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Shabobcat
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24 Jan 2008, 5:35 am

I'm 21, got diagnosed a few days ago. At first I was glad to put a name to my wierdness and inability/insufficiant desire to maintain conections or be emotionally intimate, now I'm feeling a bit of a leper though, I can't understand this Aspie Pride as anything other than pride for prides sake. I respect that everyones experience is very different but for me having to intellectualize feelings in order to deal with them and communicate humanly with other people is like trying to eat peas with a knife. I'm usually ok at picking up social ques (Australia isn't known for extrodinary displays of subtlety) I just can't deal with them spontaniously or give them out with integrity or do anything other than panic and shutdown when they're directed at me or feel anything much that isn't a thought about a feeling and the only honest comfortable relationships I have are with my notebooks and my cat. how is being a robot person not a disability?



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24 Jan 2008, 6:44 am

Hi Shabobcat,

Welcome to WP

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how is being a robot person not a disability?


I don't consider people with AS "robot people". Sure, we may expereince emotions differently, but are in no way "robot like" as robots don't express ANY type of emotions.

I hope you enjoy posting here.


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24 Jan 2008, 7:45 am

Nice to meet you, Shabobcat. :) 8)


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24 Jan 2008, 8:04 am

G'day! I'm glad you're here.
The pride is for the positive strengths most of us possess. For instance, I do better than most NTs going into foreign cultures because I've had so much practice watching my culture and trying to figure out the rules and how to fake fitting in. My desire to learn and research is making me useful in Rwanda. (Oh, I guess I should say here that I am American from the state of Washington, upper northwest corner of USA)
The crippling parts can be worked with or around now that you are aware.



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24 Jan 2008, 8:22 am

cool, another aussie.

Australia is definitely a nice place to be an Aspie.

As for Pride for prides sake. Pride is for the sake of self-esteem. Self-esteem being the value that Pride is the virtue that accomplishes it.
And Aspie Pride; that's more to do with throwing off the shackles of the third party rules of existence handed down to us by a world geared to neurotypicality, learning to accept the attributes that reality has given us, and working from that base.



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24 Jan 2008, 12:36 pm

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24 Jan 2008, 4:13 pm

Shabobcat wrote:
I'm 21, got diagnosed a few days ago. At first I was glad to put a name to my wierdness and inability/insufficiant desire to maintain conections or be emotionally intimate, now I'm feeling a bit of a leper though, I can't understand this Aspie Pride as anything other than pride for prides sake. I respect that everyones experience is very different but for me having to intellectualize feelings in order to deal with them and communicate humanly with other people is like trying to eat peas with a knife. I'm usually ok at picking up social ques (Australia isn't known for extrodinary displays of subtlety) I just can't deal with them spontaniously or give them out with integrity or do anything other than panic and shutdown when they're directed at me or feel anything much that isn't a thought about a feeling and the only honest comfortable relationships I have are with my notebooks and my cat. how is being a robot person not a disability?


Oh?

BTW, I come from the Gold Coast.

You shouldn't feel like a leper. It's also optional, the Aspie Pride. Just be yourself.

What interests do you enjoy?


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25 Jan 2008, 2:35 am

All good and valid points, I particularly like

Izaak wrote:
throwing off the shackles of the third party rules of existence handed down to us by a world geared to neurotypicality
I do feel pride in who I am and it's incredibly refreshing to say something and have people respond in my language, I posted the above after telling my family about my AS and getting awkward pity and sweetness oozed at me which was unlike them and very disconcerting, I've since told a couple of friends and they've been great about it, very irreverent and funny. They said autism's replaced anorexia as the "in" disorder and that they wan't to get badges and "I'm with weirdo" t-shirts printed up. For my friends that's a declaration of undying loyalty patronizing though it may be.



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25 Jan 2008, 4:12 am

Shabobcat wrote:
... "I'm with weirdo" t-shirts ...

From CafePress:
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I'm sure you could get the arrow adjusted/removed.


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25 Jan 2008, 6:13 am

Hi and welcome to the Aspie community...


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25 Jan 2008, 3:34 pm

Hi and Welcome - I'm from Sydney.

I'm an aspie and proud of it.

Why....

1. Because I don't like the way a lot of NTs act, and I'm glad not to be that way.
2. My aspergers gives me advantages that NTs don't have - memory etc.
3. You have to find inner balance and be happy with yourself in order to survive.

there's no cure - nor is there ever likely to be - so you have to learn to live with it - even ... enjoy it.



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26 Jan 2008, 5:23 am

Shabobcat wrote:
All good and valid points, I particularly like
Izaak wrote:
throwing off the shackles of the third party rules of existence handed down to us by a world geared to neurotypicality
I do feel pride in who I am and it's incredibly refreshing to say something and have people respond in my language, I posted the above after telling my family about my AS and getting awkward pity and sweetness oozed at me which was unlike them and very disconcerting, I've since told a couple of friends and they've been great about it, very irreverent and funny. They said autism's replaced anorexia as the "in" disorder and that they wan't to get badges and "I'm with weirdo" t-shirts printed up. For my friends that's a declaration of undying loyalty patronizing though it may be.


Ah, nothing beats honey coated awkwardness :) Glad to hear about the friends taking it so well. It is a very distinctly Australian way to make a big joke of the whole thing. When they really mean: "That label doesn't mean anything to me. I still accept you for who you are no matter what you might be 'called'."



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26 Jan 2008, 11:32 am

Welcome Shabobcat.
I know what you mean about the 'Aspie Pride' aspect. If I was normal I wouldn't go
about proclaiming 'Normal Pride' ! I think as long as people do things they can be proud of it's more important than what they supposedly are.


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26 Jan 2008, 11:38 am

Welcome.
It has its ups, it has it downs. Some of your good traits may come from autism, but you may not attribute them to autism.
If you function on a primarily logical level, then your logic won't be clouded by emotion.



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27 Jan 2008, 3:12 am

loving that t-shirt

to respond to quartermass, I write, I read, I'm a glutton for stories so if anyones got some origional scribbles they don't mind sharing send 'em through, When I'm at home in Melbourne I love live music and pubs and plays when not broke but I'm crashing at my parents in the country for a few mounths so I'm all about walking on the beach going "mmm... pungent aroma of seaweed" walking around the farms and hills going "mmm... pungent aroma of cowshit" and walking around the bush going "mmm... pungent aroma of koala"