Does the truth set you free?

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Hello, Wrongplanet inhabitants. I have long been a lurker of the site, and decided to join this evening.

I am undiagnosed; I joined this website when I began to have an obsessive interest in ASD,, and also because I was glad to find people I could relate to, whether I am NT or not.

I am once again strongly compelled to discover whether or not I do have asperger's. I suppose, in one way, it is to relieve my conscience: despite my determination to not self-diagnose, I continuously find that I think of myself as an aspie, when I really don't like all the issues that arise from people incorrectly self-diagnosing themselves for many different disorders. In addition, while I realize that it does not excuse any of my behavior (nor do I wish it to,) I think it would give me some sort of comfort to have the diagnosis and understand part of the reason behind why I am who I am.

There is one daunting problem with this...I am highly nervous about my parents discovering it. My behavior that relates to symptoms of asperger's is why we did not get along very well when I was younger, and they essentially despise anything 'abnormal,' and I was constantly insulted for it until I learned to remain silent and how to at least not be an embarrassment.

Should I simply not bother to find out if I clinically have asperger's? I don't want to bring any attention to myself, so I am not sure if the closure is worth the cost of receiving it.

Oh, and...it is very nice to meet you all. I hope you are having a good day.

(I am in the Halloween mood...my favorite holiday!)

The truth (about having Asperger's) has set me free. The diagnosis enabled me to get help getting a job in my early 20's, as well as a note taker once at college. More importantly, it's helped me understand myself a lot better - since I have the reassurance of a medical professional that this is indeed what I have. I don't have to doubt if I really have it.

Welcome.

Welcome. The truth can set you free by helping you discover yourself and understand how you relate to the world and other people. It has made a world of difference for me, and I now see my life from a different perspective, which has helped me in many ways.

Welcome! I'm new too

For me, the truth didn't change a lot. I like having an explanation for things, so it kind of made me feel more... Secure? I'm not sure if that's the word. Anyway, it's pretty much the same. I still think the same way, and all. It's just that that question has been answered and it's one less thing for me to wonder about.

Welcome! I just joined in as well yesterday.

I don't think it will change your life, as it will not change who you are or what your personality is. But it might bring you closer to a full understanding of who you are, and maybe allow you to be more at peace with yourself (if that is what you need/seek). And it will give you certainty of course.

One can only be truly free if one knows and fully accepts oneself. So in that sense it will definitely be a step towards liberation

To WrongPlanet!! !

not if the truth is that you wake up in an already buried coffin.

not if the truth is that your space ship is in a descending orbit around a black hole.

in other aspects, truth can set one free.
if i was questioned as to where i was on the night of a murder, and if i had an iron clad alibi, then it would be silly to not tell the truth.

For me it was a simple matter of knowing what I have to deal with and what techniques are effective.

If you aren't being hampered by your condition and your coping mechanisms are working, a diagnosis is probably irrelevant.

If you are struggling to fit in and cope with your condition, then a diagnosis and treatment are almost certainly necessary.

No one can really tell you what is best for you in this case. You have to decide what you think will provide you the most benefit.

I am only in the diagnosis process myself, but can honestly say, talking to the therapist, and realising i am not alone in this, and that there is hope of stable employment, a reasonably stable life, and even perhaps more fulfilling relationships is an eye opener for me, sure i like to be alone a lot, but it don't mean to say i will be lonely, I'm already discovering strategies to overcome some of my difficulties, instead of suffering in silence, scared to be myself. that was just soul destroying. i like yourself have family that will look down on me if I'm formally diagnosed, so be it. i can't help what i am. do it for yourself, not for anyone else, from the looks of it, i think if you get formally diagnosed then you would feel more at ease within yourself. at least then its a firm place to start from regarding understanding yourself and overcoming difficult situations.

Reading these posts makes me feel less alone about some of the things I was saying in my "Awaiting Assessment" post.

I got an automated call today to remind me about my first appointment. I could still back out, but I think I'd be sorry if I let being scared cause me to always wonder instead of knowing. I'm starting to feel a little sad, though, as if I were losing something. Maybe that's just one of the feelings to be expected when going through this process.

I'm now debating what I might do once I know. If I don't have it, there's nothing to do anyway. But if I do, I don't know if I'll tell anyone or just go on as though there were nothing to tell. My girlfriend doesn't feel she needs to know if I don't want to talk about it - unless whichever answer I get upsets me. Otherwise, she won't mind knowing, but she won't be hurt if I want to keep it to myself. I'll most likely tell her if I don't have it, at least. If I do, not telling her will have nothing to do with fearing her reaction. She won't mind or judge me or anything. We'll just go on as we have before.

I wonder if those of us fretting about assessment as adults seem silly to those who've known all their lives... I hope all my worries haven't offended anyone.

And now I must pet my cat before she makes good on her threat to help me type!

Welkome to WP!

Mick