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Hey everybody! I'm new here and it's so cool! Growing up I was called names by my family like, when translated, just means I talk nonstop! It was hurtful I think. Realy confusing, these emotion things! I was a tomboy, still am even as a married woman and mother to a wonderful Aspie girl! Empathy? Yes! I have it extremely! Just never know how to show it?! My daughter might say she has a stomach ache, the way I "show" empathy is: Here, take this medicine and you'll feel better. But in my heart I am sad. What does that mean? And another thing, I love car shows! And History! But cosmetics is not on the list! Actually find it very offensive when well-meaning women (neurotypical) tell me: Do you know what you need? Or: This will look great on you! I know they mean well, and I don't hold it against them. But if I wanted advice on makeup and clothes I would ask, and it is my body-my choice. So lucky my husband understands and respects that after some years of explaining as kindly as I can. Wish there were more help for Aspies in South Africa, where we live. LOL! Wish we lived in Australia instead, near Dr. Tony Attwood. You know, the expert on AS in girls and women. See, my family was right! I talk too much! Why is that? Anyway, would be nice to get to know some members.

Fantastic that you are so happy about being an Aspie and seem to be coping well.
I live in Australia, and though we have Tony Atwood, I have to say my understanding is that the US, Canada and Europe are leaps and bounds ahead when it comes to helping those on the spectrum compared to over here.
You can still literally go from one doctor to another, to psychiatrists and psychologists, and take years to get anyone taking you seriously if seeking a diagnosis if you are on the spectrum, unless you are severely disabled, non verbal, or young.
This is a great site, but it will take a long time for the outside world to get anywhere near the acceptance and understanding you will find on WP.

Thank you benh72 for the great advice and reasurance! I'm just so happy I'm not senile! Hehe! And so relieved to not have an identity crisis anymore, cause I stopped pretending! Nice to be yourself. If other people like you, great! They've got some sence! Hehe! And I like myself, know I'm a nice person. Wish every Aspie can see just how wonderful it is to be YOU! And love yourself, to all Aspies! Aspies are wonderful, talented, exeptional people who's thinking makes sence! Well, to me it does! Hehe! So people, tell me more about yourselves! Always nice to learn about new people. And yes, we care!

Hey, welcome to WP- Good to see people embrace who they are, too.

Thanks for the warm welcome! Yes, we need to love and accept ourselves before we can even think to love and accept our loved ones. You need to know who you are and be ok with it to cope in this world and be whole. When me and my husband got married, we were both whole, we didn't need each other, but wanted to be together forever. Then marriages work out excellent. And my husband isn't even an Aspie, just very shy and very intelligent and very caring. There is hope in this world people!

Welcome to Wrong Planet!

I can really relate to having empathy but not knowing how to show it. It seems the more I feel for the person the more words escape me and the closest I can get is a ramble that may or may not help but at least throws a lot of words out there describing how I feel. I can talk a lot, too, and other times I am very quiet and prefer to listen.

Welcome

Hi everybody. I'm not good at remembering names, but to the ladie just want to say hi and so nice to meet someone that can relate to my stuff. . And the guys, also nice to meet you! Forgive me if I got it wrong, I was raised rather stereotype, which is bad. But one thing: my parents taught me good manners. And it stuck! So if you have a very young child with Aspergers, you can still teach your child good manners like thank you and please and nice to meet you and excuse me and so on. Whoever said we can't have good manners? Well, excuse me please. I just have to have Breakfast now! Hehe! Since it's morning here in South Africa. Have a nice day all!

Hi. Nice to meet you.