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08 Jun 2009, 10:34 pm

Hello...

I am a mother of a recently diagnosed aspie. I find many aspie traits in me and in my father. FINALLY I begin to find out why it is SO DIFFICULT for me to fit.
Both my father and I are very functional so I find no benefit in having a formal diagnose. Both married with family and, successful careers.
I always thought I was RAISED weird by my father.
At school I was a good student without having to study. Learned to read by 4. Was unable to make a real friend at school even when I had the same classmates K-12. Was slightly bullied in my teens but teased all of the time for being quiet and unable to speak up. College was easier for me. By Studying Computer Science I was then in a more neurodiverse environment. Also moving to a bigger city where differences are more easily accepted. (I live in Bogotá, Colombia)
Something that irritates me about NT's is always trying to interpret (misinterpret) my words and actions. I think I am really crystal clear, I speak what I think or I don't speak! What's the need to interpret?
My son is somewhat different, he CRAVES for friends, but he is unable to share his interests with his classmates. He always says what he thinks (asking people why are they smoking even knowing it's bad for them is a frequent example of this). He is somewhat clumsy. Now he is in several therapies. I am totally in love with my son, so much, i sometimes feel i "discriminate" my younger daughter for being neurotypical. I am not proud of this but it's true. I haven't been able to "bond" with my daughter like i feel i am bonded to my son.
My greatest fear is that my husband doesn't get to understand my son.

I'm very glad to find this place.



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08 Jun 2009, 11:55 pm

Welcome to WP!



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09 Jun 2009, 9:51 am

Hello, and welcome to the Wrong Planet neighborhood, neuroatipica.


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09 Jun 2009, 12:39 pm

Welcome to the Wrong Planet!


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