The Dino-Aspie Ex-Café (for Those 40+... or feeling creaky)

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thanks for your kind thoughts. we are home, she is resting comfortably. she has been deflated. they took the equivalent of several soda cans worth of a brown liquid out of the kid's spleen, it's off to the pathology lab for cultures, etc. we hope to know more in a couple of days.

poor kid, the anesthetic didn't work. she was awake even though they gave her the maximum dose of fentenyl. (sp?) hallucinating wildly, apparently. i warned them that we react oddly to anesthesia....

sigh.

And then there's this

http://ssd.jpl.nasa.gov/sbdb.cgi?sstr=2005%20YU55&orb=1

I hope everything is alright with your daughter, Nan!

My current news is that my fiance and I are looking to buy a house. We cannot take the University town "ambiance" anymore. My meltdowns are more frequent since games season is on. We have found a property on one acre (more like 3 quarters of an acre) which seems to meet our needs. It is in a smaller town, and the house is fortunately on a corner lot. We qualified for a USDA rural loan, so that will help with closing costs, down payment, etc. We have to pay for an inspection, though. We're keeping our fingers crossed that there is nothing seriously wrong with the property. Wish us luck!

I was hoping to fit in a bit better here than I do most places. I have been lurking around WrongPlanet for a few weeks now.

I am 41 years old and a diagnosed Aspie. I am incredibly gifted with intelligence and mental ability, while being completely crippled in social skills and intuition. I am not comfortable with emotional outbursts or drama. I have managed to survive in the world of NTs by becoming very adept at reading them and avoiding situations I know could be dangerous. This requires a great deal of effort, so I generally avoid interactions with multiple people at once. I am working on evolving beyond just surviving in the world of NTs and trying to thrive. It is a bit odd trying to carve out a niche for my uniqueness when I have spent so long trying to fit in.

I came to WrongPlanet hoping to find some people that I could relate to, but for the most part I feel just as out of place here as I do around NTs. I am not thinking of killing myself. My life is not full of drama. I am employed. I have a family. My health is ok. I am able to care for myself. I don't generally have public meltdowns. I still get depressed. I still have bad days. I still have trouble relating to people. I still have terrible trouble with tolerating certain situations that cause me a great deal of stress because I am fighting against a meltdown that will occur as soon as I can get out of sight of others, to the degree that when my control starts to wane I excuse myself to the restroom.

Being high-functioning and well-adapted at concealing my condition feels more like a curse at this point. It makes me feel like an outsider in both NT and AS circles.

Welcome, Nick! I understand how you feel - most of the place is dominated by kids, in their teens or early twenties, who are still in the "if it hasn't happened by now, it ain't never gonna happen" stage, and who insist their own unique experience of AS is the only acceptable one and all the rest of us are just faking it (for reasons that I have never seen clearly explicated - why would anyone want to fake being outcast and disregarded for the most part??).

Not so much of the "doom and gloom" around here, unless of course Postpaleo's evul muffins get loose again - we've got them pretty securely corralled behind a barrier of used coffee cups at the moment (that's their greatest terror - being dunked in coffee).

Hi
stopping by with fresh banana walnut bread for all.
(see post something that made you happy today)
If it's copacetic I'm putting Heartstrings from Very Tall by Oscar Peterson and Milt Jackson on the stereo.
Nick-Zimmerman welcome, you are most certainly not alone here.
Now taking the wise advise of my kid this morning and being quiet.

Hi Nick!
Calm is nice. Not that all of us or even some of us are able to accomplish that at all times, but it is nice. I am glad you have found coping mechanisms which sound, oddly enough, much like ours.

Hi Nick~ Welcome to WP! I don't post very ofter but I really like it here. I hope you stick around. =)

First day of Standard Time and I am coming home in the dark, rather than going to work in the dark I come home and realize I have to do something with my kitchen, basically, clean it and continue to move in to my apartment. Having a broken arm (just under the wrist, right side) the day before you move in does not a move in make. The mover put the bed up and the mattress on and I have been trying to sort out boxes, since. I unpacked enough stuff to function in the kitchen and never quite got a system down for it, yet. I need to devise a system that works.

This is my great epiphany - a system that works. Perhaps that is the secret of life, to find a "system that works".

and so I check my email and find someone has posted on the ol' Ex-Cafe' and that good warm feeling welled up in me that the Ex-Cafe was there. This is my kind of social gathering - no fuss, no eye contact, nobody talks too loud or smells objectionable or has bad breath or is drenched with fragrance. The muffins don't go to my bottom (in more ways than one! ) or appear on my thighs, I can wear any old thing and no one notices.

I hope Nan's kid is doing alright, it's been kinda quiet from her.

off to devise a 'system that works'.

Merle

Nan? Anything more to report?