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31 Dec 2008, 5:55 pm

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I don't know, but a lot of the people I spend my days around seem to have different smiles, and they are telling me off for not giving the appropriate smile at the right time.

Can you get hold of a video camera? You could film yourself while reading or watching something that will give you a sad smile, a happy smile, an evil grin, etc. Print the relevant still images, then whip them out the next time and ask which smile would have been better. That would be the scientific approach. I don't promise it will increase social success in the short term. The question is, would you lose friends faster than you can find new ones by improving your smile?

Anyway, the smile you showed us should be good enough for anyone. Unless they want sad, I suppose. You don't look sad in that picture. Or tickled pink. Just friendly.

What sorts of different smiles do they have?

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There is a test where you are to look at different people smiling, and then tell if it is a genuine or a fake smile. [Link to the test page]

Hm. 14 out of 20, not significantly above chance as measured by a binomial test. And I have read the relevant book, too. I didn't practice, I admit.

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by the way, you got a very nice smile :lol:

Ah. Should I admit that's not me? I think not. Never turn down a compliment, deserved or not. Family motto.

I am not sure any photo of me exists with a genuine smile. All my on-camera smiles that I can remember look ... odd. I have given up smiling for passport photos. I have a choice between looking demented, embarrassed, and the "suspected mob enforcer" look. I haven't got the faintest idea how a spontaneous smile from me looks.



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31 Dec 2008, 9:42 pm

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I don't know, but a lot of the people I spend my days around seem to have different smiles, and they are telling me off for not giving the appropriate smile at the right time.


Can you get hold of a video camera? You could film yourself while reading or watching something that will give you a sad smile, a happy smile, an evil grin, etc. Print the relevant still images, then whip them out the next time and ask which smile would have been better. That would be the scientific approach. I don't promise it will increase social success in the short term. The question is, would you lose friends faster than you can find new ones by improving your smile?


A sad smile? People smile when they are sad?? How is that logical at all?? I can not imagine me doing that smile, so that one's off the list.. hehe.. a pure happy smile for me is in the picture I posted earlier in this thread. Any other attempts at smiling would look like the wild jungle tiger flashing its teeth.. And some gave me the nickname wildbeast, but that perhaps was based on other terms than just the grimace of my smile. I don't have a lot of friends or people I spend much time with, and I think they have accepted my way of speaking and all the quirky things I do, but sometimes they all just pause at once and look at me, and pointing out whatever thing I'm doing that isn't "normal". Not in a mean way, but I'm learning from it too, so I guess it isn't that bad. I have a hard time keeping friends. But I'm not really bothered by it anyway, so I might as well just keep smiling the way I do.


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Anyway, the smile you showed us should be good enough for anyone. Unless they want sad, I suppose. You don't look sad in that picture. Or tickled pink. Just friendly.

What sorts of different smiles do they have?


Honestly, I could not tell the different smiles from another. But I sense that it still isn't the same. Frustrating and confusing. I'm not quite sure how to show emotions with my face, It just looks so.. plastic.

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There is a test where you are to look at different people smiling, and then tell if it is a genuine or a fake smile. [Link to the test page]

Hm. 14 out of 20, not significantly above chance as measured by a binomial test. And I have read the relevant book, too. I didn't practice, I admit.

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by the way, you got a very nice smile :lol:

Ah. Should I admit that's not me? I think not. Never turn down a compliment, deserved or not. Family motto.


haha.. well, that's not very nice.. anyway, a compliment is a compliment :lol:

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I am not sure any photo of me exists with a genuine smile. All my on-camera smiles that I can remember look ... odd. I have given up smiling for passport photos. I have a choice between looking demented, embarrassed, and the "suspected mob enforcer" look. I haven't got the faintest idea how a spontaneous smile from me looks.


I look more or less like a drunken sailor on my passportpicture. But they say: If you look like your passport photo, you're too sick to be travelling.

