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So I just joined, wanted to say hi.

I'm a twenty-something dad with what I'm 99% sure is undiagnosed Aspergers. I'm going to see a doctor in the next few months and get a proper diagnosis.

I work two jobs, and draw, paint, and play video games in the free time I get. Most of the rest my time is spent raising my daughter who is one of the best things my life.

I joined because... Well, I'm not really sure what I want. I guess I'm just tired of feeling alone in my struggles. Which is weird because ususally for me interaction with people never ends well in any way. I cant even go out in public without making someone mad or getting annoyed with people. But all the same I just feel the need to not be alone with this thing. I have a wife and family and a little girl but I don't really think any of them truly understand what's going on 24/7 in my head even though, bless their hearts, they try.

Oh and happy New Year.

Welcome Omegawolf
We have a lot in common so I hope we can be a help to each other, learning how to cope with things.

One thing we dont have in common is age, I will be 49 Saturday, but we are both Aspy dads. I have a neurotypical wife and to kids a 16 year old daughter and 12 year olds son (both Aspies and anxious) My daughters 17 year old boyfriend is an Aspy also (you are not there yet, right?)
I love video games, pokemon is my favorite.
If you ever want to talk, let me know.

Welcome

My wife is NT, daughter not sure yet. She's 4 and on one hand seems to make eye contact with us and doesn't show many of the classic early symptoms but on the other has this very direct, sassy side to her that seems a bit ahead of her age, tends to sing to herself a lot, and generally tends to be a bit too forward with people in general (will approach strangers and start talking to them or showing off). All of that though may just be part of being 4.

Is you wife able to understand you much? My wife kind of understood me a lot even before I was diagnosed and more so since then.
My daughter was the first diagnosed. She flapped from an early age and had a lot of relationship issues. Her 4th grade teacher recommended we have her evaluated. When we did she was diagnosed with Aspergers and the psychologist described the symptoms and asked if either of us had the same problems since it tends to run in families. My wife and I looked at each other with that light bulb going off in our heads look. I thought "those fit me to a T.

Our son was mr social so we thought he was OK, but then he started having lots of anxiety issues and other problems. We recently had him evaluated and he is the most highly functioning of us, but he is an Aspie.

Four years old was a great age and a challenging age. Enjoy.

Hey OmegaWolf86 welcome.

hi, wolf. welcome. sounds like you are a well-rounded guy. looking forward to reading more from you.

Welcome to WP Omegawolf86! That's a nice Homura Akemi avatar you have there. I'm assuming you're a fellow anime fan?

Most of the time she understands me and then there's times where she just can't figure me out. Its complicated... I have a lot of depression, anger, self harm, and social anxiety issues and shes tried like crazy to help me out but im just too stubborn and too screwed up so shes just kind of accepted im not going to let myself be helped. I didn't find out I had AS until well into our marriage, I'm still undiagnosed and I'm not sure what she feels about it (angry, or unsure, hard to read her) because she doesn't really show me. I still love her, and she still loves me or shed have just kicked me to the curb a long time ago if she didn't. Weve just sort of... Drifted. With all the crap I've put her through I can't judge her but being a bit weary of me.

My little one used to be very social until about a year ago, she still shows enough of normal traits but more and more I'm noticing eccentricities. She does seem to be pretty empathic though, can pick up on on the parents mood very quickly. I kinda wish I could be a flu on the wall for her classes though and see how she is around her peers.

Homura Akemi is awesome. I love Madoka Magica and a couple other Animes.