I believe I have Asperger's, unsure about telling my parents

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I think that I should make something clear; I have a very poor relationship with my parents. I avoid talking to them if I can at all help it. Also, even though I hate being hugged and kissed, they make me do it anyway (because they want it), despite me having notified them of my aversion. I don't have any other relatives that I could tell.

Furthermore, my parents don't believe any quizzes I showed them. They think that I manipulate my responses to achieve the result which I desire. At one point, when I was 13, I showed to them my results for a social intelligence test. Upon perceiving my low result, my father said, 'She definitely knows how to use these to make a point!'.

I just do not feel comfortable talking to my parents about this. Even watching television shows with characters who are portrayed as ND - like Big Bang Theory, which my mother made me watch with her - with my parents causes me discomfort. (Funny story - When I was in grade 8, I recited the periodic table (in order) to my class because I was made to by my teacher. One student remarked that I was like Sheldon Cooper (whom I coincidently hate). When I related this to my mother, she exclaimed, 'What do you mean? He's socially awkward!'. She really does not want to believe that I am in any way 'abnormal'.

Sorry if I sometimes ramble. Maybe I should simply wait until I am an adult and can leave home. Suggestions?

FandomConnection,

I'm so sorry your parents don't hear you. I'm 42 and my family does the same. Sometimes they just want to stay deaf and blind to what is right in front of them. Seriously.... see if you can find SOME adult that your parents might trust (teacher or doctor) who might be willing to believe you and help you get through to your parents. If you just feel it's not an option, hang in there a couple more years and come talk on sites like these in the meantime...where you can feel you've got people who support you in this. And then go for that evaluation as soon as you become an adult. I hope it all works out for you in the end.