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Hi everyone,

I'm from the Philippines by the way. It's been very difficult for me to get along with others. I do not know if I'm just making this up to cover my failures or my not so perfect self. I am always seeking for something I am not aware of, as if something is missing. I need help please before I lose it.

I do not know if I have an AS but the characteristics (though not all) are often reflected in my personality.

I do not have any friends.
I couldn't tell if someone is true or sincere.
I seldom go out with someone.
I sometimes lack empathy with others.
I am not sure what other people feel about me.
I cannot read someone else emotions.
I like to be alone.
I cannot communicate my ideas well verbally. Often when I speak it sounds gibberish to others thought I think I communicated my ideas very well. My mind and lips is not in sync.
I'm scared to go out in public areas and crowded places.
I perspire and faint when trapped in any social gathering or events. I do not feel at ease.
I do not want to be noticed. I just want to be left alone even if you have to give compliments or say thank you for what I did.
I cannot differentiate criticism and compliment.
I even fear posting in this forum because I felt I might get rejected or ridiculed.
I'm having difficulties trusting everyone.
I feel alone and with no purpose (Existential crisis?)
I cannot concentrate once my routine has been changed.
My mind wanders a lot.
I worry too much all the time even if there is nothing to worry about.
When I do something I always go for the details carefully.
When I'm obsessed with something --for example Mathematics, Life, Symmetry, pattern, movies, Sudoku, puzzle, ebook, astronomy, string theory, Riemann, Hacking/Cracking(controlled environment)-- I do not want to stop and when I got interrupted or cannot solve something I freaked out, pissed off, felt hopeless, and get annoyed.
I philosophized a lot and question everything, particularly life.
When doing something boring (like job, or assignments in schools) and found something that interest me(like math). I got distracted and emancipate myself with the things that satisfy me without thinking of the possible consequences when I abandoned my priorities. I only got to realize things and try to do things normally when I thought of my wife, my daughter, and my mother.

Am I beautiful like you or just purely insane?
Do I fit here? I need help. I want to know if I do have AS or autism. I hope you could shed some light. Thank you.

Hi Jpiesta welcome to WrongPlanet

Hopefully this information may help:
Discovering if your on the autism spectrum, if you have AS can take a while and I often feel people are there own best judges, and to be honest the biggest misconceptions of people being on the autism spectrum is that we are all the same, we are not... in fact can be very diverse and different. So its not a matter of a simply check list, I wasn't diagnosed with any think until in my late 40s, I have many co morbid, associated conditions. Autism is the center, the differently minded part, as for diagnosis.. I feel its best before thinking about being diagnosed, write down as much information as you can will really help, back to when you were a child. As we get older we learn to change and adapt, does not mean we do not still have those differences, do what your doing now research and read as much as you can and then decide, if you feel you are I always say its best to know for sure before being diagnosed, as its not about the label, its about true identity.

Some things you can do, list, criteria ands test:
AS Symtoms (Full Official Criteria) and take the AQ Test:
http://asplanet.info/index.php?option=c ... &Itemid=63

Hello, and welcome to Wrong Planet!

I can relate with you on those points you mentioned, because I experience most of them...

Welcome. I hope you'll feel at home here.

Welcome to the Wrong Planet, fellow-traveler jpiesta.

To WrongPlanet!! !

i feel the same way, so my guess you have aspergers and perhaps social anxiety disorder. I read on another post that someone said were the normal people and the regular people are the ones who are screwed up. They seem to have more issues than we do. We might not be running on all thrusters, but i feel like i make a lot more sense than the normies! I apologise, do not want to offend.

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Hi jpiesta, welcome.

Regarding this part of your post: which diagnosis fits you, if any, does not determine whether you are beautiful or insane. Beauty or worth is not determined by a diagnosis, but by YOU.

I can't tell whether you have AS. It coud be, but there are other disorders that can cause social problems. In my opinion, you are welcome to this community, since formal diagnosis doesn't matter. However, if you do want an official opinion, you need to consult with a psychologist or psychiatrist. Again, however, there is no reason to think of yourself as just insane.

Changlinggirl is right only a Psychiatrist can diagnose. If you see one, they will just ask you some background questions about you and your history of growing up. From your answers and reactions, they will know. Good luck, and welcome to the site. I am new too!