Posting yet a picture, not sure if this is a smile though.
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01 Jan 2009, 4:41 am

Yes, that's a smile. Or a smirk...I think it depends on what you were thinking about at the time :)

Yeah, people smile when they're sad sometimes, often when reminiscing (recalling a happy memory but sad that those happy times have past), or smiling at a wake for a friend/relative when their eyes are full of tears but they're thinking something wonderful about the deceased - That sort of thing.
Me, my face goes dead of all expression when I'm sad. Or maybe it doesn't and NTs can read me better than I think...
Emotion isn't logical very often.



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01 Jan 2009, 6:18 am

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A sad smile? People smile when they are sad?? How is that logical at all??

Like Benjamming says. It comes from mixed emotions. Say you think of a good time you had with a friend you lost. The loss makes you sad, but if you think of something especially silly and funny you did together, that may make you smile at the same time. I tried finding example pictures. The best I found is here, the third drawing from the top. Also those two: link 1, link 2.

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but sometimes they all just pause at once and look at me, and pointing out whatever thing I'm doing that isn't "normal". Not in a mean way, but I'm learning from it too, so I guess it isn't that bad.

It's rather nice, I think. I usually hear that I've done something wrong only much later, second hand, and with too little detail to learn much that is useful. Makes me wonder whether people are too stunned or too polite to say anything to me at the time.

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What sorts of different smiles do they have?

Honestly, I could not tell the different smiles from another. But I sense that it still isn't the same.

I found a training programme that promises to teach people how to recognize concealed expressions. The stuff on the home page sounds a lot like some pseudo-scientific rubbish, but I got the link from Paul Ekman's site, and he is not a flake. I expect it works for most people. I can't promise it would work for an aspie. I haven't tried it myself.

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Frustrating and confusing. I'm not quite sure how to show emotions with my face, It just looks so.. plastic.

I know I read some stuff that could be useful. I can look for sources, if you like.

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Never turn down a compliment, deserved or not. Family motto.

haha.. well, that's not very nice.. anyway, a compliment is a compliment :lol:

Well, I did make it up on the spot. I don't think anyone's going to thrust a coat of arms on me in the immediate future, so I can change the motto any time I like. Today's motto is "You are the sound of one lip kissing". No, I don't know what it means, either. I really don't see how it can guide my life. But tomorrow's motto will be different. Perhaps I can live up to that, once I know what it is.

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Posting yet a picture, not sure if this is a smile though.
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Yes, looks like a smile to me. But if I knew it was directed at me, it would worry me a little. It makes you look like you know something I should know, but don't.



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01 Jan 2009, 10:12 pm

Uhh, here we go.

http://img381.imageshack.us/my.php?image=me1iu5.jpg << NO I AM NOT TOPLESS HERE D: seriously, I'm not.

and

http://img381.imageshack.us/my.php?imag ... nesgg8.png << pedo smile lol


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01 Jan 2009, 11:26 pm

This is a new pic of me:

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02 Jan 2009, 6:25 pm

MelDaGreek wrote:
Uhh, here we go.

http://img381.imageshack.us/my.php?image=me1iu5.jpg << NO I AM NOT TOPLESS HERE D: seriously, I'm not.

and

http://img381.imageshack.us/my.php?imag ... nesgg8.png << pedo smile lol


your pretty:)



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03 Jan 2009, 1:57 pm

Thank you :)


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05 Jan 2009, 6:09 am

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WOW, great !



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05 Jan 2009, 7:33 pm

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at manchester science museum ^.^



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06 Jan 2009, 2:21 am

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at manchester science museum ^.^


I want your jacket!



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06 Jan 2009, 5:54 am

teh jacket has a corset at the back ^.^



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06 Jan 2009, 6:21 pm

I only look at this thread evey now and then but I'm amazed what a nice looking bunch of people everybody is.


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06 Jan 2009, 11:06 pm

^ qt!
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