hi im new, looking for people in similar situation to me

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ive grown up in a house with one other NT and two ppl with aspergers..this didnt bother me until quite recently when i realised that other people have families that hug and talk and stuff. im not sure that i want to be like that anyway.

im NT myself but i got my issues and my social problems...sometimes i think i got aspergers myself..but i think it is more learned behaviour..


anybody out there like me?

i feel very alone.

welcome to WP, bets. hope you can find something here to stop you feeling so alone.

Vivi
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Hello bets. I know what you mean, but in a different perspective. I see and hear people seem so happy with their friends and/or partners, that sometimes it gets me a little sad. Perhaps it's just based on your individual relationships with people. If it will make you feel better, perhaps you can try to improve your current relationships. And I'm wondering, why do you think you have AS?

Hi, bets, and welcome.

It sounds lonely.

Is there a councillor or teacher at school that you could talk to about this? I know there are support groups for siblings (brothers or sisters) of Aspies. Maybe if you could get help in finding a group like that it would help.

BeeBee

ive done my best to see a counsellor (for other reasons, i am a self harmer and also have some kinda ED issues) but no one will help me out. im starting uni in october though and have heard that uni counsellors are usually very good.

the main reason i came here was cos i have my own personal issues, and i never really thought about or explored the bizarre family situation that surrounded them and how it may have affected me.

i dont really think i have aspies, i just have a lot of the traits of it. i am useless at small talk and general socialising and im petrified of using phones like all the aspies i know are. i hate hugging and physical stuff like that, and although i wentthrough a period of having sex with everything that moved i am now also scared to death of that. i also have an immense sense of admiration towards aspies, if everyone in the world had it things would be simpler, id like that, and id like to be able to understand my dad more by thinking like him.

however i have always enjoyed creative stories at school and hated the numbery side of things, im missing a lot of the requirements to have aspergers. i think i have just learnt a lot of behaviour from my dad.

Hi,
I was a self harmer also around your age. I grew up with a NT mother and cousins but I am sure I have aspers and I know dad does. I wish I could be of more assistance but I really don't know what it is like to be NT. If you ever want to talk about anything else like self harming feel more than free to email or PM me.

Take care,
Y

which uni are you going to, bets?

essex, i cant wait! i think moving out will help me a lot, i wana get away from my mum.

Hello there Bets - it is an interesting situation you have there. Perhaps in families where there are Asperger members, it tends to rub off on other people in the house. My younger brother has coped very well with the fact that I have a disability, but he is very mature for his age, and I image most siblings (particularly younger ones) find it all very confusing, even wondering whether they have it themselves.

If you are not sure, you can ask yourself whether you think you had any aspie traits when you were very young (e.g. speech delay). If not, and the traits are only recent, the chances are it has just 'rubbed off' on you over the years. Either way, its nothing to worry about, honest

Howdy, bets. Just to dispell rumor: not all Aspies are logic machines. Many are highly creative and I, myself, am into poetry and art.

Welcome to the board and I look forward to talking more with you. The more you talk hopefully the less lonely you'll be.

I'm not sure if I was ever diagnosed by any of the shrinks I saw when I was younger, but I know I have something. I've since learned how to be better socially, but I still lack strong friendships among my classmates who once knew me as an obsessive crybaby. Many of them are nice to me now, but I still never get invited to parties or anything like that. Being able to share loneliness is why I came here, and I'm sure it's the same case for many of us here.

thanks everyone, and no i didnt have any of the early traits, i just feel the older i get the more aspie traits i pick up..

oo and as for the creative thing, i know that, but i got the impression it was a slightly different slant on creativity..i dont know how to explain it, but the aspies i know are mostly very creative..its just in a different way...i dont how to explain at all.