I understand your anxiety about posting detailed information. I still haven't made many posts, but after lurking around WP I have been amazed at how generally polite and very interesting folks are here. Probably the best thing for you is to hang out, read the threads which are of interest, and you'll get to see names that recur, who seem to offer relevant insight / advice. Some reveal more than others. But you'll find that you can ask very specific questions, and get very detailed advice, without revealing a lot about your own personal life. Many of the experiences which led you here are probably very similar to those we've had, and that shared experience lends a bit of "camouflage."
I'm in my thirties, am also female, and recently (informally) have discussed diagnosis with my therapist. Not sure how my family would respond, although my husband's reaction was "That explains a lot!"
Note: many of us are in our thirties, are female, and have a spouse. So although this information is somewhat personal, it's also an example of what I mean by "camouflage"--you blend in a bit, because many of us fit this description. Most of us are used to standing out in a crowd (or standing out of it!), not "blending in"! Welcome to WP!