After all of these years I find out it's only Aspergers.....

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Was your thanks directed to my post? If so, I'm very glad I could help! Best wishes to you and your son. If possible, I'd recommend you and him both go to the Developmental Disability branch of your local health department. Once diagnosed, sometimes there are more resources that can help you. Good luck!

Here's a video filmed last February of me riding and playing INDOORS. I have posted it two or three times on WP already the past few months, but I rather like it and hope you won't mind my posting it again here.

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it was directed at you. Thank you so much for posting again and for the encouragement! We need to keep our chins up. It's a lot more fun than running into walls. LOL!

I'm pretty sure my dad, sister, a couple uncles and cousins have it. My mom jokes about it being on my dad's side too. Back in the day, I imagine someone with AS would have been considered your typical nerdy, engineer-type and, knowing my dad, he'd certainly dismiss any such diagnosis as the psych establishment being overzealous.

Welkome to WP

Mick

Tonight my as bf of 2 and a half years broke up with me. I don't want to break up. Yes, it has been horribly, nightmarishly hard, with his as on top of the insane outside stresses on our relationship. He told me about this site. I would like to think I helped him find it, from my honest, and at the time painful for both of us, feedback on his behaviour.

He is one of the biggest hearts I know, and the best match I have ever found. ( I am crying, and my heart hurts so and cannot believe this is happening ). I put my whole life into this relationship, planning a real future for the first time.

He bought a very good as book here that I read first. He never approached me to use the exercises and this after I said I want to. All this while I am feeling, as described in said book, so beyond any saving of relationship. We did not get help until what appears to be too late. I also hurt and am in a world of frustration that he honestly can't relate/ communicate. I know I can adjust for his as, but ( here go the tears and sobbing) I don't think he wants to learn to be with the one person who still wants to be with him even after suffering the most intense hurt from his as. Becuase I know the difference between him and his as.

I've never been on a site like this, and I hope somehow to be a positive influence here.

Calling people with AS 'disabled' is quite a thing to do.

I've always considered myself superior to my peers in many aspects..
Not being able to 'fit in' in the social structure and community of this NT planet becomes less of a problem when you accept the fact that you really only want to 'fit in' to accommodate your own needs.
I've come a long way from being the pessimistic loner 12yo boy I used to be to the self-respecting 24yo I am today.

I rationalize that any 'problems' having AS causes are more the problems of NT people trying to communicate with us than us AS people trying to communicate with them.
As I read somewhere, us AS people tend to 'say what we mean and mean what we say'.. imo it's the NT people that act unnatural with all their hidden meanings, deception, flat out lies, subtlety and diplomacy.

What do I care if I offend someone with my words? Taking offence is an issue of the offended, not the offender. People would be a lot happier if they just stopped caring that much about what other people might think.

Now trying to keep on the good side of your boss or co-workers I can understand.. you have personal gain from that but other than that I talk s**t to my friends all the time and they like me for it. If they didn't they wouldn't be my friends to begin with. If someone says something stupid I call them out on it. screw social conventions. I have better morals and norms than the majority of NT people I've had the displeasure of dealing with in my life and as long as (NT) society as a whole doesn't get its act together I couldn't care less about being misunderstood.


Incidentally,

Hello, I am Frank and I am new to WP.
I was diagnosed 2-3 months ago and have been devouring book after book on AS ever since and have to say it's only made me feel better and better about myself.
I have to say though the more books I read on AS the more I start looking for AS symptoms in everyone I know... I knew my dad had AS traits ever since my diagnosis but now I'm also starting to suspect my mother and sister and my 2 closest friends.. anyone else have this?

Welcome to WP

I am almost on my sixtieth birthday and this thing has ruined my life.
Why has it taken so long for me to be diagnosed?
Years of self harm, depressive episodes, a ruined marriage, no social life and living a borderline existence only courtesy of some great kids - who probably only put up with me because I am their mum.

The only things I can talk to are small kids, my own kids, and animals.
I can't keep a job down unless it involves working on my own.
I will admit that at the moment I am wallowing in self pity. To be diagnosed is good, but so late in my life...so late.

It's the knowing you're superior and being ok with that that I miss most about the pre-diagnosis state. I turned sixty this year. It's getting on for a decade since I first cottoned on and there've been times I wished I hadn't.