Greetings... Newly identified Aspy (by Wife), Unhappy

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Hello All,

I've been meaning to do this for nearly a month now, but I have been wrestling with a number of feelings... My wife suggested that I might have Aspergers about a month ago. We've been having a number of fights since our marriage, not all of them due to me or to my 'condition'. She teaches 8th grade English, and has coworkers who have training identifying these manners of thought. What is ironic about her suggestion is that I have joked that I had it for a while now. Turns out I have a few good friends that have Aspergers, one diagnosed recently (and on this forum), another that is undiagnosed but who is nicknamed House by his coworkers, and a third, my Best Friend who apparently was diagnosed as a child but has not chosen to tell me this until I mentioned my situation....


Why am I unhappy? I am unhappy discovering that I may have Aspergers. Before I get to that, let me explain what I am happy to learn... I am happy to learn that I do indeed have sharper senses than many. The details I can pick up on escape many people, the beauty around me in the world, the wondrous details in music, being able to visualize in high detail... I have a very logical approach to problems unless I am upset about something and don't realize it yet (Mr. Spock is a childhood hero, and reminds me very much of my Dad). And now, the reasons why I am unhappy... I hate the idea of being marginalized because of my infirmity, of being dismissed as someone who has mental issues and is therefore not worthy of an NTs attention. I also -greatly- hate the idea of being misunderstood, that is a replay of the events in my childhood. The last detail is a blessing in a way, I have a chance to better understand myself and therefore -make- myself understood, but it damn sure ain't gonna be easy...

Thought I would say hello!


PS-- How does one change ones' screen name?

welcome diadict, hope you enjoy your stay.

Welcome to WrongPlanet

If you do indeed have AS, unfortunately there is nothing one can do to change that, but there are ways to minimise the negative effects of it through practise, generally speaking. We are not well understood - my personal aim sometime in the future is to change that. Hope you enjoy your time here

If you're speaking about changing your username at the end there, I don't believe that is possible, I'm afraid.

To WrongPlanet!! !