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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Advice on helping my son with mild traits |
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Posted: 19 Jul 2018, 10:24 am
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| Eikonabridge hi, thanks for your reply. I hear you when you say that children cannot be trained out of autism, and that parents who are "autism warriors" don't seem to end up helping their children. Thinking about it, perhaps I didn't do an accurate enough job describing my son or my appr... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Advice on helping my son with mild traits |
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Posted: 17 Jul 2018, 9:37 am
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| Thanks for your advice! I still want to help him overcome any traits which may otherwise cause him problems later. Overcome traits or overcome problems? That's, I think, the little philosophical question that should be asked first. I actually meant to say problems rather than traits. Still, I believ... |
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Forum: Parents' Discussion Topic: Advice on helping my son with mild traits |
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Posted: 16 Jul 2018, 9:42 am
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| I'm here looking for advice about my 5 year old. I had an aspergers diagnosis when I was a child, and while I recognise a few mild traits in my son he would fall far short of getting a diagnosis. He's doing okay in school and has started to form friendships so it's not that I'm worried about him. Bu... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Being heard and resentment in a long term relationship |
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Posted: 12 Jun 2015, 6:45 pm
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| I totally understand loco's point of view. When she feels stress her husband gets stressed by this. Consequently he gets a bit down. When he's down he's more needy of her just at the time that she needs him. This causes her additional stress. Endless downward emotional cycle. If he'd try to pull hi... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: So I posted in the infamous AS partners forum for NT's... |
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Posted: 20 Feb 2015, 7:20 pm
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Replies: 545
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| It's a weird situation I'm in now. I was actually quite shocked to discover that there's such a strong idea around that AS is lifelong and cannot change. This makes me think I must have discovered some massive clues to unravelling the autism puzzle, and therefore I would like to do something with t... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: So I posted in the infamous AS partners forum for NT's... |
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Posted: 20 Feb 2015, 6:05 pm
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Replies: 545
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| I think it's a reasonable assumption if you don't know your partner has autism. And if the partner does know and is willing to put up with this withdrawal from communication, then they have to find ways to cope with it. We'll have to agree to disagree. I don't see wanting alone time as inherently a... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: So I posted in the infamous AS partners forum for NT's... |
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Posted: 20 Feb 2015, 5:40 pm
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| I think coping is a fair word. There is an emotional need that nts have, that the symptoms of autism make hard to meet. Not that it's unworkable, perhaps the nt is a loner or so social that these needs are met elsewhere. But autistic people are intrinsically socially challenged. I can agree to disa... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: So I posted in the infamous AS partners forum for NT's... |
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Posted: 18 Feb 2015, 5:24 pm
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Replies: 545
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| I think coping is a fair word. There is an emotional need that nts have, that the symptoms of autism make hard to meet. Not that it's unworkable, perhaps the nt is a loner or so social that these needs are met elsewhere. But autistic people are intrinsically socially challenged. I can agree to disa... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: So I posted in the infamous AS partners forum for NT's... |
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Posted: 18 Feb 2015, 10:31 am
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Replies: 545
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| I notice a lot of references over there to "the silent treatment." A lot seem to think autistics are maliciously non-responsive, that this behaviour is punitive and confrontational. When, actually it's the exact opposite. Its a desire for quiet and solitude. I would think it'd be fairly e... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: So I posted in the infamous AS partners forum for NT's... |
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Posted: 18 Feb 2015, 9:41 am
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| When I was much younger I felt like I was near the bottom of the social hierarchy. Everyone looked down on me and I felt like I was beneath them. Yet I knew I was extremely logical and would be able to beat most of my peers in a debate, so this became heavily tied to my self-worth. It was one of th... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: So I posted in the infamous AS partners forum for NT's... |
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Posted: 18 Feb 2015, 8:27 am
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Replies: 545
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| As for whether AS alone can cause abusive behaviour or at least result in behaviour that could be seen as abusive? While I know first hand that a healthy, supportive relationship is possible, I also think it's useful to explore if and how AS could potentially lead to a partner feeling abused. I not... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: So I posted in the infamous AS partners forum for NT's... |
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Posted: 18 Feb 2015, 5:56 am
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| Well, first of all the word "meltdown" is something that I would associate ASD and that's why I interpreted it the way I did. I also think that you've missed this line at the bottom of that post which specifically mentions her recent experience on Wrongplanet: After reading the hate on th... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: So I posted in the infamous AS partners forum for NT's... |
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Posted: 17 Feb 2015, 2:42 pm
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| I noticed that she said that in the latest replies to the person who revived that sociopath thread. Though I initially interpreted it to mean that it doesn't really matter if their partners have Aspergers or not, which I don't really think is that positive because they're still blaming it on Asperg... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: So I posted in the infamous AS partners forum for NT's... |
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Posted: 17 Feb 2015, 10:11 am
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| I must say I'm in 2 minds what to say about Bstn3 at the moment. On the one hand there is a huge positive change in her posting which is too easy to miss. She has recently started acknowledging consistently that many members of the ASPartners forum do not know their partner's true diagnosis, that it... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: So I posted in the infamous AS partners forum for NT's... |
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Posted: 17 Feb 2015, 7:56 am
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Replies: 545
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| "run a mile" Bstn3 must be British or Irish. Maybe that's why she lacks the Yank appreciation for freedom of speech. :wink: I know you're joking, but to prevent any confusion I should emphasise that those weren't her exact words. I cannot quote directly because her post and the entire thr... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: So I posted in the infamous AS partners forum for NT's... |
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Posted: 17 Feb 2015, 5:51 am
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| Oh hello, Thanks for the kind words. Actually I was banned from ASPartners for posting in this thread. :D Not only was she banned, she was also accused of being on the autistic spectrum purely because she participated in this thread. The words Bstn3 used were along the lines of "A true NT woul... |
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