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Hi Aussie Aspies

I'm a 30 something aspie woman. Only last week I decided to face up to the truth after years of confusion, anger, depression and being a perpetual misfit.

As a toddler I was one of the first Aussie kids diagnosed with ADD and treated as such but I remember adults suggesting autism. I had special learning classes in high school. As an adult I explored ADHD, OCD and high testosterone levels as causes for my problems until people started talking about AS.

I did a self check on female aspie characteristics and matched 98%. Slap in the face!

As I'm well into middle age, I've learnt to adapt and it is not a shock or any great relief but I am concerned for my fiance.

We do not have enough money to see a specialist but I would like him to feel at ease. I feed off his energy and we cannot afford to have unneccessary relationship stress if we are to beat the odds and make our marriage last.

Anyway, that's my story and why I'm here.

I'm happy to join discussions and connect with other aspies and aspie partners who can share advice and experiences so I/we don't need to learn the hard way.

Cheers

( I also posted this at the Aussies thread)

Hi and welcome. I'm relatively new here too and also a 30-something woman recently diagnosed. I don't know if you're aware but if you discuss it with your local GP you can get a referral to a psychologist and it will be covered under Medicare. I did this late last year for depression and it was through my counselling my Asperger's was diagnosed. I now see a psych who specialises in it and it's mostly covered under Medicare. I only pay $20 out of pocket. For me it's important to be seeing someone because "Dr Google" and self diagnoses/help is overwhelming. Just letting you know in case you weren't aware.

Also you're not middle age! Haha! Because that would make me around middle age too and I still think/act like I'm a teenager. Plus technically since I don't know the date I will die it's impossible to calculate my exact middle age.

I'm a little older than both of you, what I consider to be "middle age" and also a female aspie.
I wasn't diagnosed until this year, have been married for many years. At first, my husband didn't understand what the diagnosis was or how it might impact our relationship. I've done a lot of reading as has he and we've done a lot of talking and he is very supportive now, we even joke with each other about whether something I'm doing is an "aspie" characteristic and I kid him about "NT" traits.
I hope all goes well with you and your fiance.

Thank you Crazy Girl and Websister. I didn't know about the medicare help. I will definately be using it now I know it's available. And thank you both for the "middle age" quips! Sometimes I take life too seriously

Glad to meet you, tonin - and welcome greetings to the WP forums.

Welcome to WP!

Ages?

Let's see now. There are several. We have a calendar age, a biological age, a mental age and a spiritual age. And these are all usually VERY different!

Hi Tonin!

I'm new here as well. I'm a 30-something NT mama to an aspie boy, and wife to an "undiagnosed but very likely aspie" man. We also have 2 other sons. We will be celebrating our 14th anniversary on Thursday. It can be done, but takes time and effort from both partners...but then again, all marriages take that. According to Tony Attwood, a successful NT/Aspie marriage has 3 requirements: 1) that both partners accept and understand the diagnosis. 2)That the Aspie partner has a support person, a therapist or community support person to help him/her navigate the relationship and 3) that the NT partner has a support system for the emotional support and social needs that may not be able to be met by their spouse.

All these years, my husband and I have not had these three criteria, but we managed to hang in there somehow, though we've certainly had our difficult times. It has taken a toll on me in terms of low self esteem and depression, though now that I UNDERSTAND where his behavior is coming from, it helps. It's taken a toll on him in terms of anxiety and exhaustion and frustration. I am working on building myself a support system, and hopefully we can find him some kind of a support person for him in the near future as well.

Hi Tonin!

I'm new here as well. I'm a 30-something NT mama to an aspie boy, and wife to an "undiagnosed but very likely aspie" man. We also have 2 other sons. We will be celebrating our 14th anniversary on Thursday. It can be done, but takes time and effort from both partners...but then again, all marriages take that. According to Tony Attwood, a successful NT/Aspie marriage has 3 requirements: 1) that both partners accept and understand the diagnosis. 2)That the Aspie partner has a support person, a therapist or community support person to help him/her navigate the relationship and 3) that the NT partner has a support system for the emotional support and social needs that may not be able to be met by their spouse.

All these years, my husband and I have not had these three criteria, but we managed to hang in there somehow, though we've certainly had our difficult times. It has taken a toll on me in terms of low self esteem and depression, though now that I UNDERSTAND where his behavior is coming from, it helps. It's taken a toll on him in terms of anxiety and exhaustion and frustration. I am working on building myself a support system, and hopefully we can find him some kind of a support person for him in the near future as well.

welcome tonin !

Welcome!

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