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15 Oct 2009, 7:19 am

Hi everyone! My name is Tara, I'm 28 yrs old and my hubby is 30. We've been married for 3 years, but I've only found out about his Aspergers in the last six months. It's something he had mentioned several times in passing, but I thought he was using the term Autism to excuse his often terribly mean behavior.

Now that I've started researching Aspergers, I feel awful for ever suggesting that he was misrepresenting his issues. I have told him as much, and also that I'm here for him and will try to be 100% supportive from here on out.

Our relationship has been incredibly difficult at times, but having a name for what he has (and thus, a lot of resources to turn to) has helped tremendously. I'm trying to learn all I can, and connect with others that might understand what we are going through.



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15 Oct 2009, 7:21 am

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15 Oct 2009, 9:49 am

You might find the book, "An Asperger Marriage" by Gisela and Christopher Slater-Walker (forward by Dr. Tony Attwood) a worthwhile book to read. Check it out at your local library or if you prefer, you can purchase a copy on any online book store.

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15 Oct 2009, 10:29 am

It's nice to meet you, Tara - welcome to the Wrong Planet Community.


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15 Oct 2009, 12:34 pm

Very difficult at times?
...Do realize usually for every single -, there's a + normal couples don't have.

You two may enjoy blessings you don't even know about!
Just for the heck of it, compare your good stuff to other couples..The results could be fun.



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16 Oct 2009, 6:03 pm

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18 Oct 2009, 5:49 pm

Hello and Welcome to WrongPlanet.

You'll probably find a lot of good advice here, particularly in dating and relationships.

You might also want to have a browse through my blog (see my footer), as there's a lot of good stuff on relationships there. In fact, if you click on the Relationships (right hand panel) subject on there, you'll get more info on things that have worked for me and my wife.

Good luck.


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20 Oct 2009, 12:25 am

I am new, too, been married 5 years to a man I never realy understood until his 15 year old son got the diagnosis, and then in researching HIM, realizing my hubby has it also...

Not an easy go of it, is it?

I wish you the best, and am here for anything you'd like to share. Here, on the forum, or private message.

Hang in there, be kind to yourself.

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