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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: My crush/best friend |
| GWADIS |
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Posted: 05 Sep 2014, 5:29 pm
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Replies: 1
Views: 1,384
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| When I read your comments, I wasn't sure you were talking about a friend or a girlfriend, because of the high level of intimacy you both share. If I were you, I'd tell her how I feel about her, i. e. you feel comfortable around her, you like her, you care for her/her kids, etc. In my opinion, she is... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Can an AS man connect emotionally with a woman he likes? |
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Posted: 04 Sep 2014, 6:23 pm
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Replies: 19
Views: 3,146
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| Not all people with AS are like that. I think you're getting AS mixed up with men with alexithymic personalities. Thank you Marshall for your input. I've just learned another interesting word today, thanks to you. I agree that not all people with AS are like that, because I know that not every AS o... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Can an AS man connect emotionally with a woman he likes? |
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Posted: 04 Sep 2014, 4:14 pm
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Replies: 19
Views: 3,146
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| I finally sent a message to my AS friend last week, after I avoided him in a dancing event he attended with two women (including a woman I already saw him with in another dancing event). I apologized for not saying hello to him and not dancing with him that nite because I was afraid of experiencing ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Aspie boyfriend needs constant reassurance |
| GWADIS |
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Posted: 07 Aug 2014, 8:28 am
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Replies: 14
Views: 4,818
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| Sorry for the multiple messages. Does someone know how to delete the posts that are already submitted? I had a problem with my computer. Please PM me so that I can remove the extra ones. Thank you and sorry again. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Aspie boyfriend needs constant reassurance |
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Posted: 06 Aug 2014, 6:08 pm
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Replies: 14
Views: 4,818
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| I see it as it's a normal growing relationship, adapt with needs there, recognizing flaws there..etc. Don't create issues out of nowhere, please, log out and go on with your life with him. Forget the AS-NT relationship sites, think of him as a normal human with a distinct personality instead. Secon... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Aspie boyfriend needs constant reassurance |
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Posted: 06 Aug 2014, 6:08 pm
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Replies: 14
Views: 4,818
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| I see it as it's a normal growing relationship, adapt with needs there, recognizing flaws there..etc. Don't create issues out of nowhere, please, log out and go on with your life with him. Forget the AS-NT relationship sites, think of him as a normal human with a distinct personality instead. Secon... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Aspie boyfriend needs constant reassurance |
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Posted: 06 Aug 2014, 6:08 pm
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Replies: 14
Views: 4,818
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| I see it as it's a normal growing relationship, adapt with needs there, recognizing flaws there..etc. Don't create issues out of nowhere, please, log out and go on with your life with him. Forget the AS-NT relationship sites, think of him as a normal human with a distinct personality instead. Secon... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Im NT trying to understand my AS boyfriend |
| GWADIS |
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Posted: 03 Aug 2014, 9:54 pm
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Replies: 16
Views: 1,926
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| Chloe, don't stay there ... RUN ... FAST ... and don't look back. You are in denial and you're trying to understand him in order to avoid your own pain. Look at yourself in the mirror and ask "Am I happy with this situation?". If you cry, that's a pretty clear answer. This man is abusive, whether he... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Can an AS man connect emotionally with a woman he likes? |
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Posted: 03 Aug 2014, 9:01 pm
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Replies: 19
Views: 3,146
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| You are right Aspiemike. I thought about it too. It may have been just a tango crush. I've read that it happens often when dancing tango. I am used to sensual dances though (I dance zouk, salsa, kizomba/African tango, Blues and West coast swing), and I've learned not to pay too much attention to wha... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Can an AS man connect emotionally with a woman he likes? |
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Posted: 03 Aug 2014, 3:01 pm
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Replies: 19
Views: 3,146
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| I am very emotionally and empathic(kinda, I sometimes lack knowing how to show it even though i feel it.) I actually have been called clingy by people who are very very independent. I hope that there is maybe a woman who is more dependent like me. I am not super dependent either. I am when its abou... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Can an AS man connect emotionally with a woman he likes? |
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Posted: 03 Aug 2014, 2:30 pm
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Replies: 19
Views: 3,146
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| I totally agree with you Shebakoby. You confirmed what I intuitively felt (even if I never thought about any mental condition). He only knows why he acts the way he does, and I don't know him enough to ask any explanation. I can only accept and try to understand him. I feel better now that I have o... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Can an AS man connect emotionally with a woman he likes? |
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Posted: 03 Aug 2014, 2:14 pm
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Replies: 19
Views: 3,146
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| OP: Based on reading what you say about feeling drawn to him, and how he seems to fit AS description, I would say it is important to be very direct about it to him. Aspies do not get hints. Maybe tell him or give him a little note if you like him. Guessing games are not applicable, if he is Aspie. ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Can an AS man connect emotionally with a woman he likes? |
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Posted: 02 Aug 2014, 9:48 pm
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Replies: 19
Views: 3,146
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| I totally agree with you Shebakoby. You confirmed what I intuitively felt (even if I never thought about any mental condition). He only knows why he acts the way he does, and I don't know him enough to ask any explanation. I can only accept and try to understand him. I feel better now that I have ot... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Can an AS man connect emotionally with a woman he likes? |
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Posted: 02 Aug 2014, 6:17 pm
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Replies: 19
Views: 3,146
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| @ Stargazer and Waterfalls: I agree with you. I'd better base my decision on his reaction not on what I heard or read. I also agree with you that it is wiser to leave if the gap is too big connection wise. @ Waterfalls: I was refering to AS in general and my situation. Thank you for your clear answe... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Can an AS man connect emotionally with a woman he likes? |
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Posted: 02 Aug 2014, 6:06 pm
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Replies: 19
Views: 3,146
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| @ Shebakoby : I think he is/was interested in me because his behaviour changed compared to the first times we met/danced. He wouldn't look at me, talk to me or even smile the very first times we danced together. Three months ago, he started to talk, smile and was joyful any time he would see me ... ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Can an AS man connect emotionally with a woman he likes? |
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Posted: 02 Aug 2014, 4:55 pm
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Replies: 19
Views: 3,146
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| I met my tango friend 10 months ago, and I almost immediately knew he was an Aspie, even if it was just a concept for me at that time. Because we started to get closer three months ago, I decided to read more about this condition. I am very intuitive, highly empathic and I?ve experienced verbal and ... |
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