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A friend of mine told me about her Dad being ill and going to hospital. "The problem is," she said, "he wants to be strong, so he'll never admit to any weakness or accept any help". And it occurred to me that the strongest people of all aren't really like that. Nobody is perfect. To be truly strong you have to accept your own faults and work around them, with help if necessary.

For example, imagine a graphic designer setting up his own business. He's great at thinking creatively but hopeless with figures. If he acts tough and denies that there's a problem, and does all of the books himself, his venture could fail. If, however, he recognises the risk and seeks help from, let's say, his more numerically-minded brother (or he could take evening classes, or simply hire an accountant), the business will flourish.

Being strong involves knowing your weak points and allowing for them.

Good point. I must be careful though of callin limitations weaknesses. Actually limitations are just things I may not be good at but could be if I am motivated enough. It is a matter of interest for me. If I do not wish to know how to get along with certain people I do not consider that a weakness.

As a matter of fact, the way I approach life because of my wiring is a better way than "normal" people....

I have read three of your posts(no.Im not a stalker )...and I think I notice a common theme...Perhaps I am just "projecting"...I should BE a projecter...I do it so much(my form of empathy)but....it seems like you are wondering if its OK to be Nonsocial?I know when I was involved with AA and in counseling I felt alot of pressure to socialize....I tried it...didnt care much for it...so now I dont force myself and I am much less depressed...my conclussion is that being true to myself is more important to my mental health then trying to conform to others concept of mental health...ie...having large social network,significant other...etc...I get more out of doing my "art" and hobbies and reading and when I want human contact ....here it is!For me it is a perfect fit.I do have a significant other(and four wonderful furry friends)and thats enough for me...maybe that will change and I will feel a need to reach out in the 3D world....but it will me my choice, not some stereotype of a "normal life" as designated by the same "professionals".

Thanks Krex. I have through life circumsatnces found myself living as you do. Maybe in someway I created my current reality without even knowing it.

I really like the solitude and not talking, it seems to quiet the auto-thought that has I've obssesed about for so long and I guess because my activities are counter to what people say is healthy I am looking for not permission but affirmation.

Throuh your post and the short time I've been on this site I have found that.

What kind of hobbies do you have?

My furry friends are three cats, peper, Nut and Yoda.

Hi!

I've known there was something different about me as long as I can remember. In the last year or so I've finally done a lot of reading to try and find something that matched my 'symptoms', and when I found information on AS, I was stunned at how much sounded like me. Random things that I thought were just personal peculiarities (obsessions, stimming, etc) I've learned are in fact connected with AS.

My life long "hobbie" is reading....I love books and learning.....having that "aha" moment is like a braingasim...What I am reading or "researching" changes...In third grade it was witchcraft and insects,I just love to look at bugs!I collect rocks and have a polisher...I live in MN so there are alot of agates in my area and on the North Shore of Lake Superior...like fossils also.I have very poor memory so I am not one of those "genious" aspies who can recite the scientific term for everything but I love the asthetics of anything natural...animals,plants,bugs,rocks,trees,bones,feathers,fur...I was very interested in Native American culture because I can feel the "spirit" in these things...they speak to me.(nonliterally).In college I was a psyc major(trying to fix my life long depression...didnt work)...and women studies trying to understand my gender confussion(always hated girly things and wanted to try and improve my self-esteem by imbracing the "feminine"...didnt work)...Had a brief love affair with Existentialism and Russion Authors(those are some wordy guys...)Life long interest in spirituality....starting with Christian Science and ending with Buddhism with a Jewish Fetish(I think Dustin Hoffmen and Spock are responsible for that anomily)General passion for Asian art,martial arts(Im to shy to take classes,maybe someday)Like Yoga but out of practice for a few years...interest in holistic mediine for about 10 years....mostly vitemens(which I forget to take and hate to swallow)and herbilism.....I have tons of books about this but problems remembering names or being able to defferenciate between plants....study for hours but am "plant blind" when I go out to search for species....so there goes the dream of being a "good witch"...lol

I have tried drawing....have a need to "create" but no talent for this, so I have to make do with beading,picture colloges(sp?)refinishing and building furniture from dumpster dived and thriftstore
wood.I love the whole process of stripping it,creating color stains,colloging the wood and varnishing....
I really like making clay,wood and bone sculpture...add some fur and feathers , really fun...
My latest hobbie has been AS...I spend way to much time on this site...but I figure I am in a new cognitive processing phase....and as I have found...."this to shall pass"


what are your hobbies?(see,I can be socially recipricle...lol)

books,rocks,thrift stores,dumpster diving,history,psychology,holistic medicine...?! with the exception of the dumpster deal, I am drawn to all these things. I uess my hobbies and reading center around processes. I mean the way things work and the processes involved not necessarily the final product. I am facinated by the path, not the destination. Or better said for me the path is the destination.....sort of.

