As I approach my 64th birthday, I have come to find out that I might suffer from Asperger’s Syndrome or some related condition. I have always had trouble in social situations; I get very flustered, and I can definitely hog the conversation, if I can manage to get one started. Amazingly, my wife and I just celebrated our 26th anniversary, but it was not by trying to be normal. In certain situations, I can be somewhat fearless and take extreme risks.
I now realize that I got my two major jobs quite by accident, where interviewing skills were not required. As a technical analyst suffering from Asperger’s Syndrome, I do not think I could get another job, considering that employers have gotten so particular of late. I totally retired after being laid-off from Boeing in late 2002.
I used to suffer from a crippling form of stammering, but that no longer plagues me. I solved this problem by changing my gender. I finally realized three years ago that I was transsexual. Using my technical and analytical skills, and lot of support and advice, I function quite well as a transwoman in all public situations, except those few situations where my wife forbids me.
This has never made any sense before, because I could not figure out how a shy, introverted techie could manage something potentially embarrassing as switching genders. However, I feel that my social ineptness really left me no options. I could function socially not at all, or at least in a mediocre fashion as a transwoman.
When people see me as a transwoman, they fill in all sorts of blanks in the wrong way. Suddenly, I am told that I have become extroverted, which is not true.
I have been going to church for the last four years, but I have not gone to a service as a man in over a year. If it were to be put up to a vote, my congregation would vote for the woman-mode, since I am far too cranky as a man.
I do not just have one or two consuming interests, although my wife says that I have been deep into Process Theology in recent months. This form of religious philosophy has allowed me to reconcile my personal views with reality, and it gives me the tools to question the observed irrationality that so-called “normal” people use to justify the stupid things that they do so well.
Romana Annette