Please use my nickname Draconis Lignum. I prefer not to give my first name at the moment. It is not very common and a google search would immediately show me. I do not feel comfortable with that.
I am 55 years old and live in Germany.
I have a lot of hobbies and interests: Painting, photography, working with wood and metal, science and research, sea kayaking, learning, languages, cats, gardening, being out in the nature, cooking, computer games. I knit to calm my mind. I like to collect beautiful yarn, minerals, sea shells and plants.
I am not sure if I am on the spectrum. I never thought about it before. I know that I think differently from many people whom I've met but left it at that. Recent struggles with a friendship led me to question myself and how I interact with others more than I normally do. I struggle with understanding other people. I always ask why they do or think as they do, why the world and everything. I guess this is pretty annoying in particular if I don't understand it and ask again. And again. Someone who knows how I think suggested me to consider this. Reading Temple Grandin and Schattenspringer stroke more than one familiar chord with me. Online AQ testing puts me well into the autism spectrum.
Talk with me about my hobbies and interests, architecture, nature, what sense the world makes or doesn't make and I am game.
I like Punk, Indie Alt Rock, World Music, Pagan Rock, Dub, Reggae ... Led Zeppelin, Green Day, The Clash, Dub Inc, Lord Huron, Seeed, Rising Appalacia, lots of different styles. I am drawn in to good or sad lyrics. I like to read either science fiction, fantasy or science books. I don't like the TV, radio or movies at all. I hear if an instrument is slightly out of tune and it annoys me a lot but I don't play one myself.
I like to paddle, sea kayak, mostly alone.
Not much family. A lot of artists and engineers among my ancestors. Mom died a few years ago, last seen my dad when I was 2. I have a much younger half-brother and a stepdad but no contact since a long time anymore. I am married to a guy who is very accepting and tolerant about my hobbies and interests.
I like black, have a lot of used clothing and dyed it over. Colorful clothing is limited and needs to be soft and funny.
I looked for this site after reading Neurotribes.
I have an engineering PhD and count myself very lucky to have finally found a job that allows me to use a lot of my skills, allows me to get away with some of my quirks, and most important I can work at my own pace and at a high level of independence. I lead a very small team of 2 other people, one guy who is just the most patient guy that I ever met besides my husband, and a mom of an 10-year old autistic son. Somehow, we are just great together.
Not sure about my plans for the future. Stay healthy, keep my job, enjoy kayaking, protect mother nature ... Maybe meet people like me here. I often thought that I am defective because felt wrong, other than the other folks. I am fed up with feeling wrong or not belonging.
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draconis lignum
AQ 38 RAADS-R 150 Aspie-Quiz AS 148 NT 80 FQ 62 SQ 104 and now?