that was me). I think sometimes the AS partner is undiagnosed, too. The divorce rate for NT-AS relationships is pretty high. If you read or google, it is pretty bleak. There are some pretty s... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Influencing an AS male |
carpe |
Posted: 29 Apr 2014, 8:53 pm
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Thank you for the advice and your stories!! You have all been so kind to me and I appreciate it. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Influencing an AS male |
carpe |
Posted: 29 Apr 2014, 3:40 pm
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T_ I think NTs are all different. I personally just want to know where I stand with someone and know that I can rely on them- because if you cannot rely on your partner, there is no point. Because I am not the most self confident person, I kind of require reassurance every once in a while that thing... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Influencing an AS male |
carpe |
Posted: 28 Apr 2014, 10:31 am
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So does this all mean that as the NT partner, we are not allowed to express any doubt? That seems impossible to me |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Influencing an AS male |
carpe |
Posted: 27 Apr 2014, 8:32 pm
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Thank you for the responses- they were very helpful.
Arahon- everything you said was very clear. I especially understand the part about worrying- I always felt like I needed reassurance about things and he was blissfully floating along because like three months ago things were fine!! |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Influencing an AS male |
carpe |
Posted: 25 Apr 2014, 11:49 pm
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To be honest, we are mostly one on one. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Influencing an AS male |
carpe |
Posted: 25 Apr 2014, 11:31 pm
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I have been in a complex relationship with an AS male (I am NT). There are times when it feels like he is very easily influenced about his feelings for me. When I am positive, he responds in kind. However, he can push me away and deny all feelings for me when I express any doubt. I worry about how e... |
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