Reading is number one. I may be considered a compulsive reader I see, therefore I read. I read about everything.

Wood carving is my next favorite. Usually saved for the fall and winter. Nothing like free form carving sitting by a fire on a winter night alone. I must say though i find my self carving symbols that seem familiar somehow but I've never seen them before. Primal, american Indian, possible egyption...sort of

My main driving in life right now is Taoism, not the religion but more the metaohysics of the natural universal forces and the laws that govern them. Has and will continue to hold my intrest for some time.

Are you familiar with Chi Gong, Reki, accupuncture/pressure?

I have thought about wood carving but I can be very dangerious around knives....cut myself enough cutting up veggies for stir fry...I love the feeling of sculpting clay...very theraputic...but it really sucks the moisture out of my hands and I cant stand rough skin,so I dont do it as often as I would like.

The only thing I know about Tao is the "Tao of Pooh"...for some reason,the concepts are to vague for my brain...I like..."dont push the river,it flows by itself"...as a control freak this is against my nature but how I wish I could be...My idol growing up was "kung Fu"...the TV show...I wanted to be him so badly.....have come to the conclussion after years of trying to shape myself into that kind of person...that I am not going to be that person in this life time...trying to turn a lama into a tiger...just not going to happen...Perhaps if I had the kind of guidence that "grasshopper" had I would be able to get into touch with my tiger or lama "nature"...I do believe all things are inter woven...but I can not do this process through intellectual processing.....oh well,

I have never done the acupuncture thing..though I believe in its effectiveness...I am either to cheap or to poor(never sure which)I do some pressure points...especially relaxation point at back of skull and around eye socket area....love hand and foot massaging for over all body health...most of my reading has been about Hatha yoga(most of which I have forgotten...major memory broblems...use it or loss it)
Fascinated by the "chemistry" of herbalism...but dont have the brains for this either...I have a 120 gigabite curiosity but only a 40GB brain ....bummer

Not really a bummer, just you. Curiosity is a great thin but if I had to understand all I am curious about that would not be good. I take alot of things on others experience unless I decide that a certain topic really reqires a close look/see, then I bring the mind to bear on it until it intuitively makes sense...

Taoist teaching emphasizes knowing oneself, sounds like you are well on the way to that.

I use the same accupresure points that you mentioned on a regular basis. It helps relieve my anxiety and self conciousness.

Have heard people mention Hatha yoga, but don't really know what it is, maybe you can tell me what you know.

So, when you sculpt, what are you making?

sculpting....I make masks of humanoid faces and "naughty" sculptures of people in intimate acts...coital and post coital(sp?)...I think I made the sculptures because I missed someone I had been involved with and wanted to relive the experience...it did seem to help(along with some poetry)I think the creative process is a good way for me to get "in touch" with emotions I have difficulty"feeling"...


I hit a brick wall with the Hatha Yoga...I could never get the breathing right and became frustrated with that element....my limited memory of the principle of this practive itself is that by strengthing and stretching the body, you would be able to sit in meditation pose with less pain=less interference of body messages..."gotta cramp...my back hurts"and could transcend the physical realm to tap into the
spiritual elements of ...whatever....they yogi themselves seemed very adept at cleansing their bodys(some could do enamas just squatting over a bowl of water and sucking the water inside...try to keep that image out of your head)they would use a cloth sucked up their nose and out the mouth to clense the mucus out to breath better(maybe that was my problem...never tried this,but had friends who did it with necklaces to get free beer at parties...pretty impressive)Anyway(what a wordy f%&r I am)....
someday I do plan on returning to this...right now..there is to much cat hair and bunny pellets on my floor...the idea of getting down there to stretch is not very relaxing....